Genuine question.

Ultimately I think feminism is too broad of an umbrella for me to call myself an anti-feminist. A lot of the basic tenets of feminism I absolutely get behind, especially tearing down gender expectations ascribed to women and undoing a lot of the restrictions placed on them. To put it broadly, I think there's a lot of feminism I agree with, probably more than I disagree with.

But there are, of course, feminists who hate others, and feminists who hate men. A line can absolutely be crossed in "the name" of feminism. At the risk of sounding like a feminist shill, I think it's problematic to conflate these two options: those who hate men are (almost) all feminists, but not all feminists hate men.

I'm much more apt to take the label "anti-hate". While that's broad enough to appear weak, it's also broad enough to be utilized in many scenarios. You don't have to rebut someone's attack stating that feminism is wrong - to which you will undeniably be Motte-and-Baileyd into a corner where you will accused of wanting to reverse course and deny women rights. Instead, you rebut them stating that they are being hateful - placing the blame squarely on the individual for their maladjusted view of gender dynamics.

Maladjusted in italics, because this ultimately gives you the opportunity to speak your voice. Telling someone "you've misinterpreted this" goes a lot further than "you're wrong", and it's because of the wide umbrella of feminism that you can more easily back someone out of radicalism.

I digress, but I'd like to hear your thoughts.