Toxic Femininity is worse than Toxic Masculinity

15,271 points•4,937 comments•submitted by DavidxPxD to r/unpopularopinion22

In recent years we have seen a rise in complaints relating to the behaviour of men and how it can be construed as toxic. The current movements have brought a deeper focus towards this and have created changes, some for the better and some for the worse. But during this time the very people marching against man have completely ignored their own toxic behaviours and a failure to address these would be worry some. Women seem to want equality, but do not want to change their own bad behaviours.

When you think of toxic masculinity you are primarily speaking about mansplaining, manspreading, sexual violence or the boys will be boys argument. The whole movements seems to target the role of men as the dominant sex.

​

But when you look at toxic femininity there is a much wider scope of problems that show up. A lot of toxic behaviours can easily outweigh most of what these people consider to be toxic masculinity. A few examples being;

  • Blaming behavioural issues on periods
  • Acting helpless at times where some physically demanding or unpleasant task comes up
  • Coercing men into sex who didn't seem to really want it and feeling as though you were at liberty to do so because "men always want it"
  • Backed up by studies, women are far more likely to threaten harm to themselves, others or property if a man attempts to leave a relationship
  • Being physically abusive to men while expressing "men can't hit women" and being less likely to face any legal consequences for doing so
  • Lying about pregnancies or being on birth control to see how a man would respond or to manipulate them into staying
  • Manipulating divorce and custody battles by falsely insisting that a man has been abusive to you or a child.

​

Some of these examples are minor toxic offences, like blaming bad behaviour on hormones. It's normal, it happens, but it is no excuse all the same. Some of these examples are major toxic offences. Such as using your gender or children as a weapon to influence decision to go your way.

One of the most common offences of toxic femininity is attempting to convince the world that toxic femininity does not exist.

​

EDIT: Thanks for the constructive discussions happening instead of comment bashing!