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We used to think we were always at fault

June 1, 2021
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[–]Graellsiaisabellae 313 points314 points 2 (8 children) | Copy Link

It's all on the woman. We're taught that women shouldn't be bad at sex - so she needs to prove herself in bed. If the man isn't satisfied then her societal worth lowers. She's loose, or boring, or a fish. Identifiers that spread like wildfire in gossip circles.

So sex becomes a show that she puts on, where her sexual needs are at the bottom of the totem pole of priorities. She can't complain, or give direction. And then, surprise! She can't orgasm, or she isn't fully satisfied. So she fakes it - because if she told the truth then the man's insecurities would be pinned on her. She's frigid, something's wrong with her. Another set of identifiers that will bring her worth down.

Even the narrative that faking orgasms is the woman's sole responsibility and fault is pinned on her. Not on the circumstances that lead to her faking. And meanwhile the man gets to occupy his mental space and hers.

[–]talltori 23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow this comment is so real and strait up how it is, it’s sad.

And not to mention women put on cute/beautiful lingerie, get waxed, and get dolled up for that moment while the man is wearing old boxers and is as hairy as a wildebeest, I don’t mind hair, my bf is super hairy and amazing.. but when I was dating it was a big thing for my legs to be smooth. We put in all this work for a few minutes of being disappointed

[–]janeaustenfan99FDS Newbie 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sex feels like a chore

[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Apprentice 157 points158 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

she needs to be a porn star but at the same time a virgin with a capri-sun hymen.

preferably, she needs to bleed during sex so the man can feel strong and powerful and all macho and dominant.

she definitely needs to be untouched/ unspoiled and completely unaware of her beauty/ charm/intelligence.

she needs to be born sexy yesterday but able to pick up on bro cues and take the lead when they're too lazy and incapable of holding things together. when he chooses a life of gaming and streaming and hustling and balls scratching, she need not bring the bleakness of the world to the forefront (honey, there are unpaid bills and you're pilling up on the electricity bill with your endless gaming sessions!). she needs only make him grow and feel good and hopeful. and if he's depressed or fails at life it's her fault. hers and his mother's. all women's, most probably.

she needs to be his biggest cheerleader and help him "grow".

  • his penis included (haven't you heard of the incel perpetuated myth that a woman's vagina makes a man's penis grow and reach immense proportions? so if you don't make his dick grow the size of your arm, then that's on you too/s

men are disgusting.

[–]GeronimoRaggedymanFDS Newbie 54 points55 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Capri sun hymen just killed me lmaoooo

[–]kangaskhaniscubonesFDS Newbie 9 points10 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Whaaaa. Most men don’t want us to bleed...right?

[–]Equal-Ear2312FDS Apprentice 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yes they do. sadistic scrotes out there beat it to CP and rape "play".

[–]catsforfriends93FDS Newbie 283 points284 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

And he also wonders what’s wrong with her in both situations. 🙄

[–]piku003 119 points120 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

My first relationship was me always wondering why I couldn’t make him happy or match the porn he watched. Never fucking again.

[–]spacebound232 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fuck porn. I’m so tired of it. Used to think it was fine and normal (and it MIGHT be in regular consumption) but these men out here thinking porn is real and need to beat women and take a shit on the bed in order to finish. And if a woman don’t want to she’s “vanilla” like normal sex is a bad thing?!?

[–]seraphinelysionFDS Apprentice 43 points44 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Lmao, you give him too much credit. As if the thought ever even crossed his mind. 🤣

[–]Snowmist92FDS Newbie 55 points56 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I fell into a deep feeling of inadequacy for not being able to cum from PIV sex. I was compared to previous partners by some of my exs because their exs supposedly "squirted" and "always came" etc... One of them dug up a picture of wet bedsheets from his ex. Could you imagine if a woman dug up a picture of a man's jizz on her bed or something?   

I pretty much have a non-existent sex life now. Toys don't even work for me. Men have ruined sex.

