Why does getting married feel like the right thing to do?

Zagum_01 · 2020-07-20T03:06:12+00:00

Ya man it’s a predicament. One one hand, we are social creatures and we have a desire to fit in. Also, we do have an urge to procreate and as it is now marriage is the most viable option for that.

But on the other hand, is having the state involved in this agreement, which you have absolutely no power and become a literal slave. Even if you escape divorce rape, you still won’t live a good life as the woman will give you constant shit test and make you work super long hours all the while she is living it up on your dime.

Fleeb4MrZurkon · 2020-07-20T03:29:43+00:00

Because you want companionship, intimicy, and sex . You have to keep in mind that women have let us down, they have ignored their responsibility to us while.forcing us to keep our responsibility to them.

BlyatSquirrel · 2020-07-20T03:08:20+00:00

there’s a difference between it “feels like” and “is the right thing” to do. you shouldn’t put yourself in an awkward position (marriage in this scenario) just to make others think you’re normal. that’s how you break yourself inside and/or mentally. just be yourself, don’t give a crap what others think of you i understand that can be difficult for some though, go and at least try to achieve your dreams, have fun doing your hobbies, get shitface wasted w/ the boys on your day off.

point being if you think you should do it, it all comes down to you mate. but i’d advise against marriage altogether especially in this day and age.

this is just my perspective of this, take this as you will

DannyTTT55 · 2020-07-20T03:17:12+00:00

It's social programming which is slowly starting to change

Emotional pressures to conform are a real thing and left from.evolution, but make little logical sense

themenacehimself · 2020-07-20T08:00:38+00:00

Social pressures. Imagine if you were homeless, they don’t care for that marriage shit. They live completely in the present and don’t give a fuck about what social pressures are. Adopt their attitude and live happy.

-NotaBene · 2020-07-20T03:30:02+00:00

I've been married 20 years. Marriage under the state is a bad deal for men. It also incentivizes women to divorce for the cash and prizes they can extract from the families they destroy. My mother, a predatory woman, did just that, and is now on her fifth marriage. She has sucked the life and wealth out of each man in turn, like a vampire. I have learned, only in the past few years, that she is far from an aberration - she is normal. This chills my blood and explains a lot.

That said, I still believe a good marriage is possible, even today. I do not define marriage as a state contract but as a religious vow. A good marriage requires the man to be the head of household, and to be obeyed and respected in everything, among other things.

Therefore, unless you are involved in some kind of organization (religious or otherwise) that actively restrains hypergamy, and where the sisterhood encourages women to stick to and obey their husbands, marriage (in any sense) is simply a gamble and not worth the risk.

Whulfz0r · 2020-07-20T07:14:37+00:00

You are programmed.

Deprogram.

spaceman_spliff777 · 2020-07-20T03:51:59+00:00

Going against herd mentality takes courage, but guess who we all tend to respect the most, yup, the contrarians.

Have courage, and be kind.

The_2nd_Bob · 2020-07-20T04:05:57+00:00

Ask yourself why you're willing to make a serious life changing event because someone else wants you too?

Sexy_McHandsome · 2020-07-20T03:14:07+00:00

Because marriage sounds like the best idea on paper but in practice it's awful. Everyone knows people need strong connections and relationships to others as well as a mutual safety net in times of trouble. Men are logical so our brains default to relationships because logically is SHOULD be the smart move. The issue is that women don't have to reciprocate and many (including myself) don't believe they can love men anyways.

IceyBear988 · 2020-07-20T08:49:22+00:00

Validation, ego. Let those two away or by accepting it's your ego asking for validation, you'll no longer think like the sheep.

EL10RUB · 2020-07-20T09:25:26+00:00

Youre hung up on external validation.

ChivalricChuck · 2020-07-20T04:20:05+00:00

You know half of them end up divorced right? Thats only the ones who get divorced. Many are unhappy.

psypD · 2020-07-20T05:49:55+00:00

Relentless conditioning.

RocknR0IIa · 2020-07-20T07:38:35+00:00

Social conditioning

Phantom_Spark · 2020-07-20T12:51:20+00:00

It’s called social programming. It’s also a biological imperative. While getting married isn’t programmed into us, mating IS. We associate marriage with long term mating. So it only makes sense to think marriage is the right way.

However the moment you think deeper you realize it’s a scam. Also, the moment you not only stop caring what others think, but even laugh at them for the attempt, it no longer has any meaning.

People don’t waste their time, trying to convince someone who’s single and enjoying themselves, especially if you carved out your success. There’s nothing left for them to coerce you. If they ask about sex, you can just say you’re celibate for spiritual reasons and shut that down. Then there’s not much they can say. LOL. If you’re happy, wtf can they tell you? Chase pussy and be miserable? LOL

StingRayFins · 2020-07-20T04:26:23+00:00

It's the best thing to do if you want to start a family and raise children properly. Statistics show that it's the best solution given you can find a suitable mate.

Problem is... women in 2020 is a lost cause. Marriage for the sake of it is not good. Done right is good. But in 2020 it's more of a liability and headache than it's worth.

