What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?

trapichenyc · 2020-03-12T02:00:06+00:00

Guy on a 1st Date who kept firing questions. I mean firing - not conversational: "I have never been more stressed out in my life. Are you always this exhausting? '

sweatydeath · 2020-03-12T02:47:26+00:00

I don't like being mean because I get worked up and upset. But I used to fight with my brother a lot and I am pretty good at triggering people usually by throwing their projection back at them. I got so used to it I didn't realize I do it.

But my favorite is my brother used to call me a bitch. I wouldn't even be doing anything and he'd call me a bitch. So whenever he did, I would just calmly call him a bitch. It triggered him so much and I said "notice that I only call you a bitch when you called me one. So if you stop, I'll stop." He tied it a few more times and eventually stopped because getting called a bitch pissed him off too much.

My best date example is

A guy carried my backpack. for me at the end of a date. It had two very thin blankets in it. Guy: wow what do you have in here, rocks? Me: oh it it heavy. Him: yeah! Me: surprised oh Him: what? Me: I'm just surprised, it's not heavy for me.

His attitude towards me completely changed after that.

I didn't realize til I got home that I accidentally insulted his strength. But legit, my bag is Not heavy. I think he was trying to neg me and it blew up in his face.

Usual_Zucchini · 2020-03-12T02:35:48+00:00

"You are a fucking unrepentant slob." Said as I slammed the car door of my FWB's car and blocked him from my entire life.

"Have you considered getting tested for autism?" Said to my then boyfriend when I found out he'd told my ex I wasn't over him. I had dumped my boyfriend for being a loser, and he was upset and couldn't accept it and thought I was still hung up on my ex, so when he saw him, he mentioned that I still had unresolved feelings. He then could not understand why I was so mad when I found out.

"You played with my emotions and I have questioned our entire friendship. I think less of you as a person and I am not sure if we can ever be friends again." Said to my guy "friend" after he said he liked me, then took it back. This was especially painful because he knew I'd had a crush on him (which he did not return until I lost weight.)

pissed_af · 2020-03-12T03:32:45+00:00

"you're deflecting your own image complexes by insulting a random girl's appearance, but we all see through it because you're fucking ugly and she's not" nobody disagreed

gursky0 · 2020-03-12T02:13:50+00:00

Nothing yet; I've always been way too nice. NOT ANYMORE.

rainbowcatsurprise · 2020-03-12T03:02:13+00:00

“This is why you’re alone. You’re a selfish asshole. You’d rather die than do anything that doesn’t directly benefit you.”

It was only really mean because it was true.

kimadoll · 2020-03-12T06:27:54+00:00

I’m not sure what the meanest is because it takes a lot to piss me off but once you do, I see red and I know exactly what to say to make them cry because the truth really does hurt. It’s only ever men who make me that angry though.

On a lighter note, there was this loser on my Facebook not too long ago who made a post asking women to leave a selfie in the comments so he could rate them A-F...He ended his post with “Don’t get mad at what I rate you, tho.”

I was annoyed that so many women responded and were allowing this low life to rate them especially when he was no looker himself. But obviously only a disgusting degenerate would make such a post in the first place.

He rated the majority of the women Cs and Ds, maybe one or two Bs and no As. (They were all physically way out of his league). But what irritated me even more is that 100% of women responded to his rating by thanking him!! Like wtf is this shit!?

(Mind you, on top of that, his profile pic only partially showed his face.)

So, of course, me being me, I went to his FB page and looked through his photos, all of which were hideous. And I posted my favorite one of his selfies in the comments and rated him an F. He got so mad that he deleted his Facebook. Not blocked me but actually deleted it! But not before I screenshotted that bitch and posted it for all to see.🤣

It absolutely made my night. “Don’t get mad at what I rate you tho.”😘

funky_worms · 2020-03-12T02:14:15+00:00

Not really mean but hilariously awkward:

had plans to get dinner and walk to some bars for drinks with a dude. We went dutch when the bill came and the date was just all around awful?? I dressed so nice and spent time getting ready and he was dressed like a clown- im talkin dad jeans with bright yellow running sneakers. And to make things worse he was giving me bedroom eyes a few times while we were talking.

