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Why age gap relationships ain’t no good 😀👎🏼

June 1, 2021
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Title Why age gap relationships ain’t no good 😀👎🏼
Author MysteriousLife7
Upvotes 1535
Comments 95
Date June 1, 2021 11:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/why-age-gap-relationships-aint-no-good.773456
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[–]curlywurlyprincessFDS Newbie 492 points493 points  (77 children) | Copy Link

What older men offer:

  • Baldness

  • The audacity

  • ED

  • Out of shape bodies (older men aren’t pressured to look perfect so they don’t give a shit about keeping fit)

Why would I want any of that. They tend to be the most forward as well 🤮

[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 53 points54 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

YES. Esp out of shape. I am a fitness fanatic and I can say that the in shape, well cared for older men seek peers...not victims.

[–]getrippeddiemirin 49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Even watching older movies and media like, men in their 30s used to be actually attractive and now they’re all grotesque ogres. Like what are we even supposed to do with that? Fat, balding, shit personality, selfish, can’t dress, never took care of their skin or ate anything other than takeout so they’re looking haggard at 32; so many of them are acutely mentally ill and not even working on it; make less money than me, don’t own property or cars…. Like what are they even here for other than to be a disappointment ugh.

I’m back on my bullshit of watching old movie and tv shows, and it’s such a slap in the face how males have let themselves degrade the way they have

[–]cakewalkofshameFDS Newbie 36 points37 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah the number of older men I've met with substantial guts who seem to feel completely comfortable with themselves...it's amazing and sickening considering how women's bodies are policed.

[–]FairyTailQueen 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Couldn’t have said it better myself!

[–]greenbagmariaFDS Newbie 42 points43 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don’t forget hair at random place of their bodies. Like—-why.

[–]throwawayforunethicaFDS Newbie 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In my late teens, early twenties, guys in their twenties were GORGEOUS. I live in an active beach town, so tanned and toned surfers and skateboarders. My forty-something ex in a gross town a few hours away pulled a few teenagers (18 and 19). Several others in their early 20's. I cannot image seeing his gross, hairy, no muscle tone, white, noodle arms, pot-belly and being like, "oh yes, way better than guys my age!" And he was cheap af, he didn't provide these girls with anything but promises and STDs. 🤮

[–]Amaya_Vulpecula 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You literally just described my 29 year old ex!

[–]straightouttashtetlFDS Newbie 184 points185 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Most don't even have money so...yeah, we aren't in it for that either 😎

[–]theterminatressFDS Newbie 42 points43 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yep. If they’re in their late 40s or early 50s many of them are in or about to hit a serious career downturn as well. A lot of them are going to be let go in favor of younger people who work well and willingly with women/BIPOC/LGBTQ+ folks. A lot of these guys are going to be let go over their sexism and racism and homophobia. They just don’t know it yet.

[–]AJLake80FDS Newbie 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My husband is late 40s and actually fired two 20 somethings for their openly racist bullshit at work. But he’s not a scrote, so...

[–]PinkBlair99FDS Newbie 48 points49 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think I must’ve just been fortunate to have been born with outsized self-confidence and self direction, because never ever in my life have I been tempted to date older men, including now, when I myself am 41 years old. The thought of them trying to date me is, and has always been, absolutely fucking revolting. I never took their interest, flirtation, and sexual harassment as some kind of compliment or badge of honor. They were always transparent to me. I’m shocked now to see so many young women dating men my age, or women my age dating grandpas.

[–]LuciferSpadesFDS Newbie 122 points123 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

This age gap thing has me questioning a bit.

See I'm 38 but look much younger, guys my age who are single...are definitely single for a reason.

I can barely stand 5 minutes near most of them.

Most of the guys interested in me range from 25 to 35 before they know my age after that it narrows to 28 to 35, and after I get sick of the older ones revealing why they are single or (more often) getting divorced, I'm left with 28 to 32 year olds.

Granted I'm in no hurry and have stayed single for 6 years since I left the last one, but seriously, all the males my age or even close are no different then my exes.

