"I’m surprised at how little women hate men, they should hate them more"

I couldn't agree more with what you've said and am humbled by your density of thought.

So please know what I've done below is in the spirit of ensuring your voice reaches as many people as possible.

While I suspect you're not someone to be put off by a block of words, I've found that this is the case for the majority of Reddit users. So I've just opened up what you said with a bit of spacing and let it breathe in a way that's more appealing to Redditors and probably the majority of your audience anywhere.

In the end, though, just a friendly suggestion. Thanks again for your reply.

Attacking men as a group has been a habit for a long time in feminist and "progressive" circles.

Both men and women in progressive circles engage in these attacks. They don't see it as harmful; in fact, they see it as socially constructive.

Men need to stop oppressing women, and maybe if the chorus of criticism gets loud enough, men will change -- that seems to be the thinking.

But this thinking fails in multiple ways.

First, it is founded on notions of group guilt; that somehow, all men are responsible for what some men do. But the idea of group guilt is the go-to myth for the worst bigots and human rights violators in the world.

Second, although common among progressives, the habit of attacking men as a group selectively applies to men the fundamental conservative myth that a high rate of some socially toxic or anti-social behavior among members of a group does not merely reflect social forces or conditioning acting on that group, but instead can be understood in terms of the individual free-will choices that reflect individual moral worth.

Thus, efforts to understand why high rates of toxic behaviors may exist among men as a group in terms of the social forces and systemic pressures that affect men as a group, instead of in terms of moral condemnation, are interpreted as sympathy for the toxic behavior.

Finally, it incorporates a false analogy between gender oppression and other forms of oppression, such as race or class oppression -- that with gender oppression, just as with race or class oppression, there is an "oppressor" group and an "oppressed" group, and they are mutually exclusive.

Gender oppression is assumed to be a zero-sum game where men are always and only the oppressors, and women are always and only the oppressed. There is no room for the idea that both men and women can be oppressed by gender systems, or the idea that the behavior of both men and women can contribute to gender oppression.

So in sum, our task is much bigger than just trying to get the Reddit moderators to treat hate-speech directed at men the same as they treat hate-speech directed as women.

We must persistently call out notions of group guilt; we must seek to understand male and female behavior scientifically instead of in moral terms; and we must insist on a more nuanced understanding of gender oppression that incorporates men's actual experience and assumes that men and women are moral equals.