I never fantasized about being a father. I never fantasized about raising kids. I never fantasized about any of that.

Instead, I realized that having kids would mean I most likely would end up in a stagnating, dead end job I hate but have to work at til I die or retire.* Instead, I realized my kid is probably not gonna anything with his or her life that's gonna make all the cons of raising kids worth it. So I stayed away from that.

*Sure, childfree guys do work dead end jobs they hate. But they don't have to work there. They could easily drop the job and find something else to support them.