There is a lot of fake "concern trolling" over men's mental health. People blame it on toxic masculinity, the patriarchy harming men, and any number of other things that shift the discussion away from actually helping men and doing something about it.

What we're seeing is gaslighting and victim blaming. These people do not care about men or their mental health. They care about the fact that men's mental health might take away from their carefully constructed narrative about men being privileged oppressors in society.

Meanwhile men are suffering. They work more, have less free time, they die younger, their perspectives and lived experiences aren't seen as valid, and they are more likely to suffer from things like mental health problems and subsistence abuse disorders. And on top of this they are more likely to kill themselves, kill someone else, or become homeless.

These things are all related. Many of the homeless have mental health problems. And many people who murder, rape, and commit crimes, have mental health problems. People who have healthy, non-criminal avenues to meet their needs in life don't resort to those things.

Men are pushed to the brink, and when they snap, we blame it on them. Not on the society that pushed them there.

If you want to fix criminality, "male violence" (including against women), and mental health problems in men, then you need to address the social issues that are causing these problems.

Giving us platitudes about how men need to open up more (especially when people don't listen to them), or fight the patriarchy, isn't going to solve these problems.

What we need to do is address the rampant hatred of men in society that makes them apologize just for existing. We need to develope compassion for men and understand that their actions don't exist in a vacuum. And we need to address systemic social disadvantages that plague men, and that many people refuse to acknowledged as problems. Things like biases in policing, family court law, education, housing discrimination, employment discrimination, healthcare, gender norms, and everything else. Not to mention things like domestic violence and nagging (which kills just as many men, often by suicide, as women).

Fix these problems and then you'll find that fewer men snap and hurt themselves and other people.