In the entire animal kingdom females are the sexual selectors. Exceptions exist (like some random species of fish that rear the offspring or something)
But women are meant to choose and men are meant to be the sexually exploited ones. I'm using the term exploited because I mean it in a biological sense; as in, they are meant to be competitive in attracting a mate. They're supposed to impress US. The "pickmes" shouldn't be women. They should be men.
Our culture is backwards from our biological cues. Our way of dating, relationships and courting all revolves around the sexual exploitation of girls and women, instead of men. It feels unnatural because it IS unnatural.
It got this way because men have put a lot of effort (through production of media) into taking that role themselves and conditioning us all into getting used to it. They want women to impress THEM. THEY want to be selective (even though they're not the ones with the burden of offspring) because they feel entitled to evvvvverything.
We get announcement after announcement from men about what THEY want. "I'm am ass man, A boob guy. Men don't like when women...blank. Men like women who...blank." some women are really sensitive about it. It really hurts them to hear that they don't fit the standards that men have laid out.
Meanwhile who cares tho.
It's all talk. Men don't have sexual selection skills AT ALL. They're desperate. They swipe on everyone. Their desire for impressing women controls them. Their frustrations over failing to impress women destroy them.
They can talk a big talk about all kinds of stuff; only wanting 20 year olds or insisting that women need to sexually satisfy THEM I order to be "gifted" a commitment or relationship. But look around you. Men are OBSESSED with us. At all ages, in all demographics. They can't stay away. They scramble to get our attention. They literally pay for us to touch them. Single men DIE earlier than married men. They call porn a neeeeeeed because it literally feels that way for them. Because they're miserable without us. They're biologically at a huge disadvantage because their desire controls them. Meanwhile we have power over them because we don't have that desperation and we function just fine without them.
Women are waking up. The upcoming generation sees it because more women are participating in media, so women's art and voices are being heard by other women. AND we communicate freely online at places like this. It's starting to click.
The bad news is that the pool of acceptable men is minuscule because of generations of denying our biological role. So at the point in time it's ROUGH. The appealing men are few and far between, the bar is in hell, and most men are still in denial over the fact that they need to do better. It takes a massive amount of luck to even come across a decent man. If you find one, you find one. If you don't, you don't. But if you're here you have an advantage because if you know FDS then you know that you're a chooser, not a pickme. You won't exploit yourself ever again. You'll dedicate all that energy into your actual role in sexual partnership: vetting and selecting, and making THEM impress YOU.
Don't waste another second of your life worrying about what men want in a partner. It literally does not matter at all. It's about what YOU want.
Someone just rightfully pointed out that men use "humans are animals" into justifying hedonism, violence and immortal behavior. I didn't even think to address that hang up since this is a community of women and women don't romanticize the stone age the way men do...
But I forgot about all the male lurkers,
So I'll add that: humans are animals with an undeniable biological guides. But if you're reading this that means you are among those of us who chose to live in a civilized society. We're not in the jungle. We don't let our biology guide our every move. We don't partner JUST to mate. We embraced our morals and capacity for conscious thought and have built structures to prevent hedonism and animalistic chaos from dominating our lives. We decided to punish things like rape, murder and pedophilia despite any biological urges because we (most of us) have moral fibre and functioning human brains, so we determine what parts of our biology are worth embracing and which ones hold us back
In this case, it doesn't hurt anybody or cause moral dilemmas to embrace the natural biology of feminine sexual selection. In fact, the reverse (to deny it) is much more violent and "animal".
So no it's not the same as men running around trying to justify their pedophilia as "bIoLoGy". That should be obvious and im sure it is to most of us, but I felt it was important to add for all the male lurkers because they don't need any more fuel to their fire of justifying things like rape, pedophiles, "spreading their seed" and cheating.
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