AITA for reporting two “bros” from another department to HR for their locker room talk in an elevator?

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Our firm occupies multiple floors in a high rise building, and I use the elevator multiple times a day because my department spans several floors. There are these two “bros” in another department I’ve run into many times. Usually the interaction is limited to a nod. They’re kind of a hybrid New England “Chad” meets Jersey “Bro” with a dash of homophobia. They’re the type who are probably book smart at SOME subjects but really got through life because of their parents. They’re so unaware of their surroundings that one time I was in the elevator with them, they were behind me, and one of them pointed out my pants to the other guy to make fun of the patterns, but I was able to see their reflections on the elevator’s metallic doors.

So yesterday I had the misfortune of sharing the elevator with these two again. Except this time, they were talking about their weekend plans and how one was planning to impress a “chick” because she seemed like the she could “bang like a Bangkok stripper”. I assume she’s asian because they started doing the Full Metal Jacket sucky sucky five dollah and me love you long time schtick. I turned around and told them to keep inappropriate conversations out of the work place. And they just ignored me.

Anyway, they might have thought because I’m male it was ok to talk like that at the workplace. I reported them to HR today. I’m thinking about shooting their boss an email as well to let him know I’ve reported the two bros, what my concerns are, and that they may need disciplinary action and sexual harassment training.

My co-worker thought it may be a little drastic because that’s how those two are. But I disagreed.

TL:DR: Two guys were having locker room talk in an elevator and I reported them to HR, and maybe their boss.

Edit 1: Thanks for the constructive feedback. I’m definitely not informing their boss. HR notified me that they will follow up with me and advised me to keep this confidential.

Edit 2: Some have asked/suggested I’m a woman or a heterosexual man. I’m an out and proud gay asian man. Lets put the silly speculations to rest.

Edit 3: Some here have very strong opinions. Please refrain from sending me any more private messages with tired homophobic insults like “f*ggot”. Lets keep this cordial. Thanks.