Why Are Some Men Obsessed With Barely Legal Girls?

Pyllytar · 2021-01-16T18:55:06+00:00

Not only barely, but also actually illegal.

When I was teenager, it was considered as very high status symbol to date older "men". Not all were into that but the popular girls™, or those who wanted to be popular were. I witnessed cases like 14 year old girl "dating" a 27 year old man, her being very proud of that and other girls admiring jealously.

I didn't think anything of it at the time and then finally forgot the whole phenomenon. When I was 27 I suddenly remembered that and cringed so hard that I felt physically ill. The perspective provided by age was horrifying experience. That's just pedophilia, plain and simple and also felony. And that dude clearly got away with it and who knows how many other victims he and his peers had.

redbirdflies · 2021-01-16T19:17:46+00:00

Because it’s a power imbalance in their favor. They want to be with someone who they can manipulate and gaslight into believing they aren’t being taken advantage of and used.

pickadaisy · 2021-01-16T19:56:03+00:00

Men love opportunities in which they can put in less effort for more. Women are a lot more easy to impress, manipulate, and destroy when we are young.

misszazie · 2021-01-16T19:01:42+00:00

Bc they're obsessed with underaged girls and they don't want to admit they're sick f*cks

MACMUA · 2021-01-16T19:32:15+00:00

I wish these young women can see these older men for the bums that they are

When you are younger, you think it’s cool. When you get older you see how dumb it was and how much of a scum bag that person is

Fluorescence · 2021-01-16T18:35:00+00:00

Another good article on this annoying phenomena. I have been trying to work on making men prove themselves first before being friendly. Very difficult!

2ndMrsDeWinter · 2021-01-16T21:42:14+00:00

I’m now the age (35) of the man I dated when I was 19. I Now have mentees in their late teens and they’re so incredibly immature and innocent and undeveloped I couldn’t begin to imagine even considering them friends (listening to me whine?! Giving me advice? Taking my problems into their headspace already busy with college and growing and learning?), never mind dating them 🤮

2021-01-16T23:41:36+00:00

Easy: easier to control and theyre pedophiles but can't go any lower in age due to laws

oh_shit_oh_fuck · 2021-01-16T18:59:21+00:00

I don’t even need to click the article the answer is because they’re pedos

PasDeTout · 2021-01-17T00:56:22+00:00

The author is so close to getting it but just manages to fail to see how bad it actually is.

‘Furthermore, a woman’s perceived desirability drops if she attains a postgraduate degree’ And there we have it. Men want women to be stupid and naive. They don’t want their own ignorance to be exposed.

Professional-Pea-317 · 2021-01-16T19:42:12+00:00

Because they're naive. Experienced women know men for what they really are and don't put up with rapey bullshit.

Platipus6 · 2021-01-17T00:23:23+00:00

Because they're stunted and no woman their age wants them.

Also they have zero empathy or altruism and don't give a shit that young women DON'T want their nasty dangly ballsack and would prefer to be with young, healthy, sexually attractive men.

Sunsetkis · 2021-01-16T20:14:45+00:00

The 24 year old I lost my virginity to when I was 18 said that it sucks that I turned 18 just 2 weeks prior because it would've been "hotter" if I were 17. And my old self thought being "barely legal" or "not legal" was "sexy" for the both of us. Evil forces are at play in young girls' minds.

His power high: He then strung me along for two and a half years, until he just said he got a girlfriend and I just blocked him. He just liked how much I liked him. I was naturally obsessed and held on to his every word and every promise that if he will "get a girlfriend it will be you."

It also garnered being seen as "cool" from girls my age. Is it safe to say that most girls DO have this same exact experience with an older man, then? We should poll.

LadyWithAHarp · 2021-01-16T19:44:16+00:00

There were a couple of guys (15-20 years older than me) just waiting for me to hit 18. (Actually more, but two who were laser-focused.) None of my age-appropriate crushes gave me a second glance since I was fat and weird, but the older guys were great conversationalists and were interesting and fun to talk to.

A couple of years ago some kid who was 18 or 19 decided he had a crush on me and it was flattering for about one second. He was boring, had nothing interesting to him, and it completely pissed me off when he would hang out at my work before his shifts at his job started. When I was able to nudge his attentions away to someone closer to his age it was such a relief. I think that taking his mom's side in a described conflict helped.

After dealing with that 18 year old kid, I have to wonder what those older guys saw in me. Was I that boring as a teenager? It really ticks me off, especially since the older men were the only ones paying attention to me as opposed to ostracizing me like the ones my age.

relationship_reddit · 2021-01-17T19:53:06+00:00

My ex admitted that part of it was that they were more likely to see him as a "bigger man". He was very insecure in his masculinity and maturity, and I guess he was into the idea of being seen as a strong, capable man without having to put in any of the work to make himself seem that way to women around his age or older. I mean, his porn addiction was probably a bigger factor, but that was at least part of it.

level_up_always · 2021-01-17T05:11:06+00:00

they like the idea of breaking a naive/innocent person

ReignOnYou95 · 2021-01-18T05:37:22+00:00

Cause theyre pedos.

Title	Why Are Some Men Obsessed With Barely Legal Girls?
Author	Fluorescence
Upvotes	130
Comments	28
Date	January 16, 2021 6:33 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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