Does anyone have a comprehensive list to becoming the best version of myself?

--Reddit-Username2-- · 2021-01-12T13:54:18+00:00

20+ year software vet. It’s definitely more what you know than who you know.

Pick a ‘thing’. I would recommend starting with UI (front end) development b/c software can get very intangible and the UI is easier to grasp early on. API development (back end) may be a good option also.
Update your Linked In page. Make it look professional and clean it up so it looks presentable for your goal. Recruiters will need to sell you, and they don’t want a shit product.
Mention to friends/family this is your intent.
Get a Confluence Cloud account. Pretty sure it’s free for a single license.
Get a pluralsight account. $29/mo.
Start grinding pluralsight, and take notes for later reference in confluence.
When you are ready to start coding, do everything on github and make your repos private
When you finish a demoable project, make it public on github.
Share these projects on Linked In as a post
Continue doing this until a recruiter helps you find your first gig
Stay at first gig for 2 years. This game gets much easier after you have proven yourself.

PM me if you need anything.

Good luck!

Cursedwithknowing · 2021-01-12T11:14:07+00:00

List objectives. Research what is needed to reach objectives Create realistic plan/sequencing for objectives. Do it.

p3b234cw4z2 · 2021-01-12T11:13:44+00:00

Therapy to software is a big jump. Honestly, it is impressive what you are trying to do.

I will ask you to first take up free courses in coursera before you go for certifications.

You have to research yourself which language and technology has scope.

The high paying are in the data analysis side. It is also the hardest to learn.

debanked · 2021-01-12T11:17:00+00:00

Your first step is work out "who you are"

Once you do that life becomes easy to work out and its much easier to become the best version of yourself especially once you accept yourself for who you are

Most people don't even know how to even answer the question of "who are you". It's not what you do,it's not your job, it's not where you live, it's not what you wear. It's your internal fabric, good or bad.

I'm generous, I'm a cunt, I'm nervous, I'm loyal, I'm an ass, I have integrity, I can't be trusted, I'm a procrastinator, I'm a cleptomanic, I'm reliable, I have attention to detail, I'm a lazy person

This is your ego or your self, or personality

No point getting advice to be your best until you and we know who your are

the__rev · 2021-01-12T15:22:49+00:00

I want to grow physically stronger, mentally sharper and generally become a boss at life.

Unpopular but true answer: give up porn and whacking off for a while. Use the energy you gain for self-improvement.

Wisdom_of_a_Khan · 2021-01-13T00:41:39+00:00

Can't help with some of that, but as far as physical strength I've done incredibly well over the last 2 years.

The advice I would give to myself day one is start now, don't start tomorrow start now. Hit weights, you can start out slow but do whatever pacing/schedule you can stick to. It's hard as fuck at first, you're putting yourself through something unpleasant but power through it.

There will come a day where it gets addicting. When you start getting complemented on it, or when you look down and you see more chest than belly. After that you won't be forcing yourself anymore, you'll go willingly.

Also, sooner rather than later find a good pre workout for before and a good protein for after your workouts, they help quite a bit.

There's a thousand different workouts you can find on the internet, Don't get sucked into "finding the perfect workout" You won't find it. They're all going to suck at first, they all take time to see results. Pick one and do it then do it again, then do it some more.

Like I said can't help with the other things on the list, but physical strength will help you get there in and of itself. I can't explain it but being muscular just seems to help shit go your way. I was a lardball for quite some time in my early 20s, and doing anything felt like an uphill battle. It seems like society has a blatant negative bias against fat men or scrawny men. I've seen a change in enough areas of my life that I can no longer believe it's mere coincidence.

Good luck friend, you've got it in you to make it happen.

silly_birb · 2021-01-12T12:49:51+00:00

Thake small steps each day, if you try to achieve one big goal wothout breaking it down to small problems you won't last long.

The most difficult part is avpiding instant gratifications because being instantly gratified lowers your drive to seek gratification in your work.

For myself i deleted all videogames i had and it boosted a lot my productivity.

Legs2big · 2021-01-12T14:28:29+00:00

I am one year older and in that field for 4 years. I would suggest you to find projects to build so as to have a decent portfolio. Doing is learning, I mean, that’s how I tend to succeed. I can tell you more in a conversation.

PremiumBerry · 2021-01-12T16:16:05+00:00

I agree that the whole pull yourself up by your bootstraps advice is trash. I'd say if you want to learn software engineering understand this is not something you can completely learn by yourself or online. Mark Zuckerberg's parents had hired him private tutors since he was 12. You will need to either take classes in person or find a tutor. If you want to get fit, same thing, find a trainer or join a cross fit club. Most people try to do everything on their own, which is a recipe for failure. Do you think Michael Jordan became the best basketball player of all-time all by himself? No, he had support from family, coaches, trainers, and teammates. Did he put is half in? Absolutely. Do you think Jeff Bezos created Amazon all by himself? He didn't even code the first website, he hired 2 software developers to do it! Your life should be run like a business, hire experts to do the work for you.

c_is_for_classified · 2021-01-12T18:44:00+00:00

Despite what Joe Biden has said, you can't just take a coal miner and turn him into a software engineer. Not everyone is cut out for that type of work. It takes a certain mindset to not just be good at it, but to even be mediocre at it. Back when I studied Computer Science in college, the "weeder" course was on data structures. If someone couldn't get past that course, they should just change majors. I've heard others say that if you cannot get the concept of recursion then you are not cut out for software. I don't know if there is a single test anyone could take that would tell them if they are cut out for that type of work. But you should see if you are before you decide to completely commit to going into it.

9trogenta · 2021-01-12T11:50:35+00:00

Well... I don't want to become the best version of yourself :)

alol5 · 2021-01-12T19:47:31+00:00

I want to grow physically stronger, mentally sharper and generally become a boss at life.

NOFAP, MGTOW, Wim Hof method, Jordan peterson 12 rules, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Title	Does anyone have a comprehensive list to becoming the best version of myself?
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Date	January 12, 2021 10:35 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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