Consequences or Problems from dating-Pump/Dump style; for the whole.

eduardkoopman · 2019-01-25T20:14:42+00:00

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XavierMalory · 2019-01-25T20:21:16+00:00

Women know in the first five minutes of meeting you if they're going to fuck you. You hardly have to say anything. In fact, the less you say, the better.

Then you get older, wiser, and your sex drive goes down to a more manageable level, and you realize you don't HAVE to chase pussy, it'll chase you.

The difference is when you're older, you may not decide to catch every pussy thrown at you.

Jaylen-Gads · 2019-01-25T21:41:34+00:00

Pumping and dumping isn’t for everyone idk you guys can’t understand that.

tramese · 2019-01-25T23:31:48+00:00

The idea crossed my mind, of setting yourself a rule that you will only have sex with a woman after “dating”/knowing her for like 6 months

no dude, that's called being a friend orbiter. if you don't fuck her, she holds the cards. get the fuck out of that hole immediately

DangZagnut · 2019-01-25T20:31:57+00:00

For a contrary perspective...

Hence feeding women with sexual interest, on which they build their inflated value, justifying their ridiculous demands and crappy behaviour.

Sounds like a them problem, shortly to be addressed when they go from someone to no one.

One is then unfortunately, still part of feeding into that problem.

So what? It's still their problem, not my problem. Their relationship issues later in life they'll go to therapy to deal with.

When celibate, showing no sexual interest in women.

That's not entirely true, look at incels. I assume you be self-imposed celibacy, which is an action, not an interest, it's impossible to not have any sexual urge, unless you're interfering with your biology, and you can't psychologically stop biological functions. You can repress them, or you can not engage in activities, but I doubt you can make them all disappear.

One will make women feel lower about their inflated (sexual) value, leaving them feeling (more) powerless.

That's a stronge goal for happiness. Maybe I'm doing it wrong but MGTOW isn't about revenge for me, it's for my happiness.

she would have to bring other good qualities/value/skill/behaviour/etc. to the table to be seen as valuable.

I've yet to see any value, other than entertainment in a casual format.

Advantages as a man, might be: more time, less money spend on dates/etc., less drama and stress, more self-respect of not catering to a woman her wishes or putting up with shit just for the chance of sex, creating a great habit of postponing/restricting oneself of something (for one believed own good), discipline.

All valuable things MGTOW provides, and chasing women is a waste of time and resources, hence my laziness in the process.

The disadvantage is obviously not having the enjoyment feelings that comes with sex, and the validation feeling that comes from “being the chosen one to enter her vagina”.

Only the Enterprise has been where no man has gone before.

Now I do it a little different.

P&D is fine if that's your thing. I prefer a more FWB lifestyle where a few times a year I can go frost a face and have some casual fun for a week or so, like taking a vacation.

There's no real validation from it, just fun and perversion. P&D means you have to dress up and hunt down women, impress them, play "game" and all that BS. That's far too much work.

I use dating site profiles to do my fishing, and I don't do anything until I get a contact reaching out, and then make a determination if they're worth talking to. Then some emailing, to get to know one another, maybe graduating to a messaging app if things are looking interesting. This process can go on for some time.

Then some visiting, see how physically compatible we are, and then graduate to a sex vacation schedule.

You remove the major costs of chasing chicks, you are focused on communication and compatibility, and then you keep that going as long as you so choose.

But P&D to me, is a pain. I have to show up somewhere, sell myself (or be sold to), do all the game BS, and that's just too much energy with no guarantee of closing a deal.

iseehot · 2019-01-26T15:42:38+00:00

Make it easy on yourself, read about a few false accusations. Kills my libido.

Title	Consequences or Problems from dating-Pump/Dump style; for the whole.
Author	eduardkoopman
Upvotes	11
Comments	11
Date	January 25, 2019 8:12 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MGTOW
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