More than "just jokes": The societal treatment of men with small dicks.

The post is non-exhaustive, obviously. I could easily add another list of equal length, but I guess it wouldn't change much.

This post was inspired by some peoples denial of the severety of abuse suffered by men whose genitalia do not fit societal standards. Let's see.

The belief that there was to be a link between penile size and one's behavior is more than common. Big truck? Expensive watch? Anything desirable? Compensating for something. Insecure? Bitter? Resentful? Small dick energy. Rarely does anyone question why we are so sure about the effects - and even less so if maybe the way we treat them and would thus expect to feel if we were in their place has something to do with it. The fact that "small dick energy" and "compensating for something" are itself used as insults - apparently being insecure alone would not suffice as an insult (and it shouldn't), nope, we have to drag dick size into it. Without body shaming, of course, because that would mean we made mistakes...

• Some claim it to merely be some funny (/s) tweets, like :

  • Jokes about abusing them: "When I was with my terrible ex many years ago I used to tell him to go deeper during sex just bc I knew he couldn’t and it made me laugh" - The girl in question was praised by her fans whilst gathering thousands of likes. She goes on: "Ah yes here’s another silly little tweet for all the bitter, underpaid men and pick me bitches to overanalyze and get unreasonably angry at. I was a teenager in love, let me live". Dear Anastasia, you were emotionally and psychologically abusive. You boasting about it on twitter to get celebrated by your fans is in itself worthy of being called out. If one engages in harnful behavior as a teenager, then one should strive to change instead of glorifying it on social media. The "bitter, underpaid men and pick me bitches" are not angry - that doesn't help anyone. We are surprised and confused why you, who had the chance to make the world a better place that day, would go out of your way to make this world a worse place - even if it may just be for a random guy scrolling through his twitter feed. You make it sound as though we would judge your past without a way out. That is not us. We expected you to change and you decided to double down - it is up to you if you want to keep that up. I believe that's fairly resonable.
  • Them being told to kill themselves: "I hope my power tripping, small dick, bitch, of a store manager kills himself"
  • Girls telling them they'd kill themselves if they were them: "If I had a small dick, I would just kill myself"
  • Joking about subjecting them to the death penalty - or a connection to such crimes: "Small dick is a great crime which is subjected to death penalty by the court of due" + "What a piece of shit... must have a small dick to do that. He needs the death penalty fr" + "Lmao! “@RedactedA: It should be...Death Penalty lol RT @RedactedB: Is there a law against small penis??” + "Death penalty!!! RT @RedactedC: That shit should be against the law to have a small penis! How the hell am i suppose to feel that shit" + "so in our state of inebriation, britt and i decided that have a small penis should be illegal and punishable by the death penalty." + "I’m usually anti death penalty but in his case it’s hard to have mercy for him. He too must have a microscopic penis. I call his behavior “small penis behavior”... sadly it’s deadly."
  • Saying that corona shoul kill men with small dicks first: "Hope coronavirus kills all small penis men first"
  • Being told that everyone matters... except for them: "You are ENOUGH. Unless your dick is small.... then kill ya self, you’re useless"
  • Jokes about murder and torture: "Small dick men should be killed" + "Why divorce when you can kill him and make it look like an accident. No one likes extreme small dick syndrome". With another answering: "Exactly! Let's air pump up his dicc at the nearest gas station" The same girl also quoted a "joke" (I have to use the word loosely here...) about a connection between homophobia and genital size: "“Every small dick guy I’ve slept with is a homophobe. Coincidence? I think not”"
  • Jokes about them being told to kill themselves: In response to a documentary about a man with a small penis who is told to commit suicide, this exchange took place: Boy says: "Halfway into this documentary about a dude with a small penis. The dude was told to kill himself Haha.". Girl responds by quoting the attack and laughing about it: ""just put a knife up to your throat and end it now" Hahaha"

But it goes beyond that, to talkshows, bigger influencers, politics, activism, healthcare and courtrooms:

• During a "Living with a micropenis" segment, "This Morning's" Ruth made it a point to use a tape measure to visualize just how small a micropenis is when compared to different sizes.

