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Women who said "I love you" to your face and then did awful things to you behind your back?

October 17, 2017

I recently got out of a relatively short-term relationship with a woman. We had known each other for a while then dated for about 5 months. It was short but very intense emotionally, and I ended it because I knew she was unstable and couldn't be trusted.

Still, we never said "I love you to each other", and I (foolishly) always longed to hear her say those words. In retrospect I'm glad she didn't, mainly because I know I would have stayed with her even longer, because I'd feel guilty about breaking up with her after she said that (and after I said it back to her).

Deep down I know that she'd be able to say those words to me and still stab me in the back. Anyone want to share a story about a woman who would say "I love you" and in the same day stab them in the back?

EDIT: Something that is striking to me about all these responses is, if a woman were to post identical stories (or discuss them in public), they would get all the sympathy in the world. Not just lip service...genuine sympathy from men and women...simply because the story is coming from a woman. Or perhaps not "genuine sympathy" from ALL men, since many of them fake sympathy in hopes of getting in her pants, but it's attention nonetheless.

When a man discloses these stories, the only way they can expect any sympathy is when posting on a sub like MGTOW. Even on TRP, which admittedly has been very helpful to me, you're going to get advice to man up and stop being such a bitch. If a man were disclose these stories in public, they would be laughed at and avoided like a leper. They become an outcast in their social network. Women, however, become the ultimate victim, and everyone rushes to their aid.

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Title Women who said "I love you" to your face and then did awful things to you behind your back?
Author dontbedenied
Upvotes 40
Comments 46
Date October 17, 2017 10:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit /r/MGTOW
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MGTOW/women-who-said-i-love-you-to-your-face-and-then.546225
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[–]throwawaypsycho8022 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I just had a ghastly revelation digging up the old memory banks...

I'm not a 100% sure but, it seems every woman I've been with never directly said she loved me, other things like "you are making me crazy" etc.. sure, but not love...

My ex of 7 years treated it as nearly a taboo word and never said it first if at all. I had to insist with "I love you" passionately and eventually she'd reluctantly say it. Oh about your original question she did cheat on me and then got upset because I did some digging to find out (I had a feeling something was very wrong), furious about me "invading her privacy".

FUCK! But about the love thing... If it wasn't 1am right now and I wasn't as self-controlled about my emotions (it's a curse at this point) I'd go outside and scream "FUCK!" at the top of my lungs.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Getting mad over you snooping is just deflection from her misdeed, obviously.

This is why in an argument, a woman will often push your buttons but not yell or use a curse word. When you snap and yell "fucking bitch!", then she has won in her mind.

[–]confession694 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

We might share an ex lmao. I was going to post but this is basically the same thing

[–]throwawaypsycho800 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Did she have a list of guys in a spreadsheet in order to rate them ?

Did her family name start with a W?

[–]confession690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Close! Family name with a V. Missed it by that much. This bitch never even broke up with her “ex” when we started dating. Was dating two guys for 8 months and had trouble lying to us both. The lies were getting mixed up st the end and we both ended up getting in contact and figuring out exactly how much she lied/cheated. Blocked us both when we confronted her and is already on a new guy lmao

[–]Kirou222 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Love would mean commitment and we all know the only thing women commit to is themselfs.

Love is the trap, the conditioning of men to slave themselfs for women, thats why most women cant say that word because they know its meaning. Hell some of them do this even unconsciously, without knowing, as a part of their biology.

Even if they say they love you, they are probably meaning some part that they find usefull, like your wallet :>

[–]Raycrittenden17 points18 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Love is a male emotion ... women just say it to feel validated or to get something from you.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was just thinking that the only time I remember my ex saying it was whenever we'd fight and I'd try to leave the relationship, which was most months.

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Oh fuck yeah. My first serious girlfriend was big into poetry. She used to write tons of poems about how our love was sacred and she was created for me and gay shit. Then she goes on to cheat on me with X number of guys when she moved away for school.

This FWB I had, she told me she loved me about 3 months in. Evolved into how she knew I was the one for her and she'd wait for me forever, no guy could compare, more gay shit. Fast forward to today, she's been railed by like 6 different guys and had 3 boyfriends since we broke things off just like 3 months ago. I knew it was coming though and I dusted her ass off, so it wasn't a stab in the back so much as an accurate prediction.

Women aren't capable of love, loyalty, or commitment. Nothing will ever convince me otherwise.

[–]dontbedenied4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great observation. I’m starting to believe the same thing.

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Bluepillers will say she fucjed 85 dudes after the breakup because she loved you and you broke her heart, therefore your fault.

[–]VanDriver13 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No thanks, I've locked those memories away.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

How is this an Issue /u/dontbedenied . Women are heartless. They will lie through their teeth. Whether they say it or they don't, the entire relationship means nothing to them anyway.