[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 66 points67 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Yep, a couple years younger than you and I agree. I attract men younger than me IRL..old ones too but I disregard them. OLD was an eye opener when I saw what my peers and men in their 40s are like. Yikes! I always liked older men too, til I got older..it’s all down hill for them after 32.

[–]LuciferSpadesFDS Newbie 38 points39 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Right!? I Rolled around Tinder awhile and regularly got guys 20 years old till I set my lower limit at 28 ( the actual age where you are not actually closer to my oldest daughters age thwn mine...and still most I was getting was 28 to 32 and the few that didnt look likes used up shriveled sausages over that age were psychotic or telling me I needed to lower my standards because I was the used up one because I have 4 kids, or that I was never going to find a man to take care of us with my attitude...

[–]OptionalCookieFDS Newbie 30 points31 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men really are piece of shit

What the fuck does used up even mean. You gave 4 people liiife. Can they do that? No. Can they ever do that? No.

Don't even let that shit get you down. He's probably be the type you end up having to clean up after anyways. So that's 5 children.

[–]Eva4ever28FDS Newbie 48 points49 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I agree. I am 34 and have teen boys hitting on me. We were told we’d be done for after 30 and honestly I’m looking forward to that but apparently we have to wait a lot longer to be left alone. I hate having to turn down a random street to avoid guys following next to me cat calling me. I’m a middle aged mom f* off!

When I went on OLD there were only a few 31/32 year old (my age at the time) men that I found attractive. Most guys were awful. Clearly from their own neglect. If they treat themselves like that, how will they treat a woman?

[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 49 points50 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

34 isn’t middle aged! But yeah, I get it..

[–]LuciferSpadesFDS Newbie 35 points36 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wooooo! This comment got me my first DM trolling! I just leveled up another notch!

Single because I say fuck off vs single because I'm told fuck off makes a huge difference.

Be an asset to me or get wrecked like all the rest.

[–]PinkBlair99FDS Newbie 13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Man, I could’ve written this myself, except I’m 41.

[–]Connect_Chipmunk_691FDS Newbie 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]purasangriaRuthless Strategist 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

51 here, and same.

[–]ASMR_BookclubFDS Newbie 124 points125 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

The number of times I heard “you should date an older man, they’re so much more mature ». If he wants to date me, a women 10-15 years his junior, than no he’s not. Learned that lesson a little too late in life 🙄

[–]fak_beauty_standardsFDS Newbie 61 points62 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Society groomed us all into this

[–]judyfoodyThrowaway Account 175 points176 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

ya'll i truly hate tiktok. I found a viral tiktok promoting an 18 yo girl and 40 yo man relationship. Their entire account was dedicated to their age gap relationship and how amazing it. Young girls admiring them in the comments

I reported it but of course tiktok did nothing since nothing illegal was happening

[–]judyfoodyThrowaway Account 84 points85 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

she's now married to him so of course it gives them even more credibility to the impressionable kids subscribed to them

[–]Emergency-Feed8216FDS Apprentice 74 points75 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

With free college and equal employment and pay, I suspect most teens/20-somethings wouldn't barf in the direction of 40+ coots.

[–]millriceFDS Newbie 51 points52 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I feel bad for those girls

[–]laffytaggyFDS Newbie 93 points94 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Seriously. When I was a 27 year old virgin I dated a 40 year old divorced father...and I look back at that relationship with anger and disgust. Cannot imagine 18 and 40.

If I met my ex today (35) no way would I give him a shot. He used to say he wished I was older bc then I would be ready to marry him. But no..if I was older, I would have walked away when he approached me. And men think they are hurting us by saying they can date younger. The ones that do this are usually garbage.

[–]millriceFDS Newbie 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry to hear that, but you are in a better place now

[–]greatmoonlight21FDS Newbie 48 points49 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I saw that TikTok too. So many comments defending the relationship even though many pointed out that it was wrong. That girl and anyone else believing that’s normal are in for a rude awakening

[–]judyfoodyThrowaway Account 25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah it's sad most of the people defending it are the ones more likely to fall victim to it

[–]RastaEL19 34 points35 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Born ugly so had to get rich to get girls who passed them off

[–]aoi4egFDS Newbie 34 points35 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

When I was 19, I dated a 32 y.o. I thought it was so cool and made me so mature. Brrr. Learned the hard way why he was divorced, single and avoiding alimony while pretending to be a successful man.