After dinner he was like “where we going next?” And i just said, “Im gonna go home. im not feeling it.” Turns out we parked next to each other and walked 3 blocks back to our cars in complete silence 😂

drslvtr · 2020-03-12T02:52:14+00:00

Not sure if mean but something very true I said to my ex husband:

"I've been much happier since you took that job and left home. I've been so alone in your company, and now that I'm by myself I enjoy life again. Living with you was so much work, I could've gotten where I am now in my career and my personal development in much shorter time."

I'd been contemplating divorce for a while then, when, he accepted a position in a different country and assumed that I would naturally follow him, dropping everything and everyone just to be with him. Nope.

WoolfMoonRoom · 2020-03-12T03:24:11+00:00

Him: sends me a dick pic that I didn’t ask for, mins after a first date: “Think you can handle 8 inches?”

(Fyi there was no attraction to him at all, I knew as soon as I sat down but couldn’t know until then cuz of OLD. HE, THO, apparently took it as a sure sign of getting laid from the mere fact that I decided to meet him off a dating app, which enraged me and disgusted me all the more.)

Me: “HAHA.”

Him: “Why HAHA?”

Me: *he’s blocked

sweatydeath · 2020-03-12T02:10:55+00:00

“I’d rather jack off”

This was after a guy asked me if we could have no-strings-attached sex 🙄

lival42 · 2020-03-12T02:39:06+00:00

“I’m leaving you and filing for divorce in the morning. There’s no-one else.”

darlin_squishy · 2020-03-12T03:22:15+00:00

"If you can't decide between me or another girl then let me make it easy for you, I drop out of the race! If I am not your first and only choice, then I don't want to be any choice. I am not an option and I am too good of a woman to put up with this shit"

This was after I found out he was messaging other women in the double digits.

So after this comment I kicked him out, moved town and started new.

He is still with this chick 3 years later.....

buddingQueenie · 2020-03-12T04:04:42+00:00

Fresh out of high school, I wasn't looking for anything in particular when I was asked out. Cool, I was given a time and place at a restaurant. I got there on time and waited.

And waited. And waited. And every second I waited, I would seethe more and more.

When he finally arrived after an hour, he said "So are you ready to go to the restaurant?" And I said "You're going. I'm not going anywhere with you." And I walked straight back to my car and blocked his number in the parking lot.

The scrote-acity.

myousername · 2020-03-12T04:32:49+00:00

Whenever a guy pushes for a low quality date I just say "no thanks, I'd rather go home, order food, cuddle with my dog, and watch Neflix alone 🐶🍲😋🍷🖥"

They usually interpret that as an invitation for them to come over, and when I say no I prefer my own company over yours, they get angry.

viennalabeef · 2020-03-12T03:10:46+00:00

I moved cross country for a job. My regular friends with benefits / ex-boyfriend hit me up for our usual seasonal romp. I told him I couldn't make it since I was a thousand miles away starting a new life. He said in disbelief, "Really? Wow. You couldn't even say good-bye? Couldn't even let me know?". I said, "You weren't a factor."

It felt amazing.

edited for grammar/format.

boooooooooooooooooo · 2020-03-12T02:56:50+00:00

After we broke up I said he was an abusive entitled little boy and a piece of shit. And I said "I'm glad that I'm mainly a good memory for you, but the feeling is not mutual."

I am way too fucking nice. And I never get the snappy comments in the moment.

This-Register · 2020-03-12T03:00:53+00:00

I told a guy to go suck him mother before, kinda helps when you have the "dread and terrible" Jamaican stereotype( I am Jamaican) and the accent to boot. 🤣

Pink_Pollyanna · 2020-03-12T03:01:45+00:00

I got into a heated argument with my boyfriend at the time over some directions. He just wouldn’t listen to me at all and I was frustrated. Our arguing stopped once I was proven right and he said “Sorry. I’m dumb.” I told him, “That’s the smartest thing you’ve said all day.” His two friends in the backseat were laughing lol

CSardothien_1 · 2020-03-12T03:33:28+00:00

‘You were a rebound.’ Sorry not sorry.

JoanHollowayWannabe · 2020-03-12T04:08:44+00:00

Once a guy I wasn't interested in dating further wanted to know why. So ridiculous. I got so fed up with the whiny questioning, I finally gave him a very diplomatic answer.
Me: You're not an intellectual.
Him: So you think I'm dumb? I'm not smart enough?
Me:..................*crickets*....................