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh that’s just bs triangulation sis.

Some men have no trouble making me cum from PIV- others none at all but you shouldn’t feel pressure to do it everytime we aren’t porn actresses ffs

[–]MagnfiqueMaleficentFDS Disciple 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get your testosterone checked. Toys should be 100% effective. But not all men are. Obviously.

[–]2340000Ruthless Strategist 511 points512 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

When men talk about sExUAL cOmpAtiBiLity, it's always done to bully women into sexual acts. We're supposed to barter our body in exchange for a relationship; use our sex in the hopes that it will be "satisfactory" enough for respect. Men will ejaculate into socks and tree trunks, so I call shit when such men claim women can't satisfy them🙄.

For decent people, sexual compatibility is about general compatibility. Men who are negligent, will never be compatible partners for sex, housework, finances, etc. Yes, people have body preferences, but sex is more about an emotional and psychological connection. If you're not compatible outside the bedroom, you'll never be compatible inside one.

[–]WestAtmosphereFDS Newbie 62 points63 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We have no choice but to safe hold sex as a means of protection and entry into a committed relationship a lot of the time. This is why I bet there are so many "situation ships" today - man get's his cookie for doing 0, he's satisfied, and you don't matter because he doesn't see you as a partner ... just a thing for him to use.

[–]Xiena78FDS Newbie 40 points41 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

"Ejaculate into socks and tree trunks" Holy shit I spit out my tea reading this! lmao.

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 121 points122 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Also what woman can realistically keep up with all the latest porn trends they’re into without sacrificing dignity, risking her body and him losing respect? Lol. It’s never ending

[–]AnniaTFDS Disciple 44 points45 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Men will want women who enact their porn fantasies with them and and go for everything excitedly but also that are previously virgins/low previous experience. Then women will bend over backwards to be the porn star in bed and wifey outside of bed but men's "Madonna Whore complex" strikes in and he loses respect for her after she let him do the depraved stuff he wanted and coerced her to do. Women can never win at this "game".

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 25 points26 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Because men constantly change the goal posts. That’s why it’s best to just wallet fish for benefits and not take them seriously. You’ll never win their game.

[–]Lemon_bars_addictionFDS Disciple 53 points54 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

So well said!

[–]Connect_Chipmunk_691FDS Newbie 42 points43 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow I cannot love this comment enough! 🥰🥰🥰💪💪💪

[–]ThroughthebeerglassFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's so sadly true. My ex decided to not have sex with me (and said he wasn't attracted to me at that point) as an unconscious "punishment" for me, because we kept arguing for months because HE was a dick and thought that flirting around with other women was acceptable for our relationship, although the "don't flirt around" was the ONLY boundary I put. And I kept thinking: he doesn't want me, there must be something wrong with me. Turns out he was my problem. Bye biatch

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 110 points111 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Also I hate the pressure from men to cum on demand all the time. Cos if you’re not they want to go cheat to stroke their ego :S

Tho I will say I don’t have this issue from men who actually have no problem making me do that 🤭 if you have to ask...

[–]TululahJayneFDS Newbie 34 points35 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

"cum for me, baby!" Bro, you literally just got here. 😂😂 These mfs are clowns. You think a few pumps is gonna get results? They really do watch too much porn haha

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Like wtf? They think you can just do it on demand or some shit like an icecream machine, like there’s a reason I’m getting my vibrator involved here pal- you’re cramping my style. Porn has ruined men.

[–]kangaskhaniscubonesFDS Newbie 15 points16 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I hate it! Fuck porn, seriously. Men think it’s real because they are all morons. No woman can come within two seconds of a guy sticking his dick inside her!!

