What's FDS opinion on prenups?

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2020-01-08T17:30:54+00:00

I want a prenup because it would protect ME as well as him. In fact, I'm going to insist on it.

azngirl7689 · 2020-01-08T17:25:58+00:00

Make the prenup work for you. It doesn’t have to be bad.

sweatydeath · 2020-01-08T17:35:43+00:00

I'm definitely getting a prenup and I refuse to marry without one. I recommend ensuring that BOTH parties have their lawyers review it, else it could be overturned in court.

tramadololol · 2020-01-08T18:17:30+00:00

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Silky_Goldfish · 2020-01-08T18:11:25+00:00

There is no universal answer to this one, because it highly depends on your country, your finances and whether either of you have children from a previous marriage.

Personally, my fiancé and I won't be getting a prenup. Neither of us have any debt or children, we have similarly paying jobs and we are both fine with the marriage and divorce laws in our country.

cherieblosum · 2020-01-08T18:52:24+00:00

I would get one to protect MYSELF.

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dackaroo · 2020-01-08T17:42:56+00:00

If it's in your favor, yes. If it isn't, then no.

MelatoninNightmares · 2020-01-08T19:18:12+00:00

In my area, prenups are usually only enforced if - 1, they're consistent with the law and established precedent (read: they're fair and not excessively punitive) and/or 2, they're not contested.

Which means that they're really not necessary for the majority of people. If either partner is coming into the marriage with significant assets or debts, is expecting a large inheritance, collects valuable stuff as a hobby, things like that, it can help a divorce go more smoothly. If you ever want to be a SAHM, or marry someone who earns a lot more than you, it might not be a bad idea to get a prenup where your spouse explicitly agrees to 50/50 division of assets and alimony. Even though it's the law anyway, being able to prove that he already agreed to it might help if he gets nasty and tries to fight it.

But aside from those specific situations, it's just not really necessary for most people.

PlatyupsCommittee · 2020-01-08T19:34:28+00:00

An added note to complement everything everyone else said:

EVERY marriage comes with a plan about how assets will be split in the case of divorce. Without a custom prenup crafted by the couple, that plan is simply made by the state instead of by the couple.

Everyone getting married should understand the laws about how assets are split in case of divorce in their locality. With that information, they can decide whether the state's "prenup" is suitable for them, or whether they want to craft their own together instead.

In the case with my husband, after careful consideration, we liked the state's "prenup" and went with that.

And as others have already mentioned, if divorce happens, a custom prenup will only be enforced if it is deemed legally sound. That's why, if you have a custom prenup, you should both have your own individual lawyers make sure it's a solid one. Never try to do a prenup without lawyers, and never do a prenup if only one of you has access to a lawyer.

gigababejfl · 2020-01-08T19:31:38+00:00

I believe in them and even though it would likely be me that's the protected one, I don't see myself asking for one. Not that I would recommend this to others but just the same as I would want a richer partner to not step to my face with one, it just takes so much to be the man I'd bet my life on that by the time I place that bet, the prenup is just noise I don't care to introduce.

Someone quote me if I ever get married and fucked over.

Title	What's FDS opinion on prenups?
Author	Distinct-Raspberry
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Date	January 8, 2020 5:53 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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