[AWALT] Me (21F) with my ex (25M) of 3 years; I’m dating someone new and I’m happy in my relationship yet the idea of seeing my ex move on and date makes me extremely upset. What’s wrong with me?

ConstantChinner · 2018-07-31T04:06:10+00:00

LOL.
Female nature summed up. She would EASILY go back to this abusive, mean, cruel, violent, toxic man in an INSTANT and leave the good, friendly, nice man!

MGTOW-Balance · 2018-07-31T04:27:17+00:00

"so blah, blah, blah what's wrong with me?"

simply, you're a woman. got that?

ps; you're a scumbag liar talking about you're "fulfilled" with your new boyfriend. if that were the case you wouldn't be obsessing about the ex

rationalthought314 · 2018-07-31T04:45:03+00:00

You can tell a child not to put their hand on a hot stove and either they listen or they learn from the burn. If they keep doing after being burned you have a retarded child. Every person has certain vices they are addicted to but women as a whole seem to love touching that hot stove over and over again but they blame the stove for being hot and not themselves for being stupid for touching it again and again.

PhantomCowboy · 2018-07-31T05:05:01+00:00

The female mind is highly compartmentalized to avoid total awareness of their motivations and the paralyzing cognitive dissonance that would ensue in attempting to identify a consistent framework of morality. This helps them to efficiently execute the dual-mating strategy. Conscious thoughts are insulated from the id (feels). The cognitive hamster translates impulses and behavior into rationalizations ex post facto.

AWALTs desire two basic male archetypes - a father (representing security and comfort) and a boyfriend (stimulation and unpredictability). The classic AF/BB dichotomy.

In this example, the ex is AF and the new bf is potential BB. She is confused because even though her mating strategy shifted toward BB as is typical of a woman approaching the wall, she has stronger id-driven feels expressed as jealousy and insecurity toward AF. Completely normal, as is her own confusion about her situation (compartmentalization).

Global_MGTOW · 2018-07-31T05:48:58+00:00

Man treats roastie bad = roasties panties wet

Man treats roastie good = roasties panties dryer than Death Valley during the summer

he made me feel like a stupid, lazy and ugly sack of shit

Nobody can make you feel anything, if she was feeling this way, what do you want to bet that she is these things?

2018-07-31T08:25:34+00:00

Yep - and she is going to break up with her new guy within 6 months because he just doesn’t make her feel excited.

MenGoingTOWin · 2018-07-31T04:26:02+00:00

She sounds like a total landwhale.

gigasimpdeluxe · 2018-07-31T10:38:59+00:00

The first guy looks better and that's all there is to it. It's hilarious to me how the general consensus seems to be that women don't care about looks that much just because they also care about money and status. Men are always beat with the "shallow" stick even though we are just more honest and less complicated.

the_unseen_one · 2018-07-31T14:18:56+00:00

I saw this behavior all the time when I worked with children. The kid would lose interest in a toy or game, and move on to something else without an issue. They expressed zero interest in what they left, until another kid came up and started playing with the abandoned toy, then child number one would become exceedingly upset and demand the toy back. Basically, this is the same deal sine women operate like children. She left the toy (man) for another toy, and it wasn't until another kid started playing with it that she cares about its existence.

EvergreenMGTOW · 2018-07-31T15:10:14+00:00

"My ex was horrible to me for 3 years." Translation: I chose to stay with someone horrible for 3 years. Now I get to blame him for my numerous neuroses.

"He neglected me emotionally and sexually" He failed to fill my bottomless pit of emotional neediness. He refused to cater to my every whim.

"... generally made me feel like a stupid, lazy and ugly sack of shit" Which is why I stayed with him for 3 years

"When I broke up with him it was like pulling a tooth. He wouldn't take no for an answer for close to 4 months but I eventually blocked him" I kept communicating with him for 4 months whilst simultaneously telling him I wanted no more communication.

"My new boyfriend is a good friend of mine" My new boyfriend is a useful idiot who, if he knew what was good for him, would run for the hills.

"he's seeing new people ... it genuinely depressed me and made me cry" I can't be happy for long with a man who treats me decently ... or a man who treats me badly ... or anyone really.

"I feel like an idiot" I'm an idiot, just like my female friends. AWALT.

rationalthought314 · 2018-07-31T04:21:02+00:00

Legend has it that God himself doesn't understand women.

Cursedpurpose · 2018-07-31T05:45:52+00:00

If I was her current b/f.

Ok babe, since you're putting so much emotional effort into your ex instead of our relationship, let's call it quits. You can torture yourself over your ex without me.

2018-07-31T09:53:21+00:00

I actually knew guys like that too. They still liked their ex, but they ex didnt want them back. So they forced themselves to move on with another girl. Relationships cause only troubles.