[–]dontbedenied1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's not an issue, I just find it helpful to hear other guys tell their stories about their past relationships. It's especially helpful to me when I find myself foolishly missing my Ex and forgetting what an awful bitch she is.

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes, the daily dose of redpills.

[–]FlatEarthShill69692 points3 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Had a girlfriend of about a year and a half. We were young when it started, I was 21 and she was 17 (you know why I like them high school girls). Girl was fucking gorgeous, looked just like Emily Ratajowski without tits, still had the perfect hip to waist ratio. She was quiet, kinda smart, and did no drugs nor drink. I being young, dumb, and full of testosterone, fell head over heels for her of course. We had a pretty passionate relationship, doing everything together and banging constantly. We had been "in love" since about 6 months in.

Fast forward to 2 weeks into her college experience, I walked in on her with another guy in her dorm room on my first surprise visit. The entire room smelled of liquor and pussy. I subsequently beat the dude a bit more severely than I am proud to admit. Im sure he knew nothing of the situation but I couldnt control myself. I told her I hated her, put on some Byther Smith, and sang the blues my entire hour and a half drive home.

This is also my coming into MGTOW story. I am not too hardcore into it but it helped me through a very dark time and has taught me invaluable knowledge on women. I only date virgins who are waiting until marriage now as kids are too important to me to give up on a relationship with a woman entirely.

I accepted quite awhile ago that true, selfless love is an emotion exclusive to men.

[–]dontbedenied0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great story. I had a similar experience in college but somehow that didn't redpill me enough. I thought "not all women are like that", I just got a bad one. Boy was I wrong...

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is why feminism wants chicks attending college, to get railed by 85 guys and become a walking entitled debt riddled train wreck.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

Where would I find such women? I have terrible social skills, am a balding 20 year old. I need to be with a woman who will wait until marriage. Not that I'd actually make her wait until marriage, but I need to make sure she wouldn't fuck anyone without knowing them deeply.... anyway, tips?

[–]FlatEarthShill69690 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Bad social skills generally stem from a lack of self confidence, which women hate. You wont be meeting any until you fix that. The bright side of your balding is that male pattern baldness is almost always from an overabundance of testosterone, which women love every marker of. A good way to narrow that down is if you have a lot of body hair and a deep voice, other markers. If you do have said high amounts of testosterone I recommend the gym, i recommend it for all simply for health reasons but you will see results far greater and faster than normal men. This will boost your self confidence which is good for all aspects of life.

Meeting women like that is very hard nowadays if you arent 14. Places I reccommend are churches and bookstores. I met mine being just out and about and striking up a conversation with a girl i thought was cute. Turns out this random girl was my best ticket to a faithful long term partner.

I recommend a church first. Im not religious in any sense but people you meet there are usually very kind and friendly. This will help you work on yiur social skills and give you a nice sense of community as well.

Regardless of how amazing or different this girl is always remember AWALT. She will be more in control of her urges and she will over everything considering she has resisted sex for so long. However; NEVER PUT HER ON A PEDASTAL. It will trigger every instinct to monkey branch or just leave. Women do not want an equal and they damn sure dont want a lesser. Women crave someone superior to them. Subtly convey that you are every day.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thank you VERY MUCH for this response. I have a tonne of body hair and a deep voice (sometimes annoyingly so that I have to repeat myself because people don't understand me 😕). I have been going to the gym for about 2 years and have made pretty good progress, it is pretty much my favourite activity nowadays. I have always thought that about churches and have been tempted to go. Bookstores seem pretty cool too (I actually found this really cool bookstore last week near my university). I'll probably start hanging around there reading books and drinking tea, because those are two hobbies of mine anyway!

[–]FlatEarthShill69690 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

If your voice is smooth as well as deep you should try singing and guitar out. I have that buttery radio voice and singing came very naturally to me.





Its also an incredibly rewarding and entertaining hobby.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Haha, I'm really not a great singer!

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

1.) longest gf of 3.5 years. said she loved me until the end. spent the last 6 months monkey branching and ditched me by saying "we need a break so i can figure myself out and focus on studying". found out she met her next boyfriend a year prior.

2.) my only love triangle. girl said she was so into me. loved my Chad dick. one night after i fucked her brains out we saw her ex on the street. she was filled with regret and he like a little pussy bitch took her cheating ass back. they didn't last long. i never took her back even though she tried many years later.

3.) didn't say she loved me, but was a beta orbiter for this girl, she would make every date, initiate every conversation, told me how much she was into us becoming more serious eventually. after every date would the ignore my calls. turned out she had another guy the whole time.

women are a waste of time.

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Women ARE a waste of time. Can't get emotionally invested she to their two-timing, meaning you are literally just putting in time to try to fuck the whole. Might as well hire prostitute and directly negotiate, which personally I don't find that very appealing. Part of getting involved with a woman is the idea, now delusion, that you will be the only one tapping that hole, not the case, back to huge waste of time.

