Why are men so incapable of providing emotional support?

191 points138 commentssubmitted by closetskeleton_girl to r/GenderCritical

Hi ladies. This isn't a rant about gender issues so may be slightly off topic, but I really need to rant in a space where I won't be just dismissed as a misandrist or hear a bunch of "but not all men" bullshit.

I've posted here recently about some female health issues I'm having. I have a big fibroid that's causing me a lot of pain, and related complications like severe anemia from menorrhagia.

I had an important doc's appointment today, we were going to discuss the results of my last ultrasound and get a date for surgery. But it all went wrong when my doctor couldn't even insert a speculum because my cervix was blocked by a large mass (different from the fibroid) that we didn't know about before. Surgery plans were totally derailed, and now I need to have a pelvic MRI to figure out what this shit is. I was devastated. I'm not a very emotional lady at all, but I've been crying on and off all day. I just had such high hopes that my fibroid troubles we're almost over, only to find this.

So my husband found me crying in the bathroom. Gives me an eye roll and a theatrical sigh and leaves the room. He comes in later and asks "so what's wrong now." I told him I'm still upset and in physical pain from my appointment. He rants for several minutes about how stressful this is for HIM.

As I said above, I hardly ever cry or really show much emotion at all. He also doesn't go with me to appointments or anything (I'm fine with that, we both work full time). Literally his only obligation here is to give me occasional emotional support which I don't even need that often!!!

Apparently having to comfort me when I'm upset over bad medical news once in awhile is just THE WORST THiNG EVER. Why won't I think of how hard this is for him?

I seriously just fucking can't right now with him. Why are men such fucking self centered assholes? Sometimes I wish I was a lesbian.