I’m getting close to being 40 and my whole life I feel like there’s been this huge rush to find a husband and start a family because as a woman, I have limited amount of time before I can’t get pregnant anymore. This had led me to dating LVM for fear of running out of time and options. Men don’t live like this though. They never perceive time as running out, in fact, they act like they have all the time in the world. They also have way more high value options than we do, and therefore, they take a much longer time to even start thinking about a commitment. How freeing is that? Never having to worry about time, or getting old, or ever running out of options. I want to live like that too. We all already know ‘the wall’ is bull shit. And I have pretty much changed my mind on wanting kids. So what is the big rush for?

I started thinking about this when I started making plans to do more traveling. I have a few trips planned over the next couple years, including my first overseas trip. I’m vaccinated, I have money saved up, it’s time to go to all the places I’ve always wanted to.

One thing about me is that I love to flirt and I love being flirted with. I don’t care if it doesn’t lead anywhere and I don’t do casual sex, it’s just fun to do a little innocent flirting here and there. I love meeting new people and have been feeling excited about meeting new attractive people in different places. But then I started wondering ‘what if’ I met a guy now before I start my travel adventures? I wouldn’t be able to flirt with other people guilt free.

And then it dawned on me... what would an attractive man in my position do? Probably the same thing they’ve all done to me... lead me on without ever making it official because he’s got all the time, all the options, and so many opportunities to do new things and meet new people. Well I do too now!!! I don’t intend on leading anyone on, but I plan on staying single because I want to be able to do whatever I want and not feel any guilt. Living like this and having this kind of mindset is sooooo much more liberating. I know it took me a while to get here but I’m so much happier now than I’ve ever been.

I don’t want anymore wasted opportunities. While my ex was cheating on me there were sooooooo many other guys I could’ve been talking to or flirting with, but I didn’t know he was cheating and so I decided to be loyal. Fuck that. Now that I decided to think like a man I have no fear that any such thing like that will ever happen to me again. Fuck fear. Fear is what holds us back and keeps us in control. Men dont live like that I refuse to do it myself anymore. It’s time to take control back. I’m sure all of this probably seems really obvious to some people, but not worrying about what’s going on in my romantic life is kind of a new concept to me. Just thought I’d share in case anyone else is in the same boat as me. Anyway... stay safe out there!! ❤️❤️