[–]Mgtowing1012 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

With all those things she says always put "... at the moment" at the end in your head, then you won't feel betrayed that much.

Remember, it's just your turn at the moment.

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not even you're turn, it's your turn along with 5 other dudes. If you aplow women that will reduce you to the relative value of one of you're individual sperm. One of many stupidly throughing themselves at hope of impregnating the egg. Fuck that. MGTOW

[–]Gmiou2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

My ex wife was telling me she loves me while in the same exactly time was texting some dude the exact worlds...... I wand you to be a big hung like a horse so i can feel you!!!! I know cause i read it with my own eyes before i stormed out our home!

[–]AnimalFactsBot2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Estimates suggest that there are around 60 million horses in the world.

[–]Gmiou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hope she finds a massive one big enough to break her cunt beyond repairs!

[–]dontbedenied1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Man, what a fucking bitch. It would have taken everything in my power not to punch that cunt in the face.

[–]Gmiou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Was the same bro it was really hard to not break all her teeth!! I gathered all my will power and told her...... You don't deserve even my spit on your face and don't ever come near me! That wasn't the first time i caught her doing that, her first answer was..... So what, everyone does that these days, it's normal, doesn't mean anything!!! Ha ha haaaaaaa This final time i was so angry was scared of myself what i might do, so i fled the country leaving everything behind me! Bitches bitches bitcheeeeeeeeees!

[–]Gmiou0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

And it wasn't the first time the slut did that, the times at least i know!!

[–]Protocol_Mantra2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Got home late from a graveyard shift and went straight to bed. My now ex-wife climbed on top of me and said, "You know I'll always love you, right?".

That was the last I ever saw of her. Literally. She packed up her shit and left me while I slept.

The only time she deigned it fair to "talk to me" was after I saw some clarity in my whisky and cigarette fueled haze. I called the bank and reported my debit card stolen so they froze the account. Lo and behold, mere hours later I get a call - "Give me your money back!". Lol, nah.

She spewed generic shit for months. I even got the, "we've just grown apart.". I skipped town, got another job, and filed for divorce. That banshee wrecked my goddamn life.

TL;DR - Loved me, and left me.

[–]PublicConsciousness1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Look at my most recent post. You will be able to relate. Trust me

[–]dontbedenied0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for sharing your story, man. I can relate. The thing I learned from my most recent relationship, that you also experienced, is how women will beg you not to break up with them, and then when you take them back, they'll go right back to their shitty behavior. What the fuck? This is one of the things that really messed with my head in my most recent relationship.

I dumped my Ex after she defended this married guy she had been a plate to prior to me, and told me "nobody can guarantee they won't cheat" . She was a disrespectful bitch apart from that, so there was plenty of reason to call it off. She came crawling back crying the next day. I took her back because I thought she "really loved me", but nope, she turned into an even worse bitch almost immediately.

There are few things worse than your girlfriend staying in touch with her previous partners. And it's fucked up how she couldn't see how that would affect you. I see you've posted in BPDlovedones, I can relate to that too. Hell, my Ex was also almost a foot shorter than me but could scare the hell out of me with just a look.

Sometimes I wonder if truly AWALT. I seem to seek out mentally sick women with really bad family histories, and they seem to seek me out too. I know that not all women are as fucked up and cruel as my Ex's and yours, but I do think there is no question that women are much more apt to take advantage of men and feel no remorse whatsoever for doing so. And feminism is complete horseshit, no doubt.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I love your looks, i love your friends, i love your money, i love your big chad cock

When they say i love you, they lie and try to screw you emotionally especially if she considers you beta

[–]StoneTempleFlyboy0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

When they are initially infatuated with their new you (you) they love everything about you, except you.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've said it many times prior to going monk, I have never meant it, it was just to get into their panties, I wish I hadn't done that, never felt good to lie, I admit it, but it worked and I was hooked on pussy.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Last time a girl told me she loved me, I called her a liar.

Then she called me an asshole 😊

[–]Nomanilse1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Almost every woman I have known does this. Not just women I have dated. There are exceptions, though they are rare. I had one LTR who did this. I made the mistake of knocking her up and I was stuck dealing with her for 18 years. She was a convincing liar. She could cry on demand to my face, "do you really think so little of me..." only to turn around and do the thing she was "upset" that I even thought she would do.

Remember your worst day with her. Visualize it. Let it anger you. Now understand that she stabbed you in the back far more than you know. If you were to stay with her, or take her back that worst day you imagined would end up being a happy memory. Things don't get better with such women. They only get better once they are gone.

Go no-contact on her. It is the only solution. From the rone of your post, you seem young. Don't sacrifice what you want and who you could be for her. Good luck.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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