Since discovering FDS, I’ve been rethinking a lot of my past experiences with men. There was one that I had almost forgotten about until a few days ago. I was travelling by ferry to go stay with my grandparents for a weekend when I was approached by a guy. He almost immediately sat right next to me and started talking, totally ignoring my incredibly visible head phones. I was super young and a bit surprised because I’d never been spoken to by a random dude in public before, but all that sweet, sweet male validation (EW) got me to pause my music and let him talk at me.

He asked for my age about a minute into the conversation and I let him know I was 14. He followed by saying how we was 19 and he “neeever would have guessed [I] was that young”. At the time I remember feeling like it was such a compliment that an older guy thought I looked mature enough to hold a conversation with me for at least another 20 minutes. (Wasn’t really a conversation, more just him getting increasingly close to me and talking way too loudly about his car and how cute I was).

Hell no, in actuality, he was a grown ass man talking to and preying on a literal child. And he was fully aware of the fact that it was wildly inappropriate as he explicitly acknowledged that I was, indeed, young. Looking at pictures of past me as a now-adult I also recognize that I fully looked 14 and not a day over, there’s no way he was dumb enough to think differently. However, I’m convinced that he was only more emblazoned by the 5 year age gap and that played a large part in how incessantly he kept talking to me. He 100% knew I wouldn’t be confident enough to stand up for myself and walk away at 14.

I was so brainwashed by the constant romanticization of being “coveted” by an older man that I was fed all throughout my adolescence to the point where it felt like an achievement to be sexualized and creeped on as a minor. I remember literally bragging to my friends about it and us all going “omg, so lucky” or “that happened to me too, he was so cute and mature” and this was just fine? What the actual fuck?

I still have friends that heavily romanticize age gap relationships and there is even one (18f) who has an ongoing sexual relationship with a 43 year old man. I’ve been trying to introduce her to FDS in moderation but she’s still so thoroughly brainwashed by liberal feminism and pedophilic scrotes, that she thinks a man the same age as her father (who’s never had a LTR, has a dad bod but no kids, and constantly talks about wanting to impregnate her) is worth her time and body. She is so stunning but even if she was less attractive, there is no way in hell she should be in a relationship like that.

Fuck no, I’m so glad to have found FDS right after I turned 18. I’ve saved myself from being exploited by pedophilic and pornsick men 10x over already and I’ll continue avoiding them like the plague.