• VlogSquad had a weird ass video with a dude who allegedly has a small penis. The girls mention that he claims to actually be 5in when erect, though the girls appear to have no idea about bone pressed measurements, how a fat pad behaves during sex or what actual growers look like. Judging by their excitement about seeing his dick, they probably haven't found out about the various ways in which one could see this if one really wanted to. According to some of them, he is fine with his appearance... but is somehow taken to a doctor where they talk about enlargement and everyone, including the nurse, is joking about him in one way or another (see both videos) and totally excited to see a small dick because apparently google images does not work for them. Him shakingly asking the nurse about whether he is the smallest she has ever seen also didn't really look as comfortable as some of them want to convince themselves he was, but as they stood around him, they did not seem too empathetic about it - they were eager to laugh. All taken together, it is just really weird - regardless of the contents being scripted for entertainment or not... this is weird entertainment if it is.

• Sophie Hermann said on Celebs Go Dating that there is nothing more offensive than a "skinny noodle" and that nobody wants someone with a small dick.

• Kaceytron regularly "celebrated" "micropenis awareness month" by emphasizing how small they are, comparing it on rulers and whatnot. She is not the first nor the last to take the piss at men with small dicks whilst claiming to help by shoving their alleged inadequacy in their faces. The fact that society thinks the mere mentioning of small dicks is hilarious makes it easy to just do that, with everybody well aware of the implications, whilst acting innocent. Excuses given by those who engage in this kind of body shaming have ranged from "laughing with them" to "they don't get the irony".

  • For those who want to give her the benefit of the doubt regarding what follows, watch this little show that happened during "micropenis awareness month 2014". Even if she is a troll, she further normalizes this behavior by staging something like this and it clearly shows what she means by "raising awareness". It shows kaceytron (acting as if, I guess - though her part is pretty convincing) she is bullying a friend (catcam) for having a micropenis. Laughing her ass off, telling him that he will never find a girlfriend, needs tweezers to touch his dick, how he "can't get it in because it's too small" or that he's surely compensating for something whilst saying "I'm raising awareness for you" (followed by giggling) from time to time inbetween laughing her ass off whilst he is asking her to stop, talking about being bullied by classmates and how people should be ok with their bodies. It's genuinely pretty disturbing, even though he makes it sound quite staged. What a theatrical masterpiece /s.
  • In 2018, she answered a question about catcam (the guy from the aforementioned segment) with something like: "I think he finaly grew up, i think his penis grew or something. It's not so small anymore and it's giving him a lot more confidence."
  • Here are her "awareness month" videos: 2014, 2015, 2016 pt1, 2016 pt2, 2018

• Similarly, "small penis competitions" are often presented as somehow positive... with the media failing to realize that just because there are men who do not mind the degradation and humiliationn incorporated in these shows, it doesn't make it any less problematic when applied to the general population. In 2016, one such competitions lacked contestants and thus encouraged people to nominate others.

  • Again, the common theme is to claim advocacy whilst acting against it. The website reads: "Wellcum, fellow dick enthusiast to the Smallest Penis in Brooklyn nomination portal. You’ve arrived here because you’ve got a little secret to tell us about your friend’s little secret. You’re here because you believe that all men were created equal regardless of the make and model of their bologni ponies. We don’t want to know how you found out about your friend’s diminutive dagger — wait, actually yes we do. Please give some context about that cocktail wiener in the comment box below. (You’ll enter the address on the next page). Thank you for participating and standing up for small dicks everywhere. And if you too suffer this unfortunate l ailment, don’t despair. As Grandmother dick always said, “If you can’t reach the bottom, bang the shit out of the sides.” Please understand we will share this information with the Kings County Saloon. Limit yourself to one nomination."

• After their break-up, Hailey Glassman complained about Jon Gosselins size and boasted about psychologically abusing him: ""He's hung like a nine-year-old boy," she snipes. "I'm serious. This is true," she adds, even claiming he measures up to "3 inches". The angry ex-girlfriend surmises that "anybody who sleeps with him will notice. It's very noticeable. It's so tiny, tiny, tiny." Glassman, featured scantily-clad on Steppin Out's cover, adds that she "would laugh about it with my mom." But Gosselin didn't think it was very funny at all. "He said, 'You know how subconscious [sic] I am of down there,'" Glassman recalls. She admits she wasn't very sensitive about the topic. "I would tell him to his face, 'I don't think you would cheat on me because you're so small.' I would tell him that all the time.""

