📷r/AmItheAsshole•Posted byu/MyWifeIsInDebt6 hours ago
AITA for not wanting to pay my fiancé’s debt when we get married?
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I [28M] have been with her [27F] since our editor senior year of college.
I have been working in finance and do have enough to cover her debt from law school. The problem is, she decided that she doesn’t actually want to be a lawyer, rather she became a Highschool teacher after graduation and is now $80,000 in debt.
I feel like this is her responsibility since she decided to throw away a degree from a top law school. I always assumed she’d earn close to what I do but now it seems like that’s not going to ever happen. I don’t have a problem with that specifically. I am not marrying her because I thought she’d make more money, but because I love her.
Regardless, she feels incredibly hurt that I want her to take full responsibility for her debts. Besides, my money can be used in much better ways. She has private loans at like 5% interest. Over the long haul, that 80k I have would be much better spent on investing for my retirement. Ignoring annual additions, 80k would be worth more with anything above 5% average annual returns.
Edit: Kay after reading through the comments, you guys I right. I am being a total selfish jerk. My fiancé is my favorite thing in this world, and I was being selfish to think about our future in terms of what’s “mine” and “hers.” I would much rather she pursue what she enjoys. If that would have been M&A at Cravath, then cool, but clearly it’s teaching, and if that’s what she wants to do, I have no right to not be supportive like she’s always been for me.
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