Edit: to the scrote who said that’s why I am single, I am happily partnered with a guy who knows porn is not real 😇

[–]valleygirl122 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Also I hate the pressure from men to cum on demand all the time.

yup..."I want you to..." "oh, ok...well since you said so..." ;/

Cos if you’re not they want to go cheat to stroke their ego.

yep...pretty sad that their fragile ego's run their lives...and yet, they claim its NOT all about sex, or looks...when, clearly they dont care enough about the rest.

[–]PornruinedsocietyFDS Disciple 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

And the man wonders why is this not playing out like my favourite porn scene?

[–]ArcOfRedemption 158 points159 points  (26 children) | Copy Link

Fuck men.

[–]YVGNYFDS Newbie 238 points239 points  (20 children) | Copy Link

they literally have sex with McChicken sandwiches but waaaaah my gf's boobs aren't symmetrical enough mUhPeNisSsS, they should all collectively thank the stars and every deity in existence that an actual live woman lets them touch her

the sheer audacity

[–]cakewalkofshameFDS Newbie 19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wonder how much of men body shaming women is actually nothing but the man covering for and shifting blame away from his own dysfunctional, deathgripped dick he pathetically can't keep up due to all the pron he watches constantly. I bet it's very high percentage.

[–]ZayelleFDS Newbie 61 points62 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Is the McChiken thing for real? I shouldn't be surprised actually, I also heard about putting pasta in a shower glove...

[–]YVGNYFDS Newbie 85 points86 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

yes there's actual subs dedicated to men fucking fruits and all sorts of other stuff. There;s even youtubers (obv male) who make videos about the best things to fuck, he once had sex (or rather masturbated into) an ACTUAL pie on video but blurred it, they're not right in the head lmao

[–]ZayelleFDS Newbie 86 points87 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

OK. slowly fades into bushes

So concerning, on so many levels. If only they could stop pestering women and keep fucking their fruits and pipes then, DAMN!

[–]azureangel35FDS Apprentice 54 points55 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

pasta in a glove is seriously going to haunt me. like...the preparation necessary 🤢🤢🤢 wtf? do they not have active imaginations to just jerk off with? how broken are these bastards?

[–]ZayelleFDS Newbie 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know right...

[–]YVGNYFDS Newbie 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

A girl can dream :(

[–]NovemberinthechairFDS Disciple 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh god, ewwww...

[–]cakewalkofshameFDS Newbie 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

PASTA IN A SHOWER GLOVE. Aren't those things scratchy though??

[–]midwesternwindsFDS Newbie 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It's a popular quote attributed to VS model Adriana Lima, but her agent said she never actually said it.

Still, funny.

[–]ZayelleFDS Newbie 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you for the reference!

[–]WestAtmosphereFDS Newbie 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The depravity is real.

It's like the pic of the men flirting with a painting of a woman (I think from Facebook) - it's probably easy to find on google. Lol.

[–]c_a_t_ladyFDS Newbie 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't think I want to. 🥺

/s

[–]modernmedusaaRuthless Strategist 18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The vibe today, tomorrow and everyday sis!

[–]bijig 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OR she is told by the man that there is something wrong with her.

"Every other woman I had sex with had orgasms with me. So it must your fault." I have heard this from countless dudes.

[–]warinmymind94FDS Apprentice 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

20% of women cannot orgasm has to be a line of bad data and bs.

I think a lot of women have not experienced orgasm because of men that are selfish in bed.

Most of my friends haven't orgasmed because they were used as human flesh lights. I never orgasmed from a man because pounding me with little/lazy foreplay doesn't turn me on at all. Thats where I stand.

Science has a bad track record for msyogyny. They aren't even sure what female cum is made of yet and it's 2021. Give me a break.

We need to stop acting like the female orgasm is some mythical rare unicorn and start normalizing it. Break the psychological barriers that prevent it especially because they are from msyogyny.

I didn't experience my first orgasm until after I graduated college. Yall. I was over legal drinking age and already paying all these bills and I hadn't even orgasmed yet. It's awful. More women should have the joy

[–]Jenna_Rink30 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I AM SCREAMING.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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