I specify bi because it’s what I encounter, but I’m guessing it’s not just a bi thing.
I was on a bi subreddit, and there was a post from a bi woman about how much she likes bi guys. That isn’t really anything on its own, but she goes on to say about how she likes gay men, until she found out bi men exist, and basically goes on to say they’re not bigoted, don’t have “fragile masculinity,” y’know the spiel. It had an off putting vibe to me that I can’t put my finger on, but I see it a lot, and weirdly a lot from lgbtq women. It also either implicitly or explicitly comes with the statement/idea of “straight/cis men bad/worse” or “you’re not like other men”
So I guess what I’m wondering is if you guys notice that as well, and if you have a way to describe it, cause I’m not sure tokenizing or fetishize are the best terms.
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