Porn. It's that simple if you break it down. It's fed to them between 10-14 (if not sooner) and scientifically proven to decrease the grey matter in their brains - this is what controls decision making, memory and higher functioning (the prefontal cortex: https://fightthenewdrug.org/study-shows-brain-structure-changes-porn-consumers/).

80%+ of porn portrays violence against women. Pornhub has more downloads and traffic than Amazon, Google & Walmart combined daily. We have a systemic, societal problem, and that's a big deal. Women are learning and waking up and FDS is helping to pave the way.

We are no "femcels" or whatever. Men love to wrap narratives and words around things they decide to give meaning to as they operate from rigid ideologies that are a front for their fragile and insecure egos. And you know what, I totally get why! If I were brainwashed into enjoy choking, hitting, spanking and degrading men in sex, I certainly would try to tell myself that it's no big deal it's just fantasy while I continue to further gaslight myself and compartmentalize the fact I really despise men deep-down and they're a bunch of idiot child-like sex-crazed lunatics who would rather eat out Stacy than be treated well by a good woman like me!!!

It literally boggles my mind the amount of self-gaslighting and projection that comes out of these fools. But I've learned to not feed pearls to swine, the pigs just want you in the ring to get you dirty. Don't, don't do it. You're worth more.

Patriarchy has certainly been around for centuries but never to the extent we're seeing now - the lazy, impulsive, forgetful, low-functioning males in society. Ladies, it's not "toxic masculinity" - I think that gives too much credit. They are sheep. Sheep to the slaughter of their own system. It's OK to walk away. It's OK to say no. Damn, it is RIGHT! Your energy, your worth, it matters to your Maker!

So take caution with men and never trust until you've had very open and systematic conversations over time to unravel his sexuality and thoughts on women. Go into a relationship and dating knowing & accepting you're going to deal with a level of bigotry. Even men who seemingly respect their mothers somehow I've seen have a weird Modanna/Whore complex because of porn.

This is because they compartmentalize the world - you are either the mother, the wife or the mistress my mother always said (and she was the first female partner at her law firm and first round accepted to Yale). I tell her now, you know mom, screw it, I'm done with that. I want to be me. With or without a man. And she smiles. Thanks for helping pave the way mom.