Used to enjoy r/childfree, now just realizing half of it is men who don't want to take responsibility for their actions.

EmergencyShit · 2020-02-12T15:18:48+00:00

If a man is truly childfree he would have a vasectomy and use condoms 100% of the time. I don't care if "wahh I'm afraid of needles", getting an IUD is more painful and has more side effects then getting a vasectomy. If you cum and get someone pregnant its 100% your fault

Uglyoldncranky1982 · 2020-02-12T15:38:32+00:00

the CF sub strikes me as very misogynist. It's also deeply ableist. If you don't want kids, fine. Many of my friends are CF, but they don't hate children and their mothers.

LunaGoddesses · 2020-02-12T19:40:17+00:00

For CF women who don't hate children, I recommend r/truechildfree. They're tired of the misogyny and child hate of the child free subreddit.

quaintlyspoken · 2020-02-12T16:33:42+00:00

Lots of issues here and people blatantly discriminating against the childfree community without realizing what the whole of the argument that goes on there is.

Kind of like how reddit equated FDS to TRP and MGTOW.

I'm against a child being born into subpar conditions or being sired by a LVM.

Somehow people think that a man making up his mind about not having children, discussing this with his partner so they both equally come to a decision is suddenly a LVM when he sticks by all that when a pregnancy scare comes along.

A child has worth, something that breeders don't understand.

People have free will, something that breeders will ignore and demonize when it doesn't suit them.

I've had abortions before. The last one, long ago, my LVM abuser and I were in this exact situation but reversed. We both did not want to have children, we agreed that we never would, but when I did get pregnant he wanted to talk about it.

No.

I made my choice and I stood by it. My life, my choice. I was not going to consider his feefees even if he wasn't a LVM. My answer had always been no. There were many reasons besides but I left him definitely because he changed his mind all of a sudden.

I am childfree and I never want to chave children. I am not interested in being a guide to a new human being or the culture that surrounds motherhood, at all. I've done the research and I know enough about it that an informed decision has been made.

Maturity has nothing to do with allowing yourself to be reproductively coerced into having a child or not.

There are women in this world and men who are sterile or lost the ability before they ever did. They're not suddenly stunted from advancing as a human being because they didn't procreate. Thinking that way is nonesense.

Furthermore, there are a lot of shit parents in the world, pickmeishas and their LVMs, which this type of rhetoric encourages.

Not everyone wants to be or is fit to be a parent and that is valid whether you like it or not.

If a woman decides to have a baby with a man who has made expressly clear that he never had any intentions of being a father ever and was upfront about it she's a pickmeisha. The worst kind.

This whole entire scenario and thought process is pickme. It's not in line with FDS at all.

It's the dumbest thing a woman can do. You ruin your life, his life which will make your life that much worse because he. wasn't. it. sis. but you're so damn hardheaded and also the life of the child who deserves parents who always wanted them.

You are not the victim in this exact circumstance if you have been in it. It's an incompatibility and nothing more. Move tf on already and leave that pickmeisha bullsh*t in the past.

The same thing will result: you continuing to level up, mature and grow as a human being while making time to find a partner who obviously and makes it clear that they always intended to be a father and have children.

You can't play dumb on this issue. Rise or decline.

Title	Used to enjoy r/childfree, now just realizing half of it is men who don't want to take responsibility for their actions.
Author	TheOGJammies
Upvotes	94
Comments	12
Date	February 12, 2020 2:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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