As always, be aware that any kind of harrassment towards any of the mentioned parties will fall back on all of us and thus hurt our cause. Stay civil at all times.

Spite-Porn is a euphemism for - as far as I know - a single instance of a woman paying a professional domme to subject her ex-husband to cyber abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse and other humiliation with the intent to send the video to him and potentially otherwise use it to harrass a non-consenting party in real life. Whilst one can't verify whether the video was ever actually used in such way, the claim that it would was glorified by the domme, the RollingStone, a bunch of news outlets as well as an award-winning feminist journalist.

The term was coined by Allie Eve Knox after an isolated incident in which a woman comissioned the sex worker and supporter of feminism to record an abusive clip she could later send to him:

A WOMAN JUST ORDERED A CUSTOM VIDEO FROM ME TO SEND TO HER EX HUSBAND AND HAVE ME SHAME HIM FOR ALL THE SHIT HE DID WHILE THEY WERE TOGETHER AND I'VE NEVER FELT MORE NEEDED IN MY ENTIRE LIFE.

With her elaborating further that she "was made for this" and she feels her "entire career lead up to this". Being an emotional and psychological hitwoman is apparently part of that career now.

And just to be clear here: The content we are talking about refers to and includes private information about an apparently non-consenting individual. It may also be partially made up to shame the husband further. As far as she knows, it is meant to be sent to him and could be uploaded to the internet or sent to people he knows. For all we know, it is is not consensual fetish content - and everybody's comments are to be evaluated in the context of it being communicated as decidedly unconsensual. This is serious abuse and bullying. More on that later.

One of the comments by self-proclaimed feminist and award-winning journalist Tabetha Wallace is a gif reading:

I am in love with this

Her comment came after her story on the Heard and Depp stuff - apparently she had already forgotten that abuse of men is no laughing matter, or she never genuinely cared.

Another comment by the Co-Founder at JPG Protocol, Advisor to the Board of Directors at Golem Network and Founder and Managing Director at the Department of Decentralization (ETHBerlin, Görli Testnet, Manifold Research) and self-proclaimed feminist, Maria Paula Fernandez reads:

Doing God's work?

I meant that as an affirmation

A comment by Men's Health, TheDailyBeast and BuzzFeed author as well as self-proclaimed feminist (nsfw, I guess) Jessie Sage reads:

Oh My!

Or see this comment, which greatly exposes the severe lack of empathy among them:

This makes me... so happy. You’re probably his dream woman. I’m in tears.

Practically all comments under the post - of which there are a lot - are in support of the abuse.

In a comment, the domme says:

Thank you to [Name of the wife] for commissioning the most spiteful and amazing vid in my whole career.

And:

I edited out the super specific details that pertain to fuckwad [Name of the husband] but left the general "men fucking suck" theme. Loads of fun.

The domme now sells an anonymized version of the original to fetishists for 15 bucks (nsfw). Great, so now everyone who learns that it is about him can go and see considerable amounts of it, further taunt and abuse him with the contents, etc. The description reveals that the original included names and all and gives a loose description, which also applies to the original, reading:

this is a custom vid, all names and super specific content have been edited out. You open your email to find a vid from me, a hot blonde like you are typically into. I tease you and tell you how we are going to have some fun. But I have a surprise. The surprise is that your ex wife has paid for this custom vid and had paid me to humiliate and shame you for being a VERY shitty person. So I let you have it. I tell you all the things that you said you fucked up and how you ruined everything? Feel like sh*t, do you? Good, because there is more. I remind you how fucking lonely and sad you are and how you will never have all the things you want. Too fucking bad that you fucked her over, huh?

By the way, she confirmed that him being into blondes was part of the info she got when asked why she was chosen:

He likes blondes she said. Maybe she's seen my hateful tweets, idk.

But let's get into the darker side of the story. A journalist who was apparently unsatisfied with this isolated incident remaining an isolated incident and instead tried to frame it as a trend - thereby getting other outlets involved - and went on to belittle, glorify and shove it into the same context as statements regarding a completely separate topic, namely consensual fetish play.

On May 21, 2020, Ej Dickson, senior writer at the rollingstone, wrote a comment on this isolated incident, reading:

Please tell me this is a trend

To which Knox answered:

If by trend you mean my life's dream come true and now I can die then yes, trend.

Ej Dickson, who considers herself a feminist and calls male feminism a "tumor on society", has a son whom she does not want to raise as a feminist anymore. Mainly because:

there is strong evidence that our society is so steeped in toxic masculinity, so drenched in the primordial ooze of white male supremacy, that it doesn't matter how many dolls you buy your kid or how many times he reads A Is For Activist. A white man born to uber-woke, uber feminist parents is still a white man, and he will enjoy the privileges afforded to white men. And with this privilege comes the inherently limited ability to empathize or identify with the lived experiences of women, LGBT people, and people of color.

...LGBT people...

First of all, let me assure you that white transmen, white gay men and white bi men are actually real and just as valid as the cishet white men you meant to attack.

I hope the boy is alright and will survive until he can leave such misandristic mindsets to find someone who does not consider him so valueless that they'd rather dismiss all evidence on his struggles than to give up their misandristic hate speech.

On May 22, 2020 - just one day after her comment wishing for this abuse to become a trend, Ej Dickson released an article on the RollingStone about it.

So let's see how she tried to normalize and popularize this case of abuse against a man.

As RollingStone reports:

How a Sex Worker Created a New NSFW Genre: ‘Spite Porn’ [...]

