In my past relationships I had noticed how often I was expected and requested to do things, or go to events that I really didn't want to. When there was a new chick flick she would ask "wanna go see that new Jennifer Aniston movie" I'd say no, she would act pouty and I would have to spend the next couple of hours making her feel better and agreeing to watch the fucking movie (pathetic, I know). When I wanted to see an action movie I would ask "hey, wanna go see John Wick?" She would say no, and I would say "okay" and go watch it on my own or with other friends.

I feel, as a general rule, I never really ask anything of anyone, and I can't quite wrap my mind around why anybody would. I understand if you physically can't lift some furniture, asking for help, and I'm happy to do so. But women seem to ask help for a myriad of things they could easily do themselves. If someone doesn't want to do something, then I certainly don't want them to resent me for pushing them into it, and I don't begrudge them for having preferences.

This all came to a boiling point when a past girlfriend of mine wanted me to drive an hour to eat dinner with her brother and sister in law on a weeknight and I told her I was too tired, but would be willing to go see the family that weekend. She acted horribly wronged. She told me "I just feel like I do things I don't want to for you all the time, and you never do for me." "Like what?" I responded, somewhat irritated. After a short hesitation yo gather her thoughts she replied "I went to your friend's party two weeks ago." This was odd, because she had told me, repeatedly that she wanted to go. I wanted her to feel welcome with my friends, but clarified that she didn't have to go if she didn't want to.

I also dont know what she meant about me never doing things I didn't want to. I was a blue pilled bitch in those days. I watched her movies, played her games, hung out with her friends, fixed her car, visited her family, called her daily when she was off to college. Everything was about her. My hobbies, friends, family, and entertainment all had to happen on the small amount of free time that she didn't attempt to suck away from me.

I don't know that the "independent woman" actually exists. My sample size isn't large enough to say, but none of the women in my life are anywhere near independent. I take pride in the fact that I don't need anybody for anything. I don't know how these women can lie to themselves so hard.