Got burned badly and got a heavy dose of the redpill. Feeling depressed and need some advice.

GmanRaz · 2021-06-18T19:07:04+00:00

You need to focus 100% on yourself and what YOU want out of life. Not what our corrupt and degenerate society SAYS you should want out of life. That path leads only to misery.

I am a 38 year old divorced male. In great shape, make decent money, no kids and like any human being I too sometimes get lonely or sad about the state of things. We were simply born into a shit hole of a timeline of humanity. Nothing can be done about that. Instead focus on what YOU CAN DO in your life that brings you satisfaction and joy.

A lesson I learned the hard way by following societies standards of getting married and doing all the things I was "supposed" to do led to me being out of shape, miserable and contemplating suicide. Why? Because I was taught and expected that happiness and satisfaction comes from an outside source or another person. This mentality is false.

The great Miyamoto Musashi said and I quote:

"There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, richer, stronger, quicker or smarter. Everything is within. Seek nothing outside of yourself."

You followed the path of "losing your virginity" in a desperate fashion. Why? Because you felt you were a "loser" because you never got the external validation of a female. Well look where that lead you. To misery and emotional turmoil. Even after you got what you thought you wanted. It caused you to self harm via ignoring red flags etc... And you ended up fucking a slut that should be a piñata because she lets everyone hit it.

Getting external validation will never satisfy you or make you happy. It will just temporarily give you a dopamine hit and make you crave it more. Then it breaks you down when you are starved of it.

There is no "one" person for anyone. It's a Disney fantasy from creative men that are projecting how they wish women and relationship were onto reality. The majorty of men I know in relationships are miserable shells of who they were. Most just waiting for the sweet release of death at this point. Modern Whaminz cannot give you what you need or what you seek. They can only love you for what you do for them and how you make them feel and not for who you are. Most will drain you and then move on to the next victim. If you are really unlucky they will get a free ride using the government as a tool to enslave you financially if you get one pregnant.

You were not in love with her. You were infatuated and in love of the IDEA of being in love with her. Pussy can be quite addicting and brain washing to the inexperienced... But once you sleep with enough women you realize how its all the same. It just comes down to how annoying and worth it is it to put up with the yammering creature attached to it.

I have no doubt that throughout the entire "courting" process you had with the THOT that you lost your virginity to, your gut was screaming at you that something wasn't right. You need to LISTEN TO IT. Your gut will tell you the truth. I ignored it when mine was screaming at me to not get married. I payed a heavy emotional and financial price because I ignored it. Don't make the same mistake. You got off easy here.

Lift heavy things, get in shape, eat well, drink less and don't do heavy drugs. Find your internal masculinity and what makes you happy. FOR YOU. Nobody else. Find the man you want to be... because he has been inside ALL ALONG. The journey ahead will be tough, but it will be worth it. Youll slip off the wagon once in a while, but get back on as soon as you can.

Just remember... You are the Hero of your own story. Nobody else can or will save you. There are very few victims and a lot of volunteers.

ClintonKilldepstein · 2021-06-18T18:55:35+00:00

Feelings fade over time. When you start to obsess over it, just take a moment aside, realize what you are doing, then understand there are much more important things to occupy your time with.

Groundbreaking_the2 · 2021-06-18T21:40:28+00:00

"... was a good learning experience."

Approach every aspect of life like this. Whether good, or bad, it's all about learning and not repeating mistakes.

Why are you jealous? You said it was toxic... so why be jealous of the hell she's going to cause others. A bit of a cliche, but in a year or two you'll look at this moment, shake your head at your own actions... and you'll have learned another lesson.

jhooperp · 2021-06-18T19:17:51+00:00

I don’t think anything I say will help you right now but truth is you need to realize she isn’t special. She isn’t different. She’s just like any other person. Take her off that pedestal.

You need to focus on you. Make money and save. Do what you like and know that all this has been done before countless times. Nothing is new here. If you go back to her you’ll hate yourself. I know right now you’ll keep thinking of the good times and all that but it’s not really true. You’re making the pat with her more than what it is.

This too shall pass. She wasn’t special or different or the one. Take all that out of your mind.

I know you won’t listen right now but it’s true. I hope you’ll get over it faster than normal because you’ll look back on this and cringe. Good luck.

TardPol · 2021-06-18T19:43:52+00:00

Just start building a daily routine slowly. Take care of yourself and try and get healthy physically and your mental issues should dissipate. This is what worked for me, and once you go full MGTOW don't go back, you won't make it off the plantation a 2nd time from the sounds of it.

Salladus · 2021-06-18T23:16:16+00:00

You should be grateful that it happened earlier in your life. If you don't get the lesson the hard way, you will get it sooner or later, and sooner is better.

My previous marriage (now divorced) was painful, but it was honestly one of the biggest lessons I've learned in my life. It really opened my eyes to a reality I never knew, and would have never known otherwise. I was blue pilled in some of my views, and absolutely nothing would have changed my mind, except the horrendous experience I went through.

