https://psyche.co/ideas/talk-of-toxic-masculinity-puts-the-blame-in-all-the-wrong-places

Now the author comes from a bit more of a radical feminist position, but I still think there is some merit to what she had written.

One of the main points of hers was the idea that “toxic masculinity” as a term treats dominance as merely an issue of socialization. It depicts dominance and general shittiness as something we can educate away. In the process, however, this deprives attention from systems that enable someone to dominate in the first place, such as, say, capitalist oppression. The term “toxic masculinity” effectively propagates a culture war instead of building any form of consciousness, which allows the institutions in which dominance is perpetuated through to survive.

The other point of hers that resonated with me was the statement: “Portraying toxic masculinity as a problem that can be solved through early intervention by parents, caregivers and teachers sublimates a series of institutional and political contests into the ‘private’ realm of choice and childrearing. Ironically, this task will fall differentially to women, who do most of the childrearing and school teaching, and mothers in particular.” This indicates that the solutions proposed by proponents of the term “toxic masculinity” may end up inadvertently reinforcing the very gender roles they want to dismantle.