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[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH414 points415 points416 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
He's still going to call her a hoe after her 21st try at "forgiving him".
[–]Throwaways355FDS Newbie34 points35 points36 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
His ass ain’t worthy of forgiveness. He knows she’s gonna keep forgiving him so he’s gonna keep using her. Pickmesha logic.
[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
“Logic”
She’ll come around. Lol
[–]kht777FDS Newbie317 points318 points319 points 4 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
Yeah lol no ever said she should sleep with the 20 guys, it could be 20 first dates. I feel sorry for her since she could actually meet a great guy on the 20th date. Her loss
[–]janeaustenfan99FDS Newbie228 points229 points230 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
It's like some women automatically equate dating with sex.
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[–]kht777FDS Newbie72 points73 points74 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah its really sad when you come across brainwashed girls and just a simple questioning of them makes them think differently. I'm trying to help a few pickmeishas in my life subtly, hoping they can finally break free like I did.
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[–]kht777FDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
💝🙌🏻
[–]humanrobot99FDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You can lead a horse to water but....
[–]kht777FDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, ugh I've been on multiple dates over the years that led no where because one person wasnt interested.
[–]SpaceGoat88FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean, I used to have really really ultra low self-esteem and would put out that quickly. Then I got my shit together and didn't give a fuck anymore if they'd stay or not.
[–]7_0f_9FDS Disciple25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yep. It's a matter of no longer needing male validation.
[–]7_0f_9FDS Disciple16 points17 points18 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Men's mentality has seeped into female consciousness.
[–]j_boFDS Newbie56 points57 points58 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No one says you has to but ALOT of men on dating apps use them strictly for sex. And have zero interest in a relationship. So you put forth all that time and effort wedding out people through chat and still end up putting forth time and effort to go on a date with someone who expects sex cause they payed for dinner. I'm not saying giving someone 20 chances is the answer...but dating 20 people just cause they asked you out isn't really a good alternative either.
[–]kht777FDS Newbie28 points29 points30 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True, I know they expect sex but that's why I was suuuuper picky and only ever went on a real date with three guys on a dating app, but I hope more women can realize they can end a date for no reason other than to feel uncomfortable.
From college to now, I've rarely dated and I'd say three of of the five first dates I had been on nothing ever came of it cuz of incompatibility.
[–]potatotoldmetodoitFDS Newbie4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Whatever they expect is not your problem. I wish people would just naturally understand it!
[–]7_0f_9FDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some people refuse to be patient.
[–]DatonecatladyuknoFDS Apprentice127 points128 points129 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The first woman may or may not be a “hoe” but you are STUPID stupid
[–]FutileDeathStar88 points89 points90 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol. Everyone knows LVM are ABUNDANT. It's honestly a numbers game sometimes - you just have to keep meeting people and being absolutely vicious in your assessment. So yes, that means meeting more men, but it also ups your chances of finding someone decent. Anyone who calls anyone a "ho" is LV.
[–][deleted] 157 points158 points159 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is peak patriarchal brainwashing.
[–]May26thFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wish I had gold to give you!
[–]take1990FDS Apprentice80 points81 points82 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Pickmeisha logic
[–]Throwaways355FDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
100%
[–]CuriousCatNYC777Ruthless Strategist64 points65 points66 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see how Pickmeishas can be very attractive to abusers.
[–]bitchbaby114 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
literally proclaiming it to the world 😞
[–]Left-CommentFDS Newbie51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I laughed hard here.
Girl likes to suffer.
[–]7_0f_9FDS Disciple9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's definitely masochism.
[–]lay-knee52 points53 points54 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Some girls never see option number 3, which is to stay single until someone worth your time comes along.
[–]s_slayerFDS STRATEGY COACH25 points26 points27 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This. Think about it ladies, how many women do you know who are good people with shithead partners who are selfish and disrespectful? I’m sure a lot. I seriously get so mad at women who are otherwise intelligent but just cannot be alone. They would rather a man disrespect them than be alone. I truly don’t understand, because I absolutely demand being treated well, and I would give the same right back to a good man. I’d rather stay single for the rest of my life than be saddled with a LVM. Holy hell. No thanks!
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm there right now. It's been rough getting used to it but once you do... the thought of sharing your time and space with someone else makes me go... ugh what, why.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ew. 20 chances for a loser?
Hope you get some tax write offs for being the epitome of a non-profit, especially with all those charitable donations, sister.
[–]PM_ME_A_STRAYCATFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Id rather be a hoe than a side chick 🤷♀️
[–]BlackThummbFDS Newbie15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome.
