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Frustrated, asking why with my ex

August 2, 2019

I will try to keep this short: - start dating girl - things are going great (or so I thought) - she's depressed, cutting herself I take her to doctor and hospital visits and she tells me that she really loves me - needs to have me on the phone every night before we sleep, that way she can sleep properly - date for around 11 months, she ends things on facetime. Finds another guy as soon as we broke up. - they break up, about a month later calls me and says she's really sorry about what happened. SAYS SHE WOULD NEVER CHEAT OR DUMP ME LIKE THAT AGAIN. - we are back together after a week - things are going good, same situation as before. Always on the phone with her otherwise she asks where I am - I lose my mom to cancer, I start acting kind of weak. She says she still loves me no matter what. - she dumps me via FaceTime yet again. I am upset and say I was with you through all your depression and now I'm going through a rough time and you just leave? She LAUGHS at me and is back again with another guy...

What the hell guys?

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Title Frustrated, asking why with my ex
Author Random_throwaway95
Upvotes 41
Comments 38
Date August 2, 2019 7:58 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MGTOW
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/frustrated-asking-why-with-my-ex.413354
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/MGTOW/comments/cl935m/frustrated_asking_why_with_my_ex/
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[–]DangZagnut53 points54 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're her emotional tampon, and you keep enabling her. Ghost, block, never talk to her again on every form of communication including ESP.

Never waste a second of emotional energy on a woman. She's a drama pig. You're lucky you got out without her claiming rape.

[–]yeet18694 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I really wish i had known about this sub when i was dating her ex, i didnt realise so many redflags. I read a bunch of stuff on here and i realised there were so many red flags. I was op once, but never again.

[–]strongandhappy18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Don't ask her, ask yourself, why did I expect anything else to happen when I took her back? You're as much a problem here as she is because you expect her to be different than she is. You may as well shout at the Moon.

[–]2stepp3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You may as well shout at the Moon.

That's a beautiful metaphor btw.

[–]Fedor_Fedorov12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

She saw you as a beta emotional support provider, basically someone to use for comfort. And she doesn't give a fuck about your feelings because she doesn't respect you as a man. When she said she loves you she's basically saying "I need you here cause I'm mentally ill" and to provide comfort for her while she dreams of fucking Chad and Tyrone. You got used and you got played. I'm willing to bet you guys never had sex either.

[–]MattFoley792 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm willing to bet you guys never had sex either.

He'd be fortunate if this is the case.

[–]crawdaddy98808 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your first mistake was taking her back. Girls like that have mental health issues. Break contact as she will only bring you more misery.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This one time I was poking a beehive when I got stung. Later on, I was walking and saw the same beehive so I tried poking it again. Then I got stung, which I never would have expected. What the hell guys?

[–]MuleFool427 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's just your turn, until it's not. Don't ever look at relationships as permanent. They all have an end. Always be ready to walk away.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The lesson is don’t use face time

[–]Vaxel005 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like borderline personality disorder.

[–]ThePlague5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Why would you post this to a MGTOW forum? You acted like an emotional tampon during phase 1 despite the HUGE red flags. Then, you acted like a simp during phase 2. Now you're asking what the hell? Jesus.

Women act the way women act. You can't change that, all you can do is not make poor choices. Your choices are entirely on you.

[–]deadBeefCafe20145 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Anyone who physically abused themselves is a nightmare waiting to happen. Run. Do not walk.

[–]CoinSwapTrader5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Every day is a surprise with a BPD girl!she can love you one minute and want to kill you the next!

You just learned a good lesson...NEVER believe what a woman SAYS and remember her true nature hiding in the shadows at all times.

[–]peguy20004 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Youre so beta its cringe. You need major self improvement

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What the hell guys?

It is the way it is. Sorry bro, life is a hard teacher, but a teacher nonetheless.

[–]Al-Darwish2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Your mistake was staying by number 3

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

AWALT...stop cucking yourseld.

[–]Honkrowtonks2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like she personally has issues, but not all her fault. I get the whole wanting to help someone close to you out, especially when there's romantic feelings, but those were some red flags with the multiple separations and immediate rebounds. And as an aside, it's okay to feel bad about losing a parent and being emotionally vulnerable, that's not weakness. I'm sorry to hear your mom! Losing a loved one will always suck :o(

[–]500dollarsinprizes2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She doesn’t even like herself. What makes you think there’s enough happiness inside of her to give of that to you? You dont fix this - you leave it where you found it.

All your heroics - youre nothing but a clown, and no one loves a clown. If you dont like wearing clown shoes every day, then congratulations! You can take them off now.

One last thing: dont look to her for answers. You wont find them. Fuck that horrid bitch. Go your own way, and one day you wont need those answers because you’ll be asking entirely different questions.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If someone can break up with you and move on so quickly, have some more self worth than to take them back. She sounds very immature and a bit unstable, not the kind of person you need in your life. Better luck next time unfortunately.

[–]Electronic_Record1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You haven’t learned yet? Gawd dayumn !!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me! Don't be a dumbass and never let her worm her way back into your life.

[–]trapperzz1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yup nature is a bitch

[–]GTarkin1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Classic borderline behavior. There is method to the madness. Inform yourself about borderline personality disorder and stay clear of those people

[–]AdonisSefa1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro you lost the most important person in your life. And she doesn't even give a shit. Let that fucking selfish cunt cut herself what will happen? Nothing because girls do. That for attention.

[–]Docbear641 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

She's a broken fucked up person she showed this to you once and you tried to forgive her and then you got surprised when she showed it to you twice...do yourself a favor and when she shows up the third time ignore and block the bitch .

[–]MattFoley791 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude... she's a cutter. What the fuck did you think was going to happen? That you'd have a long, stable, healthy relationship?

Sticking your dick in a cutter even once is a recipe for disaster. Believe me, I know from experience.

Cutting and eating disorders are signs of borderline personality disorder. They can't be helped.

[–]madriverdog1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, won’t get fooled again.”

the only situation this quote ever fit.

[–]edgysecularist1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link


[–]caralto1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

at any point in all of this, how much was she sucking your dick? (if at all)

sounds like your just an emotional cushion to her bro.

i wouldn't get back with a cheater, but if i was inclined, i'd make her pay for it (e.g. like anal, ass to mouth, rimjobs), to emotionally use her and subject her to the sort of disgust she now represents, and then, like an eagle rising, disappear on the bitch. nothing better than her own mind to drive her to the asylum! and you will at least have the memories of having broken her and some nice videos and photos of her pushing her body to the max to pleasure her. but hey, as I said, I wouldn't be with a cheater in the first place.

[–]Grant14120 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm so sorry. You do not deserve any of that. Your answer is that she is remorseless. She is simply cold hearted in incapable of love. She used you. I know that's just simply not enough. I know you still feel so confused. I know you need some sort of humanity from her, some sort of accountability from her. I know you need that. But she won't give it to you. She won't because she feels satisfaction from your confusion and lack of compassionate closure. That is the truth. Live and stay on your feet.

[–]Twistypete0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

>What the hell guys?

Women. That's all the answer there is.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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