2020-03-12T04:49:13+00:00

Not me, but my mom sent my dad the link to an Apocalyptica song where the lyrics say “If you were dead or still alive, I don’t care.” Then she told him nobody would come to his funeral. It’s been some months and he’s still quite hung up on it.

xeropteryx · 2020-03-12T08:33:27+00:00

Upon being told he still wants to be friends: "I'm not your friend."

Novemberinthechair · 2020-03-12T13:03:17+00:00

An older, delusional man insisted we have a fling. I said, "Your married."

He took that as encouragement. "But if I wasn't?" He asked, expecting an ego stroke. I got mad at his audacity

"I'm not attracted to you at all, and you're too old."

bornlippy73 · 2020-03-12T06:11:36+00:00

In college these guys who were in my “friend group” were talking about my roommate who made out with one of the guys in the group a couple weeks before but moved on and was dating another guy (not one of them!). They were talking about her right in front of me... and one guy in particular, didn’t really know the girl, but was trying to be one of the big boys and called her a slut and all kinds of slut shaming language. I couldn’t take it anymore so I told Kenny (ugh still hate that name!!) to “shut the hell up, focus on his acne instead of other people’s lives. And to go fuck himself because no one else ever would.” I walked away shaking and then I felt bad because it was harsh, but whatever, I still DGAF seriously those guys were losers.

ivy176 · 2020-03-12T07:30:34+00:00

Oh gosh... my ex husband was super abusive and called me a btch, cnt, asshole etc regularly. He was also physically abusive, so after all that, I'm sure I said many choice words.

It's hard to remember, really. I wasn't as cruel as him, I didn't stoop as low as he did but I yelled at him sometimes. Well it was more like loud crying/shrieking lol.

I guess the most hard hitting things would have been:

"I'm not your wife, I don't feel married, I will never be your wife no matter what any paperwork says. You are nothing to me now. There is nothing left to salvage."

"When I said I wanted a divorce, I meant it. It's over".

"I've developed feelings for someone else and I intend to start a relationship with him"

"When you find someone you really love one day, you'll understand how I feel towards him. You'll let go of our "relationship" and realise it was nothing special." (12 year relationship)

"So much for being a "changed man", you're still the same person you always were - lazy, entitled and hopeless".

There is SO much more I could have said that I didn't. He'll never know how I really felt and I wish he did, but I was the bigger person.

If I was completely honest, I could have said he's morbidly obese, ugly, disgusting teeth, weak jaw, fat baby face, round dopey eyes, scruffy, stinky, pale scarred up looking dry dick, dick looked tiny compared to his body, that he's repulsive, that sex was always so bad and he didn't turn me on, that he's a delusional narcissistic pig, that he never deserved me, that I knew I didn't want to marry him before we got married but felt guilted into it, that he was a chore to me, that I only got involved with him because I was young and desperate and stupid, that he means nothing to me now, that I have no respect for him, that he's a sluut, that he's hollow and empty, that he's a liar, that he's a gaslighter and manipulator, that he doesn't compare to my new man even slightly, that now I know how it feels to be actually attracted to someone, that the thought of ever being with him in the past makes me cringe, that I'm too embarrassed for people to see old photos and know that I was ever with him, that life was shit in every way with him, that he gave me ptsd, that he's the most unchristian christian I've ever known, that he's so weak, so immature, so pathetic, a woman hater, a redneck american wife beater, unoriginal, common, not that talented, no ambition, and a big fat angry baby. That the only purpose he served was to show me how amazing another man could be and how hot I could get for another guy. That occasionally I look at my partner's far bigger dick and think back to my dead bedroom shitty ex marriage and think to myself "mmmmm glad I didn't miss out on this amazing cock, God he's 100% hotter and sexier in all ways, mmmmm" and I just can't possibly get any hornier.

Sorry, graphic, but that's how I truly feel and what I'd have said if I was like him. But I'm not, so I rose above and said nothing of those things.

burnerbabee · 2020-03-12T11:07:14+00:00

My husband once opened up that he had a developmental disability and I said, oh, I can see that. Apparently he was joking (ha?) and his sociopathic narcissistic ass never ever got over it. It pleases me to this day and it wasn't even intentional! Sue me for being understanding lmao

Time_Barracuda · 2020-03-12T02:50:19+00:00

To my ex husband moments after he told me he was leaving me for someone else: "That's what I get for marrying trash" and " I'm GLAD those kids bullied you in school!" Yeah, not a lot of begging went on that day.

ironymaiden87 · 2020-03-12T11:50:12+00:00

I told him "you're squandering your privilege" because he is an intelligent white male from a wealthy family and I was sick of him doing literally nothing but smoking weed and playing computer games all day every day while I paid for all our food. I came up from nothing and worked my ass off to get where I am and he leeched off his parents for 30 years and still had the audacity to feel sorry for himself.