I am here thanks to my ex. MGTOW doesn't recruit, women send us here.

NoMarriageNoKids · 2021-06-18T20:14:38+00:00

Ginger isn't a handicap. I'm not sure why people think that. As far as her banging other guys after you... it'll be 20+ a year if she is as you say she is. Grab that FFM and then GTFO.

Jadedoldman65 · 2021-06-18T21:15:30+00:00

Everyone makes a dumb move now and then. Like you said, it was a lesson learned and you seem to have come out of it with your life and sanity intact. Just remember what she did to you; remember how you lost your brain when the hormones kicked in and how she managed to lead you around with your d**k. Recognize it, find what makes you happy and concentrate on you. There's no shame in being young, naive and inexperienced...you only get over those things through time and often painful experience.

mgtowpowerballz · 2021-06-18T21:57:48+00:00

If u got no kids stfu get a vastectomy and enjoy life.

mark2398 · 2021-06-18T23:47:03+00:00

Damn, I'm proud of you son. Do you know how many men get oneitis and can't shake it or even admit to it? You have learned a lot and suffered a lot and you are still standing. Sure it's hurtful and sucks, but I will tell you the truth. The only times I ever really learned things is when I got my heart broke, lost my money, or got my ass beat. If you do get weak and go back for some more of that horizontal exercise, the next eventual break up is so much easier. It's like you only have so much feelings to give and when the well runs dry it's empty.

GYOWAndy · 2021-06-19T01:50:59+00:00

It's probably important to realize that you weren't in love with her, more like an idea of her. You loved the idea of being with the facade, the dream; however the reality is the manipulative personality and makeup. Seperating those two will help tremendously.

Just-Lion5245 · 2021-06-19T04:05:55+00:00

I once loved a woman and lost her, and it has been by a wide margin the most difficult and painful thing I've had to deal with. (a sign of a privileged life)

It took many years to fully move past; and (though its cliche) there will always be at least a tiny pang of hurt.

I think it made me a much wiser and more well rounded person. I know it hurts a ton, but as you said (and can already tell deep down) it's going to make you a stronger and smarter individual.

Push as hard as you can on doing random self improvement (exercising/learning/reading) if you're depressed (to keep your mind off the pain), but also don't get yourself down about being lazy; a tough balancing act lol.

Hang with friends if you feel you need it; or get to work on being a hyper-individualized person thats favorite friend is themselves.

The-Wizard-of-Oz- · 2021-06-19T05:01:22+00:00

Dude, you can only blame your lack of experience here. Be glad that she at least taught you stuff and something useful came out of it.

Detach yourself, and work on a project that really matters to you. Also, go scroll, r/DivorceMen a little. It'll cure you.

0verridden · 2021-06-19T05:19:33+00:00

Something really needs to be said about the blackpill. They're so blunt and right about things but, the resolution seems to still be very heavily influenced by what the world thinks - ie a bluepill mindset. It doesn't urge you to separate yourself from the world (to embark on your own way), but instead tacitly shames people for doing so.

Whether it is sent or went, the important thing should be 'your own way'. Find something else to please you - something within your control, in particular.

Zyzz_And_Vtec · 2021-06-18T19:22:00+00:00

You are just experiencing the post virginity state that most of the good kids out there that are too afraid and not confident too date girls. Its unexperience dont worry. You are just experiencing the power of pussy and not just a random one. I think you found a girl that really match your standards and that gave you some things you really appreciated. My guess is that she will probably stick around for some time, but dont worry you are fine its just a cycle like many that happen in one's life. This shit happened to me too, i wasn't that unexperienced or virgin but this Brazilian bitch was fine and femine like nobody. Trust me you probably wont find a girl that will make you feel like that abusive one because feelings were envolve and like i said some pussy aren't just pussy for us it doesn't matter why but the truth is some women knock our socks and some are just pussy. You are still young just chill. I bet you now are much more experienced on the dsting scene, at the least you have an idea about how women are. Prepare yourself, its hard to forget something like that

alienmuseum · 2021-06-18T20:18:31+00:00

Wait what? I'm confused here. At the time, you didn't know how to put your dick in her? WTF...even if you're a virgin at the time, you must have seen what a vagina looks like, right? There are millions of porn vids on the internet. In porn videos, they literally zoom in on the dick going into the vagina and you're telling us that you don't know what to do? Is this for real?

BuildItMakeIt · 2021-06-18T19:53:45+00:00

Take it like a man, son. Alcohol and drugs, and buy a motorcycle. And if your weak feelings come back, sit on a buttplug to remember what it's like to get fucked.

Title	Got burned badly and got a heavy dose of the redpill. Feeling depressed and need some advice.
Author	ThrowRA-test12
Upvotes	36
Comments	24
Date	June 18, 2021 6:28 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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