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On the other side yet it still hurts

September 11, 2019
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Awhile back, I posted about how my own relationship went awry. I was dating someone older than me that told me that "we were only 80% compatible...blah blah...saw me like her older brother (she was older but, I was still like an older brother to her) . You can look at my history to see how pathetic I was.

Anyway! I took the advice of some very supportive men here. I toiled hard and put myself under the spotlight for all my insecurities. I began working on myself and went to the gym religiously. I spent most of my expendable energy to family, my job and working out. Eat healthily, do skin care routines, reading books. A lot of self love.

Ive made visible gains and slowly moving on from what had happened, still healing until today.

I've been mentoring this 20 yr old girl at work for quite some time. I am friendly...during breaktime. She's been openly flirting with me even though I try to be serious at work. She likes to act cute and pretend to be helpless , to which I respond very crudely. I just tell her how to do her work or refer to her notes that I asked her to scribble down. Apparently, being cold and distant to them makes them go for you more. Her voice jumps in cadence as if delighted whenever I yell at her or raise my voice.

She's attractive (young) but I am emotionally unavailable and I dont "shit where I eat" PLUS she's attached. I don't do that shit. I rather fuck a sex worker than be an accessory to cheating if I am thirsty.

What triggered my flashback was because she said "My boyfriend is so boring..."

I asked, "what's your boyfriend doing?"

"He's in the airforce (selected and going soon) For now, he's waitering so we don't spend that much time together"

She proceeds to tell me how responsible and perfect her boyfriend is. How the guy has planned his life and has dreams. He wanted to attend university to become a physiotherapist after his service. I'm an allied health professional myself. It's not the most lucrative job but, it's stable. People won't stop dying/injuring themselves anytime soon .

I told her that her guy was going to reach far and I hope that he doesnt lose his way in the military (as some of my friends became alcoholics or became violent). I even joked of getting a discount from him when he's done and certified as a physiotherapist. She rolls her eyes because 'a physio degree is four years'

She tilts her head at me and clicks her tongue, "But he's so boring. Like when we fu..."

I tensed up. She noticed.

She became conscious of herself. She bent closer and changed to a whisper "I just wish he was more kinky. You know?"

There was a dirty smile as she looked at me.

At this point, all the bad memories I had started coming back. I am no means, a Chad. I am healthy and I lift and Im exuding confidence because i love and take care of myself.

I remained quiet... and looked at her with disappointed eyes before trying to pass it off with a laugh.

"You're saying that now cause you havent seen him in uniform yet." I can't remember what I said exactly but I knew I would break character (mentor) and just reprimand her if I stayed a second longer. My mind was starting to sound the evacuation sirens. Maybe it was the nuclear meltdown siren.

I excused myself and sat at a corner and started to slowly rearrange stacks of paper repeatedly until it was time to go home. I faced the wall trying to fight back tears because I felt like I was thrown back to a few months ago when I was that 'boring, perfect and responsible guy who had planned his life"

My ex told me that we were "socially, spiritually, emotionally and mentally compatible but, we weren't sexually compatible"

Exact words from my ex. "We were 80% compatible"

Honestly, wtf? Fuck this world. Honk honk.

On another note, I guess I still have some more healing to do.

Daily dose of red pill, gentlemen.

Also, thank you to those who supported me during my last post. I hope you read this and see that I am doing better! Much love , bros!

*Edit: Thank you for all the advice and support. I went to sleep yesterday because gotta get that 8 hours of sleep before work.

Will try my best to do some replies on the train ride home.

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Title On the other side yet it still hurts
Author throw_away_thethrow_
Upvotes 128
Comments 27
Date September 11, 2019 12:56 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MGTOW
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[–]TapeFloss26 points27 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I interpret "not sexually compatible" as "I don't find you attractive".

It's a good thing she ended this or you would end up in a deadbedroom, million times worse than a breakup because to get out of it you need a divorce and it's costly.

[–]throw_away_thethrow_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh. I wish my ex ended it. That wouldve been less hurtful.

She suggested that we 'open up' the relationship. After all, she only needs the 20% from other people. Otherwise, I was 'perfect'.