Anyway. He cried and I said I was sorry. But I wasn't and never will be because I was right.

agatha-burnett · 2020-03-12T10:29:45+00:00

I didn’t mean to hurt his feelings I was honest and meant to help him improve and told him: ‘you’re not just far from who you could be, you’re far from who you think you are’.

surviveIIthrive · 2020-03-12T12:05:11+00:00

“You’ll never find anyone better than me.” And I meant it too! Lol. I was way out of his league, but I was young and dumb.

This was after 6 months of his hobosexual ass basically living with me straight from his sister’s basement. It was never official but before I knew it he was basically living with me. While acting like he didn’t understand the concept of rent and bills. We had to split the groceries 50-50 and the rest he played dumb. So finally when I had enough and told him to get his shit and go back to his sister’s basement, this pos went into the fridge and started cutting cheese in half and splitting kale, because it was 50-50 and by God he was gonna take his half. While he was distracted doing that, I took my keys off his key chain. He didn’t take all his crap that day and came back the next day while I was at work. When he looked at his key chain and realized he didn’t have the keys anymore, he called me and I swear he was choked up!! Lmao, he acted like I was his momma kicking him out of his home!

Radtron3000 · 2020-03-12T02:44:44+00:00

As much as I'd love to indulge in shit talking certain men, this is just gonna feed the trolls. I keep getting DMs by men that think they're being outrageous and controversial with off-color descriptions of their bodily functions. Real lame, as I can easily 1-up with something decidedly more acerbic and repulsive, in word play alone. Yaaaaaawn. Stop being so damn boring. Go fuck a Fleshlight filled with razors boi.

FodderFigureIllushun · 2020-03-12T13:25:53+00:00

The best response is removing yourself without a word. Silence.

Lalelolaleelo · 2020-03-12T03:22:07+00:00

Today? This

Not messed up just straight up.

iasminag · 2020-03-12T16:52:53+00:00

“You’re never going to be the image you project. You want people to think that you have dignity and honour but in reality, you are just like your father.”

elliebelle12 · 2020-03-12T16:33:38+00:00

To my ex, and father of my daughter, whom he does not deserve: "I'm not attracted to wimps who are scared to upset their mother, and therefore allow her and your pathetic sister to hurt your partner and your child. I'm not into whiny little cry baby bitches, I like real men. Find somewhere else to live."

And a few months later, to the man who made multiple fake facebook profiles (because I blocked him repeatedly) to try and get me to fuck him, then be his friend, then go on a real date, then fuck me again, and tried to entice me away from the man I'm seeing by giving me the line that he "can go hard for 20 minutes straight" : "20 minutes is a fucking quickie, what a waste of an evening. I'd probably need therapy after that kind of disappointment, no thank you" he told me I was cruel, and he was better off without me. Thankfully he has not contacted me via a 5th profile. I think I hurt his ittie bittie feelings enough that he won't bother me again... Or at least, I hope so 😂

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2020-03-12T16:55:36+00:00

“You are a pathetic, broke, old man. And you are dead to me”

2020-03-12T22:07:57+00:00

Guy: "You're a whore."
Me: "And yet you couldn't pay me to bang you. How pathetic are you?"

Queen_Anne_Boleyn · 2020-03-12T15:36:58+00:00

A guy asked me for pictures of my "tiddys and vagene" I said "I'd rather go lick doorknobs in Wutan China.

Maisiebr · 2020-03-12T09:13:33+00:00

You're a little worm crawling around desperately trying to avoid conflict.

AquaRetro · 2020-03-12T13:40:47+00:00

"Nah. We are just completely different people. :)"

Blocked

redfarmmmmm · 2020-03-12T18:14:31+00:00

I told my ex who’s been abused “ no wonder why you’re like that. Because you’re raised by fucked up parents. Good luck with that. And next time tell your new gf of your childhood abuse. Abused people abuse others. “ then I ghosted him.

WorkingOnMyself01 · 2020-03-18T02:19:14+00:00

Burn in hell.

Title	What the meanest thing you’ve said to a guy who deserved it?
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Date	March 12, 2020 1:55 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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