This frame of mind that when a couple fights, the guy has to sleep on the couch or leave the house and stay at a hotel is extremely sexist.

Yeah I've seen you express these ideas before, I think we are largely in agreement on the topic of "power" and the different ways in which it can manifest, and how feminism by focusing only on formalised political authority neglects many covert forms of power that exist.

On a related note, I've been wondering recently how we could get society at large to reject feminist ideas and most notably "patriarchy theory" (the idea that society is created for the benefit of men and at the expense of women's interests) and reject the ongoing demonisation of men and masculinity. There's no sense arguing with or appealing to feminists because none of them will listen to any indication that their ideology is wrong - I've long ceased to try and really engage with them because few of them argue in good faith and few are interested to listen to any opposing views. The differences in beliefs are just irreconcilable.

Even many feminist scholars have their feet rooted in belief perseverance and only look for evidence that can be interpreted in favour of their theory (and rationalise away any contadictory information), though I would argue that as scholars they're obligated to consider, publish and take into account information and opposing views which might contradict their ideology, instead of trying to dismiss them, and entertain alternative hypotheses. But they don't.

Ultimately what would be good is having more research around gender examining things from a non-feminist standpoint, and to have a good way to get this research to the public. Feminist theory is a very misleading picture of the relations between the sexes, but it's the dominant view. I want to see more alternative views of the relations between the sexes, both currently and throughout history, being presented. Very few anti-feminists or non-feminists or men's rights activists have such significant influence that they could push such a change through, though, and academia as it currently is is a write-off because it's long been infested by these ideas and is actually very responsible for the current popularity of feminist views.

Every single time I look at academia, every single time I read the news, every single time I look at social media, I'm bombarded with hit-pieces painting women as oppressed and men as being at fault for this supposed oppression. We're drowning in their propaganda. I keep seeing ads about violence against women here in Australia (I think you're in Australia too, so you should know about this) which says "let's stop it from the start" painting men as responsible, and acting as if little boys need to be taught how to be decent people. As if little boys are potential future abusers. It's hard to combat because you're pushing against academia almost all of which has been infested with the feminist agenda and the almost entirely woke feminist media pushing out propaganda piece after propaganda piece about women's oppression. And for us, researching every single claim is near-impossible because none of us have the funding nor the tools to do so.

The problem is kind of self-sustaining because you need some significant social support to change the current state of things and to create an environment conducive to research outside of the feminist lens. But without such research, it's difficult to garner any huge significant support for such a push to happen. And even if you somehow single-handedly manage to get a lot of good information contradicting the feminist narrative and manage to get this information to the larger public there are additional barriers which are posed by our evolved instincts which make change hard.

What I want most and why I am even involved here in the first place is to shift the Overton window, but it's hell to shift, especially on this topic.