No point dwelling now. Life will teach her humility.

But you are right, I was lucky she blurted out those words. It gave me resolve to snap out of it.

[–]CuntMonteCristo21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good to see you making progress. Well done!

[–]McToe12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had my neighbor come up to me while walking my dog the other night. She was wearing a see-thru top/bra and skirt, and greeted me in an inebriated state. As she spoke, she rubbed herself slightly from the chest and began adjusting her panty line from the front before looking back to tell her boyfriend "Look at these fine gentlemen I ran into". The poor dude just turned and walked the other way lol. She reiterated how fucked up she was and I told her she needed to unfuck herself. God help us all gents.

[–]eduardkoopman10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

She wants a stable kinky dude. No such thing extists in 1 person.
It's either:
* a stable dude that is "boring"; or
* a fucked up broke unavailable dude that is kinky.

Can't have it all. One needs to learn to priorotise. But most young women can't or won't; and want it all. So they end up, with nothing at all.

[–]RealBiggly5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

No, they end up with some simp's house, kids and income.

[–]eduardkoopman1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

If a woman can pull it off, to find a well earning man to marry and impregnate her. It's becoming more rare though, then in the past. Men are smarter in that way then the previous generation.

[–]throw_away_thethrow_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. Life is the ultimate teacher of humility.

The Wall and friends will handle them

[–]krusty_fat8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bro don't date at work #metoo

[–]Fedor_Fedorov8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's never good enough. They always want more and more. Had a chick monkey branch to me at school- told me her boyfriend was such a lame loser and she was using him for money.

[–]betterforitall6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dude, you're rockin it. You hit a bump in the road. I assure you, it will pass.

You took this personally when it is nothing more than an AWALT confirmation. Nothing anyone can do is good enough.

Congratulations on dodging the lawsuit.

[–]Rejoice76 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hoes hoes hoes!

[–]iseehot2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is unfortunate you have to work with a duplicitous person. Is there a threat to the company in this kind of behavior?

[–]MuleFool422 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great post and something that we can all learn from. You can only trust yourself in this world, never forget. MGTOW is the only way.

[–]CutterPillar1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man, start digging all possible dirt on that fem. The sooner the better. All her fuckups at work, all possible criminal actions / misdemeanors she might have. Will come in handy when she gets angry with you unavailability and decides to #metoo you.

[–]Chakra_Devourer1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You're still upset about some female that dumped you. It is time to let go of her. Know that you're the prize. The bitch that dumped you doesn't deserve any more time and effort on your part. Stop thinking about her.

[–]throw_away_thethrow_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know. Thank you for the words. The whole exchange just caused a nasty flashback.

Gotta keep walking. Just need more time.

[–]Z0mbs0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't know you, but I'm proud of you!

[–]Fragrant_Point0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry for your pain bro but you're prioritizing yourself and this moment proves that. Keep fighting the good fight.

[–]PsyKickAngel0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

So proud of you man keep up the good work.

[–]omarsn930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Stay strong man and ignore that hoe at your work.

[–]TheCuckTriggerer-3 points-2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You should plow her out get it on film and then go show her boyfriend what a ho he has that way he can dump her. You might have to jump on this grenade to save this poor guy some heartbreak, she's going to cheat on him at some point and he's going to find out sooner or later, might as well be sooner.

And if she wants to be in a relationship with you, tell her you only do TPE relationships. Stands for Total Power Exchange, aka, the consensual Maste/slave relationship. These types of relationships are only found within the world of BDSM. She has to wear a collar and refer to you as Master and submit to your training, where you mold her into your perfect woman. You did say she likes kink, test her to see how far she's willing to go.

And on the off hand chance she does surrender herself to you, then train that bitch and craft her into a nawalt. Her mind won't be fully developed until the age of 25, there's a chance you could mold her to your will if you're boss alpha enough. Nawalt's are created, they're never born, and this is one of the few ways to make one.

[–]Chakra_Devourer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

lol...this is just begging to be metoo'd. Yeah, go ahead and go that route. It's 2019, you're playing with fire.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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