  • Following that, he received support further abuse, including by Kate Major: "I'm surprised he's so 'cocky' because down there he's not." Kate also tells the magazine that she and Hailey "have even laughed about it!"
  • And allegedly by Kate Gosselin: "[...] another "source" tells the magazine that his ex wife Kate had a different way of referring to his manhood: "Stubby." According to the source, Kate would joke with friends and family about Jon's, er, shortcomings, and even call him "Stubby" to his face to mock him. Us Weekly has reported that Kate, 34, often chastised Jon, 32, over the course of their 10-year marriage, which was officially dissolved last December. Admitted Jon to Good Morning America last September, "I took a lot of abuse from her. I was put down.""
  • Eventually, Glassman claimed to have uploaded revenge porn of Gosselin (Note: It was a random google pic), which was celebrated by some magazines.
  • Some still made sure to screenshot and host a copy of it. For example on buzzfeed (NSFW).
  • Another magazine supported them: "Beware of the scorned ex-girlfriend, ye men of small penises! Jon Gosselin's ex, Hailey Glassman, got back at him by telling the whole world what Kate Gosselin already knew: that Jon's penis was "tiny, tiny, tiny!" Although, Kate was slightly more generous when she referred to her ex's penis as "stubby." Ohh the things we women do to stroke a man's ego — no matter how small."
  • Chelsea Handler joined in on Chelsea Lately as well.

• Lily Allen wrote a song bodyshaming her former boyfriend for breaking up with her... generalizing it in an interview: "And this is her [the girl in the song] way of retaliating... is by teasing him about the size of his knob. So yes, it's pretty simple. I think it is something that all girls do behind boys backs... is talk about the size of their knobs once they split up [giggle]. Sorry boys, but it's true [laugh]. Be afraid... be very afraid."

• Lily Allen introduces her song "Not Big" to cheering and laughing crowds by talking about how men with small dicks are the worst type of men, disappointing and how she hopes that there are no men with small dicks in her crowds. Here is a non-exhaustive selection: Mexico, Toronto, Boston, Los Angeles, Planeta Terra Festival

• Chelsea Handler had a segment about how she was told that "men with small dicks can be good at other things". Her answer being: "Like what? maths?"

• At the MTV GOAT Awards 2020, Kevin Hart was introduced by Chelsea Handler: "No matter what movie, which co-star, what scene, this comedy giant always steals the show. He likes to tell me it's because of his big dick energy. I like to tell him it's because of his small dick energy because anyone working that hard is suffering from small dick energy. He and I will have to agree to disagree because I never want to see that little baby penis,' Chelsea joked. 'Either way, he's still a GOAT!,' Chelsea yelled as Kevin was announced as the GOAT Comedy Giant."

• Magazines celebrated the introduction of the "small dick sign" as an emoji: When the “pinching hand” emoji — depicting a thumb and index finger about an inch apart — first appeared in 2019, the internet happily went to work. “A new emoji to mock men,” Vice declared on its website. “May change sexting forever,” read a Buzzfeed headline. “If you’re one of the people going to the press to protest this emoji being used to mock small penises, your secret is out,” Stephen Colbert quipped on “The Late Show.”

• The term "small dick energy" has been used in political relations, for example by the russian embassy.

• Similarly, usage of the term was reported between britain and france.

• It has not been absent in activism either, as peta tried to advocate for veganism by spreading the message that a mother eating chicken may make her boy get a small dick, claiming "the more chicken consumed, the smaller the dick."

• Similarly, Sydneys "Roads and Traffic Authority" started the "Pinky Campaign" - you know, that other sign a society that totally doesn't treat men with small dicks like garbage has established to mock them - which basically claims that someone who speeds has a small dick: "Known as the ''pinkie'' campaign, the Roads and Traffic Authority's advertisement ''Speeding: No One Thinks Big of You'' featured several young and old women waving their pinkie fingers at young men speeding, suggesting the size of their manhood had driven them to speed."

• People made up a story about hitler having a micropenis.

• News outlets were quick to pick up on it. After all, the holocaust apparently did not satisfy the crowds... but him having a small dick... yeah, that would be something to criticize... /s

• Cheering crowds laughed as steve harvey told them regarding hitler and the holocaust: "I promise you: that was the root of ALL of his damn evil. If you got a micropenis, you've got a lot of problems and your ass is mad all the time."

• Trump, another one who shouldn't be hard to criticize without references to his body, has been insulted that way all the time. From statues, which were the subject of countless social media posts as well as merchandise, to this.

