We always read articles and videos about redefining masculinity and femininity, however the goal is very different. the redefinition of femininity is always to make women more happy and fulfilled. women are encouraged to prioritize themselves, not let others shame them for having sex and not wanting children, asking their partners to reciprocate oral etc etc

But the talk about redefinition of masculinity is not to make men more happy and fulfilled but to keep them enslaved. let me give you some examples:

Men should do the chasing

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" The man initiate all dates, calls and texts. not you. this is the vetting process in the begging, set the tone for the relationship. i was dating this guy before and he said something along the line of "yeah i don't chase" i instanly knew this was not the person for me. because i want to feel pursued. not feel well if i reach out he may eww what ? what's happening stop eww i need someone to be a man. someone to be an alpha man. "

Asha Christina, relationship youtuber.

Why should the men initiate everything ?! this is not a healthy dynamic, if you both like each other why she don't call you or make plans ? how being the initiator make you an "alpha man" ? having less power make you a better man ? really ? chasing should be mutual. being the one who do the "pursuing" will kill your self esteem and respect. and the same youtuber in an other video titled How to Test If a Guy Really Wants YOU! she say if you are the only one who is reachig out and initiating plans it's a sign he doesn't respect you !! what ???!!!! who benefit from this definition of masculinity/manhood ? not you.

Men should pay

Most people (including men) still think that men should pay for dates, this doesn't make any sense why would you pay for someone you don't even know and maybe never meet again ? who benefit from this definition of masculinity/manhood ? not you. accordting to a study third of women go to dates just for free food.

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" The moment you say to a guy you have to fu**ing to pay for my time, you are saying this relationship is not equal. this relationship is not equal my time worth more than yours so you should pay for it "

Matthew Hussey, relationship coatch.

Men should stop other men for harassment of women

In the gillette ad the best men can be you see a man following a woman (he didn't even harassed her, maybe wanted just to talk with her) and another man stopped him, why would any one do that ? why would i stop random men for harrasment of random women !!! that's not my job, i'm not a police officier. why would i risk my safety for a random woman ! and why feminists who claim to be against gender roles expect menb to protect women like the old days ?! who benefit from this definition of msculinity/manhood ? not you.

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These are just examples, when talking about what masculinity is and what a "real man" is, always ask who is it benefiting and if the answer is "not you" then reject it. it's a misandric definition.