First result on google when searching "men obligated"

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https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/politics/amp12438210/women-arent-obligated-to-date-men/

These are excellent points on why men aren't obligated to be involved with women in any way outside of the bare minimum required at the workplace.

https://galoremag.com/no-dont-need-settle-broke-boyfriend/