I almost exclusively keep up to date on current events using r/news, r/wordnews, and r/politics. I’m going to describe a pattern I’ve noticed with highly-upvoted, popular comments on these subs, especially politics and news.
Often when complimenting good, strong men such as Anthony Fauci or Barack Obama, someone will make a comment like “some real big dick energy with this one” or “wow, I don’t know how he can even find pants that fit with the gigantic dick he’s carrying around”.
When insulting bad, weak men such as Donald Trump or Ted Cruz, someone will make a comment like “no wonder he’s feeling insecure, having a tiny dick tends to do that to a man” or “hmm, he must be compensating for certain... inadequacies”. Also these comments are often extended to right-leaning men in general.
I always thought these comments were toxic as fuck and harmful to the males reading them. It doesn’t surprise me that there are people who might make these comments - what does surprise me is that the comments are accepted and popular in left-leaning spaces! Most of these people would not be cool with female body shaming, and in fact I never see highly upvoted female body shaming comments on these subs.
I want to just shake them and get it in their head that penis size is randomly distributed - some excellent men will have small penises, and some abhorrent men will have huge penises, and that doesn’t matter. A man’s quality is not correlated to his genitalia. And when you body shame like this, you’re causing psychological harm to good men.
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Maybe tell them it’s misogynistic to imply that women need to be coddled, whereas men are emotionally resilient and can take the abuse. Seeing as misogyny seems to be the only form of sexism they care about.
I saw a lot of comments about “manlets” growing up, and as a short kid that took me a while to get over. Male children also see this shit - maybe you can dull your rhetoric for their sake, at least?
I do buy into the patriarchy, but I don’t buy into the idea that males are all guilty oppressors who deserve whatever abuse you feel like hurling at them
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Does it? Never heard this before. I’m sure some feminists would agree to that, but you don’t have to interpret the concept so radically to believe it exists. Wikipedia says “Patriarchy is a social system in which men hold primary power and predominate in roles of political leadership, moral authority, social privilege and control of property”
For an example off the top of my head, there have been around 2000 US Senators, and 3% of them have been women. Here is the list of women Senators. Pretty sparse, yeah?
Men have their own horrible set of disadvantages, and I believe this is where we and feminists tend to diverge. But we can still acknowledge that women have been historically disadvantaged in many ways (and continue to be)
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No... this statement is insanity. Have you spent any time actually looking into women’s issues?
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I think you’re arguing against a lot of feminist theory that I don’t necessarily agree with, but not the definition I gave earlier. The most powerful individuals in US society have historically been males, and males are still overrepresented. On a lower level, men have historically commanded households, businesses, and other organizations. Men have always been the ones making decisions and driving society, even decisions that harm other men.
Women prefer not to hold positions of power? If that’s the case, why do we increasingly see women seek and gain these positions as society becomes less patriarchal? I think most nurses and schoolteachers are women because caretaking and child-rearing are traditionally feminine roles.
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