AITA for giving my wife's car to my daughter who isn't my wife's daughter?

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I (55m)  have been married to my wife (53f) for three years. I have a 23 year old daughter from my previous marriage. We are close and have a good relationship.

Some backstory: When I married my wife she quit her job “to get used to the new house”. I was fine with that as long as she takes over the majority of the housework. Note: all kids were out of the house by then. She said she would like to take a two month break to get used to her new life and then she will start looking for a job. I am a plummber and run my own business. My business is successful, however, my private finances weren’t as great but I have been debt free finally for the last three months. My wife, unfortunately, does not do any housework. The house is a mess. She spends her days listening to conspiracy theories on youtube. She spends money on stones that are meant to protect the house from chemtrails and oils that she takes when she gets sick. It has become a bit of a shitshow really. Every time I try to start the discussion about her getting a job she says that she’s a housewife and she does the housework. But she doesn’t. She maybe cooks tea three times a week but that’s all. She has a car that I bought her but she rarely uses it because she is scared of driving probably because she thinks that the government can hack into cars.

So at the beginning of the week my daughter called me. She said her car had broken down. It’s an old car and there are so many things that need fixing that it’s cheaper to replace it. She asked me if I would go look at some second hand cars with her. I asked her how she’ going to pay for it since her and her boyfriend’s hours have been cut drastically. She said her boyfriend’s parents agreed to loan her the money interest free. She didn’t want to ask me because she knows that I only just got out of debt. It’s true I can’t really help her buy a new car but I feel bad that she has to ask her boyfriend’s parents for help. I told her she could use my wife’s car. She was happy with that.

I then told my wife that my daughter would be picking up the car on the weekend and that she should clean it out. My wife lost it. She said it’s her car, I have no right to give it away and that she needs it. I told her the last time she used it was over two months ago and she only uses it to go to the shops down the street. It’s only 300 meters and she can easily walk. I do the shopping so it’s not like she has to carry heavy bags. This started a discussion about how I don’t give her enough money and me saying she can get a job if she is not happy with the money she gets and that I’m not taking on dept again just so she can buy her lavender oil. My daughter picked up the car yesterday, I had to clean it out. My wife hasn’t talked to me and threw out my rationing of the “bombshelter” that she keeps stocked for the inevitable apocaplyplse. Edit. Forgot to add the the car is in my name and I pay for it.

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