I am a firm believer that the people closest to you are the ones that generally do the most damage to whether that is financially, emotionally, physically and/or mentally. I’ve been burnt by my brother before in regards to a business we ran and we ended up owing $18k in which he vanished and left me with. I no longer acknowledge he exist not because of the money but because of principle. My wife divorced me and split up our family and then has tried to remove me from our daughter’s life with a restraining order filled with false allegations. That was thankfully dismissed in court due to a lack of evidence. Then another attempt with stating I was neglecting our daughter in family court. That was also dismissed in court due to lack of evidence.

These are two examples of a few of people that I was very close with and vulnerable to that have betrayed me. Ever since then, I have purposely prevented myself from making new friends (especially at the workplace where I am nice of course but don’t share any personal info with anyone or hang out with anyone outside of work hours), getting into romantic relationships and getting too close to existing family members.

The only downside I have drawn from this is that I have no one to fall back on when times get rough. This is why I have a decent sized emergency fund and have been increasing my income streams. Also, sometimes it may get a bit boring or lonely when I don’t have a group of people to hang with like I did before. But to counteract all of that, you can still have plenty of friends or family and need help and they all disappear on you. So there’s no guarantee you have a support network when you have close relationships with friends of family. Also, I’ve learned to do a lot of things solo and have come to enjoy it sometimes more than with a group because I get to move at my own pace.

So does anyone else also follow this MGTOW philosophy with friends and family to avoid getting used and or betrayed? Because we know as humans, most people only interact with you on a contingent basis that you provide something to them. If that no longer occurs, they tend to vanish. Yes, there are genuinely good people out there but there are far more sinister individuals that make the search for those good people detrimental to your well being.