My Mother Would Threaten To Call The Police On Me Whenever We Argued

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What sort of introduction can I even write to go with that title? It says everything.

It didn't matter what the arguement was.

"You went in my room without permission, that's wrong!"

"You raise your voice to me like that again and I'll call the police and have you reported for abuse!

"You're being needlessly confrontational and incredibly illogical, if you'd actually listen to me for once....!"

"Don't talk to me like that, that's abusive. I can call the police on you for that."

"You actively broke my trust and our promise for your own gain, and you don't even care!?"

"You carry on like this and I'll report you to the police for abuse!"

It was always brought on herself, I definitely feel deliberately. She would, once I confronted her about a wrongdoing, be incredibly childish and facetious about the whole thing to wind me up, then once I started to cry and raise my voice that's when the threat of a false accusation came. With almost clockwork predictability by the time I left.

Of course, she could scream at me until she was blue in the face, but the second I raised my voice or even touched her (when she was storming away from the arguement, no not in a violent way) it was an immediate threat of false accusation and police intervention.

I do feel like this is very much an NMother to Son kind of interaction. The fact that a narcissistic woman was considering solving her problems by getting her own son arrested is terrifying.

She still does it on the few occasions we talk (which invariably end in a shouting match) which terrifies me further.

Whatever the case, she always threw the label of "abusive" at me whenever I stood up for myself or up to her in any significant manner.