[–][deleted] 24 points25 points26 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol, "long as you know you stupid." Ugh, whatever. I worked with a woman who felt the exact same way. Her ex constantly cheated on her, paid nothing in child support for their brand new baby, and mooched every dime he could from her. But she was proud of it....
[–]lucky_ducky_9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd rather give myself all the chances to make myself happy than give multiple chances to someone who clearly doesn't value me 💖
[–]StrawberryMoon3FDS Apprentice18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So young and already so brainwashed
False dilemma. If you stay monogamous for a scumbag, he's still gonna go bang 20 other pickmes and bring home the stds to you. There's a 3rd option: keep your legs closed until you find a guy who proves himself. Of course, those who lack self control won't view this as an option. You can live without sex. Compromising yourself for one doouche bag is no better than Compromising yourself for 20.
[–]RadarFemefFDS Newbie32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
“Being a hoe” isn’t a thing. It’s a made-up concept used to shame women who have sex. What’s the equivalent for men? There isn’t one. That’s how you know it’s sexist bullshit
[–]quasarbarFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
Maybe it's just me but I hate the implication that dating a guy one time ("one chance") implies that you're having sex with him.
Or do women get called "hoes" for merely dating?
Nothing wrong with dating more than one guy at a time as long as you're not committed or dishonest about it.
Edit to add: I personally would never call any woman a "hoe" (or "ho") for any reason and I hope it didn't come across otherwise. I only used the word, in quote marks, because it was in the original post.
I do not think any woman ever deserves to be called a "hoe" if she does have sex with lots of men, but the point I was trying to make was about the implication that she is doing so just by dating lots of men. I dated many men before I ever had sex and I think it's unfortunate and harmful to women that it is assumed that we are having sex, or will have sex, simply because we go out with men. We have every right to refuse no matter how much a man spends on us.
Peace. Love y'all and love this sub!
[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brainwashing so men can play the field and screw as much as they want, but women are supposed to sit around waiting on the 1 creep to decide on a relationship, marriage, etc.
It was very common when my mother was young to date lots of guys and it there wasn't sex involved or even a kiss if she didn't feel like it. The men had to step up to get a date. A real date that he planned and paid for.
There was none of this showing up at her house once a week for sex and calling that dating.
I smh when I hear a woman say she's been dating (fucking) someone for 3, 6 months and she doesn't know if they are exclusive or boyfriend/girlfriend. I mean wtf?
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some people do equate women saying "i went on a date" to "i hooked up with a guy". So I am very careful who I talk to about dating or going on dates. Some people have different mindsets on the subject. Unfortunately.
[–]no_pwnameFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's gonna have to learn the hard way then.
[–]GingyTheCattFDS Newbie6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah and one of those 20 guys could have been a great person who respects her enough not to make her NEED to give him 20 chances because he got it right the first time.
[–]ShellfishhahaFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hoes arent necessarily stupid either
[–]moonchild2998FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stay with a man who treats her like trash because dating around makes her a hoe. Interesting logic
[–]ana-moss-cityFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, I kinda wanna defend her.
We are told never give up, try again and again, you gotta put the work in, while this works in school/ work, sociaty forgets to mention its not applicable to relationships.
HOPE is a double edged sword, maybe she hopes 20th time would be different, like an experiment changing a variable each time, didn't eddison make a light bulb 1000 times before it finally worked. So much time and labour has been invested, its too painful to cut your losses and take the L.
She'll learn eventually, but shittt is painfull!!!
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[–]thowawaywookieFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
True. There are countless people who suffer at a terrible job for years.
Then there are people who take zero shit and are out the door.
I haven't looked into the research if people who get caught up in the sunk cost fallacy have low self-esteem.
Then there's intermittent reinforcement. He did act nice in the beginning so if I just wait and bend over backward to please him, he'll be nice again. The cycle of abuse.
You're right about it being hard work. This subreddit is important for tips and the community of what no woman should ever tolerate in life. I hope through my actions, women irl can see they don't have to put up with some lvm and less in life.
[–]ivy176FDS Disciple5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So "I stick with the devil I know because of how I may appear to other people if I date potentially better guys"? Sad.
If she's talking about sex specifically then a shitty guy may be exposing her to 20 other people's bodies and STIs anyway, men or women..
[–]persephones_torchFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Better the devil you know than the devil you don't" is the way some people think.
[–]ilikesoy_Throwaway Account0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ok pickmeisha, thanks for letting us know you have no standards or self respect
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