[–]redwineandsolitudeFDS Newbie 20 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

When I was 26 I dated a 38 year old who was divorced (and NOT forthright about it) and 6 FIGURES in debt. They always have skeletons in their closets.

[–]aoi4egFDS Newbie 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yep. I yet to meet a divorced man who would simply say something polite about their divorce, it's always either hiding it completely and neglecting their child(ren), or constantly bitching about his ex-wife, calling her names and trying to convince me to hate her.

[–]ladylucy77 27 points28 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

What age gap should I consider a red flag?

[–]fak_beauty_standardsFDS Newbie 29 points30 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

For me it's 4 years both ways. Ofc different in your teens, if you're 16 and he's 20, that's weird.

[–]fak_beauty_standardsFDS Newbie 47 points48 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

7 years is a red flag alone. If he rejects women his own age, he only views women as pretty objects and hates women in general. He probably hates that he aged himself and wants to youth-dig.

[–]HhjjuuyFDS Apprentice 27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Not pretty objects, status symbols.

[–]fak_beauty_standardsFDS Newbie 32 points33 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

More accuratety. Look at me, I'm banging a youngster, not an old hag like your wife. These men don't date. They accessorize.

[–]OptionalCookieFDS Newbie 29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Any time an old guy goes after a younger woman (or a literal child) is because women his age realize him for the bum he is and want nothing to do with them. So they go for the younger one.

[–]SqueaksScreechFDS Newbie 22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I attract both older men and younger guys because I look 15 🤮😭

[–]ketodietclubPickmeisha™️ 117 points118 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

This is pretty true. The decent ones got hooked up in their teens and early twenties and usually stay paired after that. If he's in his thirties or older and single the odds are he's one or more of the following:

Immature AF


Cheats a lot



Can't hold down a job

Has substance use issues.

Honestly unless he's a widower the odds are high a single guy that age is a lemon.

[–]romancingthevoidFDS Newbie 53 points54 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or too cheap to date and impress!

[–]__kamikaze__FDS Newbie 66 points67 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You still need to be cautious of the “decent ones”. I’ve seen countless stories where a man hooked up early, only to feel like he missed out.

To take it to the next level of scrotation, he’ll suggest an open relationship. This usually ends in disaster because the woman will find countless partners, while he finds none and throws a pathetic fit about how he regrets it.

[–]Colour_riotFDS Newbie 28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

ain't that how most dick liberation stories play out lol.

I do feel like these LVM also tend to not be the most generous, so it's a double whammy because their bangmaid realises that there are men who aren't at the floor, and the LVM realises that all the women he wants to bang actually have standards, and would probably still be unattainable anyway.

LVM have ridiculously inflated opinions of themselves. They assume that if they are 6 ft tall and fit, it makes up for having the face of a monkey and the world's worst farts.

[–]Connect_Chipmunk_691FDS Newbie 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Or he'll fall for somebody else and kick his wife to the curb. And probably blame her for it somehow.

[–]fak_beauty_standardsFDS Newbie 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's true. Best men of my birth year married their high school sweethearts.

[–]Connect_Chipmunk_691FDS Newbie 9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Oh good Lord, there's got to be some decent guys out there for us 30 & 40-somethings, and not looking our age by the way! 😉

[–]purasangriaRuthless Strategist 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm not even looking anymore, the pickings are slim and totally not worth it. I have money, a nice home, and a great life, so I'm not going to settle, that's for sure.

[–]cakewalkofshameFDS Newbie 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've said this before but...it's funny how it's always "well, it works because she is so mature for her age" instead of "well, it works because he is so immature for his age."

[–]MACMUAFDS Apprentice 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They seek out younger because they can not get the attention of a women his own age.. cause he’s a bum

[–]catlady4uFDS Newbie 13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm in my 50s and the entire dating pool in my age range.. is actually a cesspool. I'm not sure younger women have it any easier.

[–]namasdatingFDS Newbie 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

My old therapist said I should only date men over 36 as they are eMoTiOnAlLy mAtUrE and rEaDy to settle down. LOL

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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