Yet one of the most bizarre requests she’s ever received was from a woman who wanted her to shame and humiliate her wayward ex-husband. “A woman just ordered a custom video from me to send to her ex-husband and have me shame him for all the shit he did while they were together and I’ve never felt more needed in my entire life,” she wrote in a tweet that quickly went viral. The resulting custom video she made falls into a genre she’s referring to as “spite porn.”

According to Knox, the client reached out to her asking if she could commission a video about her ex-husband. The woman “thought it would be a great way to have him hear what a terrible person he is,” Knox says. As is customary, Knox asked her what she wanted in the script, and the woman wrote back with a list of specific details: “His porn obsession, his narcissism, how he is self-absorbed. Stuff that could speak to most men,” as well as other assorted misdeeds that the woman shared with her privately.

The RollingStone author further describes the contents, glorifying and calling it a "hilarious and, frankly, pretty badass video":

The video starts like a typical smutty custom clip, with Knox being sexy and teasing. “Well, hello,” she says coquettishly, her legs spread on the ground. “I know this is quite the unexpected surprise, but someone bought this video especially for you.” The rest of the clip proceeds like a standard porn clip, with Knox moaning and massaging her breasts, until about three minutes in. “Now that I’ve got you right where I want you, I think I’ll share a little secret with you, a little surprise I’ve been keeping,” she says. “I’ve befriended your ex-wife.” She emits an evil chuckle before launching into a barrage of insults directed at the “stupid, careless, selfish son of a bitch” ex-husband. It’s a hilarious and, frankly, pretty badass video.

Maybe she should have called it manipulative, abusive and - keeping the description in mind - probably suicide-inducing instead.

According to a following unilad article:

The vengeful wife proceeded to give ‘very specific examples’ about the ways in which her former beloved ‘truly truly fucking sucked’, allowing Allie to make an excruciatingly personal piece of shaming content. The two women discussed the content Allie would use within the vid, as well as the content that would be edited out in order for her to resell the clip.

That wouldn't fulfill her wish for it to become a trend, though.

Knox’s tweet went viral in large part because of how unique the request was: Even in an industry where anything goes, she says she’s never gotten a custom-clip request intended for a spurned ex before.

It is only an industry where everything goes if you accept everyone's excuses.

In the past, I have exposed how girls beating severely disabled and homeless men until one hit before death was called a "fetish", with the videos being sold for profit.

Other wannabe dommes, some of whom unfortunately fell for the experience-fetishism among the bdsm-community that makes people dangerously, incorrectly and negligently act as if experiences with one sub were applicable to another, have implemented a "no-safeword" policy (nsfw; including a penis being stabbed).

Nonetheless, here we have award winning feminist journalists and well-known magazines like the rollingstone glorifying these actions.

She then goes off-track to talk about the completely unrelated practice of incorporating personal struggles in consensual kink-play - which was not even recorded and just an acted phone call. Unfortunately, what was presented before had nothing todo with that.

And she should know that, ending the article with:

Knox isn’t sure if the customer actually sent the clip she made to her ex, but even if she didn’t, she appreciates that it helped her work out her demons. And if she did, “then that motherfucker deserves all the shame that I sent.”

Incredible how she can say that about someone whom she does not actually know - and even if she did, this is not the way to go. Everything she knows is unconfirmed info sent with the intention to hurt someone as much as possible.

Even if the customer had never specified it being meant to be sent or otherwise used, the possibility of abusing such a video as well as the associated risks would have to be carefully evaluated in order to prevent oneself from becoming a professional bully. That being said, judging by their comments, apparently none of the parties involved would mind that.

A subsequent article by the New York Post introduced the abusive practice stating:

Have you been a bad boy? Then you might be getting an X-rated talking-to from a porn star.

Great! If one is into that.

They continue:

Custom-ordered scolding is the latest way spurned exes are getting revenge, says Allie Eve Knox, a porn star who is starting to see a rise in humiliation requests — that is, from people who’ve been wronged and are asking her to send a nasty-gram as payback.

As far as I know, there has only ever been one instance and now magazines are trying to push it into mainstream. Calling it the "latest sex-trend" whilst stressing these videos actually being "sent to naughty exes" is not only ignorant to those who value basic consent, but also incorrect given the limited info we have.

Still, the domme clearly states that she does not care about the victim:

“I don’t know if he ever got the video,” she says. “I don’t know if she watched it and got satisfaction that way, I don’t know if she was into it, if he’s into humiliation. I don’t know the backstory and honestly I don’t care. I provided a woman a service, she paid for it and was very happy and entertained.” The happy customer paid $10 per minute for the twenty minute video, plus $200 to make the video and a $200 tip. “So I made $600 on that video,” Knox says.

They further elaborate:

In addition to the vengeful directions, Knox was able to pull from her own experience, too. Today she tweeted, “Thank you to the men in my life that have sucked and given me so much hate and shame material to work with."

She continues the tweet:

I've made so much money off you assholes.

The lack of empathy in her is apparently not acting - a possibility future customers may want to keep in mind.

Now, has the journalist been successful? Unfortunately, kind of. She successfully fooled a bunch of journalists to copy her misinformation about this "new trend" - whilst they provide zero evidence for even a second instance of it. I am not joking - read the articles. Also see how practically all of them cite the RollingStone article. Then again, no actual trend seems to have emerged from it... yet.

Nonetheless, it certainly shows what these outlets are capable of and it may just be a matter of time until they succeed.