• Comedienne Sommore had a segment claiming "if you don't have a big dick, don't show up with a big dick man's conversation".

• One of the first live performances of short dick man - a song that features common bullying quotes whilst playing a laughing track in what I can only assume to be an attempt to retraumatize victims of bullying - was live on TV in front of an audience of small children.

• Said song gathered almost 50 thousand tiktok clips with up to a million likes each.

• Ali Wong had a segment about an ex with a micropenis - the great twist being that he was black. She also entertains the idea that men with small dicks would refuse sex with women to trap them using feelings - a discriminatory idea that has not only been used to pressure men into semi-consensual sex, but also for places like FDS to recommend semi-consensual (if not unconsensual) partial envelopment of men's genitalia by hand to make sure he is "worthy". The segment ends with his assassination for damaging the reputation of his race.

• Countless BLM protesters used "racism is small dick energy" signs. The signs were posted to the instagram stories of celebrities with over ten million followers, like kristenanniebell. And do I need to bring up all the merch? There is nothing you can't get with that slogan slapped onto it.

• This great video also ("jokingly"?) suggested unconsensual partial envelopment through a man's pants as means to find out his size. Whilst sounding like one could not be serious about it, FDS mods and its founder later suggested it to members of their sub. Also see this.

• The SuicideWatch subreddit had to turn away men who are suicidal due to the consequences of living with a small dick, as the internet has proven itself unable to deal with this issue.

• A UK mental health crisis team refused to look at, talk or provide treatment to a man whose suicidal episode they attributed to his penis size and everything related to it, as he had complained about bullying during earlier sessions. The man, who was brought to the hospital at 3 am by the police, was assessed as "high-risk" according the triage nurse and was ready to have himself committed, was found dead hours after being turned away. Meanwhile, at the hospital, the mental health team was seen making fun of his dick by multiple parties. I linked to it at the end of this comment.

• Michelle Wolf had a netflix clip in which she tells a cheering and laughing audience that men with small dicks should just kill themselves. The video has gained millions of views with an overwhelmingly positive rating. For those claiming there to be a twist just because she said she does not want huge either, please read the aforementioned post for a good breakdown.

• Whilst in court, survivors of the golden state serial rapist and serial killer suggested his penis size as the cause for his anger.

• When the judge had to bring up the fact that the victims consistently described the perpetrators penis as small, the whole court erupted in laughter and cheering: "A courtroom erupted with laughter and cheers as a prosecutor told of how a serial sex killer had a small penis. Victims and their relatives applauded as prosecutor Amy Holliday told a court room in Sacramento, California, how multiple women had remarked on Golden State Killer Joseph DeAngelo’s small manhood."

• Throughout the popular video (one instance of it gathered more than 1.6 million views with a positive like/dislike ratio) of a violent female on male rape at a party, which I exposed some time ago, the victim was repeatedly mocked by bystanders for allegedly having a "baby dick". I linked to it at the end of this comment (the post is nsfw).

What exactly has to happen for people to realize the scope of this issue? In fact, what else is there to happen? How do you top being called the root of the holocaust, have victims of a serial killer suggest it as the root of his anger in court, being mocked over it instead of helped by bystanders in the viral video of your violent rape, being told to kill yourself and being denied treatment if you actually plan to? How do you top courtrooms, theatres and concert halls erupting in laughter and cheering when observing this? How do you top videos of all of this going viral and getting upvoted? This does not just happen, it is rewarded, glorified, celebrated and reinforced into childrens heads well before they reach puberty and will be confronted with porn.

You can bet that among all these audiences, people viewing the videos, people making the jokes... there will be numerous mothers of boys with this issue, there will be fathers of boys with this issue, there will be wives, sisters, friends, classmates, girlfriends and anyone else who could be a person of trust and support to a boy with this issue. And if your first concern is whether he observes it, you did not get it. You don't become a more compassionate person by hiding your lack of compassion from him. By only laughing if you watch the show without him. By only listening to that song without him. By creating a mask of who you are to comfort him whilst engaging in the very behavior that enables the pain he may open up about. Either you care and change, or you are somone whom the boy would want to stay away from if you were honest about your behavior and the views that need to be present to engage in it - even if such a view is "it is just jokes". A view that does not withstand this post, and you know it.