This post links two questions together that have been asked lately in this sub: 1. Does feminism make it impossible to date at all in our society? 2. Do you have trouble 'coming out' as a man's advocate in the leftist circles you move in?
The two questions separately may lead to the conclusion that it's all not that bad. There probably are enough places in society where girls and women like male attention, maybe even male attention that you yourself would find going too far or being too rude or at least too vulgar. And there'll be places where you must be 'well-mannered' but at least can be honest. The feminist habit of judging every male approach as harassment until proven otherwise is non-existent there.
And about the leftist circles you move in... Well, you don't have to be open and honest about everything, and sometimes things take their time.
But then! Say, you're a man who looks for a female partner, but you're also a man who likes moving around in: artistic circles, especially around poetry and (classical) music; circles where people are interested in nature, the environment and sustainability; in equality, in helping the poor, doing volunteer work for all kinds of unfortunate people; groups with a non-conformist and anti-authoritarian self-image (which, of course, is often actually too flattering). In general, you like the atmosphere there, only... Most people there are not just intersectional feminists, they think intersectional feminism the only reasonable ideology thinkable! (Which tbh is a main feature of that ideology.) Which means that the women there only accept men who don't 'objectify' them (which means approaching them (partly) because they look pretty), who don't 'harass' them by being too quick with sexual proposes or advances, but are no 'hypocrites' either by pretending to be just friends while they're actually full of desire. Which generally means women expect men to be asexual until they have explicit permission to be otherwise, and are often disappointed when a man on his own initiative turns out to be otherwise (a bit like 'tolerant' people in the '60 and '70 who had nothing against gays as long as they weren't too obviously gay, but then that same attitude towards straight men); but at the same time wonder why they happen only to meet asexual men. (This is a bit of an exaggerated, caricatural, but not untrue description of groups of people I know rather well.)
So yes, there may be still enough places in society to meet women for romantic or sexual purposes. But for leftist men, they are harder to find and feel less like 'home'. LWMA's may even be the group who is hardest affected by this dilemma. We want to be part of the left, not just politically but also socially, but tragically, for an important part of our lives and dreams there seems to be no room there.
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As long as feminists continue to ignore the internalized male gender role enforcement and toxic masculinity that women have, feminism will continue to be a movement that doesn't help men.
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