Not too long ago, I came across a web page titled, ‘Born to be Unhappy’. It mainly covers the reasons why people tend to be unhappy and how to best overcome it.

According to the website, people tend to be unhappy because they tend to want more than what they currently have. This unfortunately makes sense because it can be very easy to fall into the trap of becoming dissatisfied with what we currently have no matter how much we actually possess. It also explains why even very rich or powerful people end up feeling dissatisfied or even unhappy with their lives. Overcoming that desire for more, which is ironically also the root of human ambition, is essential to achieve true happiness as opposed to mere transient moments of joy.

There are ten steps to overcome unhappiness. One particular step, which I personally consider rather unpopular to the general public yet very important in our current day and age, is accepting the idea that NO ONE is entitled to ANYTHING. Think about it, every group that oppresses or seeks to oppress others have one thing in common, the idea that they are entitled to something. For example:

- Men who oppress women because they believe that men are entitled the “right” to be the superior gender.

- Women who think that women manipulating/cheating/abusing men is morally acceptable because they believe that women have the “right” to harm men without justification or consequence.

- People who believe their own race is superior and therefore are entitled the “right” to conquer or oppress other races.

- People who believe that a certain race is an “entitled oppressor” who denies others of their “rightful entitlements” and must therefore be opposed even if it means attacking innocent people whose only fault is being the “oppressor race”.

If we are able to let go of the idea that we are entitled to anything, we might be able to stop feeling sad/angry every time we do not get what we want. Why, it might even make people realise that obsessing over being a “superior” or a “victim” to the point of forsaking everything else that should matter are complete wastes of time.

We come to this world with nothing and we will leave this world with nothing. Everything we gain is either something we have worked for or is given to us by others who have decided that we are worth the “cost”. To confuse the generosity/charity of others as an entitlement is to spit/piss upon their kindness.

TLDR: We should stop obsessing over our supposed entitlements including the so-called popular entitlements of being a “victim”.

Note:

Of the four parts below, I personally consider the first and third parts to be the most important.

https://medium.com/the-mission/born-to-be-unhappy-how-we-can-overcome-our-own-biology-part-1-of-4-6def46457e8f

https://medium.com/the-mission/born-to-be-unhappy-how-we-can-overcome-our-own-biology-part-2-of-4-c0b7588adcff

https://medium.com/the-mission/born-to-be-unhappy-how-we-can-overcome-our-own-biology-part-3-of-4-31c1004226a8

https://medium.com/the-mission/my-top-60-life-habits-and-hacks-2018-edition-7bce03c633f3