Something_Chronical · 2020-07-20T04:40:53+00:00

It probably depends on where you live and the prevailing belief perceptions about marriage, sex, success, etc. The social norms and what beliefs they communicate can have a strong influence on an individual's internal view. I think the only real reason for marriage is kids and then once that done, if you can still stand eachother and there hasn't been a divorce rape along the way, you stick it out to enjoy the grandkids...but for men, with the way feminism has re-engineered the female attitudes about independence and anti traditional anything (if it's not benefiting women that is), marriage is a big risk, even if it's lasted for many years...just ask Will Simpth.

avtarius · 2020-07-20T06:09:24+00:00

If your wealth isn't reliant on the BP process, there's no need to marry (in some cultures you don't get access to opportunity because you're single).

You're just feeling that good old BP conditioning, it'll pass.

NickTesla2018 · 2020-07-20T06:16:48+00:00

Even a broken clock is correct twice a day.

fuzzy_brb · 2020-07-20T11:45:46+00:00

You can be in a relationship. The issue is marriage invites the state/government into your affairs.

Zachjsrf · 2020-07-20T12:26:53+00:00

There is absolutely ZERO benefit to a man to get married, that being said its social programming from a very young age, it's pounded into our heads through books, movies, and other media. Buck the system, embrace MGTOW

rayedward363 · 2020-07-20T13:52:14+00:00

A lot of it is social pressure, like you mentioned, and the fact that we're told that marriage is the end-game all throughout our lives. You need to remind yourself that you don't NEED to get married, it's just what other people demand of you. Yes, easier said than done, but it is possible to change your mindset.

ShadowTigerX · 2020-07-20T14:46:48+00:00

Because you need to keep your lineage going so that in ten generations when the ritual of your return is completed you will have a suitable host body to inhabit when you bring about the age of chaos. Or something.

Chakra_Devourer · 2020-07-20T15:10:36+00:00

By all means, please do. Nothing is stopping you from getting married. Some people need to stick their hands into the fire to get burned to know that it's a bad idea.

sapereAudeAndStuff · 2020-07-20T19:05:04+00:00

Conditioning.

If you lived in ancient Aztec civilization youd have a sneaky feeling it was wrong not to sacrifice teenagers to quetzacaotl.

RockmanXX · 2020-07-20T11:37:37+00:00

It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick Society. I like having Anti-Social beliefs because most of my religious&cultural beliefs were anachronistic. Why should i feel bad for rejecting what is objectively wrong? I'd happily die on the hill of my own values instead of abandoning them to fit in and conform.

SatouTatsu · 2020-07-20T14:55:32+00:00

Society is the book of women.

Imagine living 700 years ago. Your brother is married with 2 kids and sometimes she lets you touch it when your brother isn't around. Then vikings raid your village. You become a slave and your brother's wife gets raped. Do you feel sorry for not being married?

forseti_ · 2020-07-20T18:41:22+00:00

Sound like you want to be MGTOW to fit in but now you don't fit in with the simps any longer and that's an unsolvable problem.

Don't do what people or society tells you. Listen to your heart. If you think marriage is the right thing to do even you know all the downsides then do it. If you think it's stupid then don't do it. But never let your life be directed by other people who don't really give a shit about you.

You live in a world full of ideas and concepts and its up to you to build your own life from it. But you will be unhappy if you let your life be shaped by other peoples will, may it be your parents or some random dude judging you.

Do stuff because you want to do it. There is no normal. Normal is a Hollywood fantasy that is so dull and boring that you can hardly fill more than a 2hour movie with it. Your life is to long for normal.

RussMgtow- · 2020-07-20T21:38:08+00:00

Because mah SoCiEtY, fuck that, gyow.

mgtowwaiting · 2020-07-21T14:26:39+00:00

as a person i've found myself to have broken several times in my life.

the last was maybe a few years ago, where i had lost all sense of pain, i was in a state where i had a constant emotional pain, so strong that i was unable to feel / differentiate physical pain.

sometimes life / the world hits you so hard, you just break.

every time it happens, i have to relearn and rediscover myself, rebuild my ego, rebuild who i am. my last and worst breaking and healing, i spent a year, every day sitting on the patio of my apartment, drinking coffee, eating fruit, playing my guitar... and watching the people around me passing by. analyzing them, and re-learning my world.

what i saw, was that the women in my apartment were bringing home men from the near by bars, every friday, every saturday, and every sunday night. what i saw, was these women were fucking and screwing COMPLETE UTTER LOOSERS!

what you need to understand for yourself, is that women are BROKEN. COMPLETELY AND UTTERLY BROKEN. we have been socially conditioned to believe that women do the choosing in the process, that women are the gate keepers of reproduction, that women "drive" natural selection.

but when women are choosing to fuck random losers, or even just so many random men, when clearly they can not see who a good man is, their judgement is false, is wrong.

when you understand, that women just fuck around, with poor judgement, with no intentions of being that 'gate keeper', with no intentions of 'judging a mans worth', and ultimately 99% of the time just ends up marrying the first sucker that will commit to her after she realizes that she's run out of time.

when you truly see the picture for what it really is, what it has become, you will feel no shame about it, because women's "judgement" of so which we have been conditioned to worship, does not exist any more.

you need to judge your own self worth, and if you think yourself not to be worthy in your own eyes, focus on developing and improving yourself into the person that you want to be.

when women are whores, there is no power, there is no validation, there is no judgement. never listen to whores as they neglect their biological roles and functions for manipulation and power. when power is abused, over time it is lost.

Title	Why does getting married feel like the right thing to do?
Author	CalmElk
Upvotes	52
Comments	31
Date	July 20, 2020 2:57 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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