Hey guys,
This is a nine-step approach to what to do after you stopped caring about what people think. You might see one yourself at one of these steps. Again, this does not have to be religiously followed but it's more or less a 'roadmap' to what you will have to face to become an Entrepreneur or a High-value guy.
You stopped caring about what people think?
What's next?
You quit your school, college, job, you cut off the toxic people around you, you are ready to move out of your expensive city.
Take Control of your life, you live for your purpose but it also builds a Rock-solid foundation. You noticed that I use the word, "Construct" in that it is something that will take time to build and it might be painful as well. But once you have this you will have the ACTUAL abundance that won't run out. A man's abundance is like a rock it lasts for his whole life while a woman's abundance is a leaf eventually rests somewhere.
Step 1: Honest Self-Examination
This step is going to be the hardest for most guys. You will have to ask yourself, do I want something or am I doing it for another purpose. For instance, do I want to be a musician or am I trying to be famous? Since if you are trying to be famous there are faster and better ways of accomplishing that goal.
There are four factors that you must take into account 1-Quality of life(How will this work affect my health and my relationships?) 2-Lifestyle(What will the day to day look like) and 3-Is this something I pursue as a passion project or does it need to be my main source of income? 4-Am I doing this for simply to make money? Is that so is it taking much more out of my life than it should? For instance, I can't have a social media since I'm too embarrassed by what my co-workers think about me?
The superficial answer would be to say: Yes, pursues something that gives you a lot of money and then does everything else as a hobby. But the reality isn't that easy, what if that which gives you money HURTS YOU? What if it is taking so much away from your health, your relationships and your life satisfaction and you are only doing it to please your parents or friends. Most of them have chosen the 'safe path' since they were too afraid to take risks?
Eventually, sooner or later most people "wake up." I was talking with this 50-year-old and he told me that he already knew what exactly was his purpose and what he wanted to do all along. However, he didn't do it since he was afraid. Now he sees that he has less time to pursue it. I could go on and on about this topic but you get the idea.
Step 2: Making the hard decisions and accepting the negative backlash
This is very simple, it is about making hard decisions that you feel will be good for you in the mid or long term and being FEARLESS when dealing with the consequences of those decisions. Consequences that might be painful like letting go, facing uncertainty and having to deal with failure. Most people will not tolerate this since they rather have "a" certainty than not certainty. Even if in the long term is bad for them. For instance, there was this guy from my immersion training who got laid off from his job, despite, years of being there. He hated his job but was too afraid of making those decisions.
Step 3: Acceptance of Loss and Letting go
I'll give you a girlfriend example. Most guys would be "ok" with having a girlfriend under the girlfriend's terms as long as she keeps hanging out with him. Only the strongest guys can walk away and accept the loss. Most people will avoid this since it's painful. You get the mainstream media making movies in, "How can I get her back..etc." When you should let go, accept a loss. We can extrapolate the girlfriend example and apply it to other areas of your life, your friends, your hometown, your job..etc. You need to accept that you were in these relationships, friendships, job, environment but it wasn't good for you therefore, you let it go and move on to greater things.
Step 4: Acceptance of Uncertainty
If most people fear to let go. Then most likely they have an even greater fear of uncertainty. Most people cannot deal with it. I remember when I started my philosophy club in college, I had a classmate who came to the first meeting of my philosophy club. We were four guys in total. I remember he was super self-conscious and said, "What will people think about this. The school already has a philosophy club we are stepping on their boundaries, we are just small groups..etc" He was super weak and quit. I told him, "these things take time, calm down." A few weeks later he saw me with my girlfriend Schatze(that's her nickname) and some of my friends at the NYU Cafeteria and my new philosophy club members, and he came back yelling, "Wow, dude I didn't know you were the real deal, let's hang out." I was sickened by his fear of uncertainty that I did not want to hang out with him anymore.
Step 5: Determining your Purpose
Your purpose is the answer to uncertainty.
Your purpose is strongly linked to your boundaries. It's not an abstract goal but rather your purpose is a concrete mid-term goal and your boundaries are the small goals and how you relate to other people. I'll give you a concrete example, I'll use the example of my friend Bobby since I used it earlier. He wants to give guitar lessons for a living but his roommates don't like the noise. Bobby has to take action on his life, so he cuts his roommates off and moves somewhere else. He has boundaries since he prioritizes his purpose above a superficial friendship he might have with his roommates. The same if Bobby had a girlfriend who wants him to quit playing guitar. He will simply cut off his girlfriend. Ironically, both his roommates and his girlfriend will respect him more than he is living for himself and his purpose.
Step 6: Acceptance of Failures
'Success is built on the back from multiple failures. The only way to truly fail at something is to stop trying. This is why in the example above with my philosophy club I keep attending meetings. You don't need one to meet up to be successful right away. You need to keep on doing it and doing it until it starts becoming popular. Even if it doesn't you build your lesson. Don't be a coward and as soon as something goes south jump ship and abandon your project, this is what separates the strong from the meek. The meek as soon as they see adversity quit, while the strong stay.
Step 7: Lead Yourself
You should not be waiting for a leader to give you a job, an opportunity. Rather you should become a leader yourself. You don't need to lead others but to lead yourself. You need to take initiative and 'CREATE' opportunities for yourself. Instead, of asking, "Hey how do I get invited to this party." You should throw your party and invite the high-status people to them. Even if you fail you'll be a step close to realizing it, than not trying at all.
Step 8: Parent and Child Dynamic(How you should frame your relationships with others)
Unknowingly if you were the average person, you have been doing what your parents wanted you to do since they felt it was best for you at the time. It's likely you went to school then college and went along for the ride. However, you have gotten used to you being the child in your relationship with your parents and by extension with your teachers, other students, and neighbors. You have gotten used to already 'receiving' from other people. You have gotten the mindset of having to build yourself from the bottom of a hierarchy and tried to make your way up thought promotions.
You SHOULD ALWAYS BE THE PARENT in most friendships, relationships..etc. What this means is that you are the one who is sharing your stuff, who is giving value to others, who people are asking for help. Not because it's cool or Zen because people will immediately put you in a POWER POSITION concerning them. You will see that kids pull nonsense on other kids but once their parents come into the room then they get quiet.
Unfortunately, this is the most misunderstood concept in ALL OF the self-help the media and society in general. Most people have this concept that others are "using you". Therefore, you should be the one using others. To me, this is operating at such a low paradigm that it's not even worth discussing. But this is the reason a lot of the PUA community is filled with 'gutter punks' or low value or poor guys who are just trying to take value from others. I know it since I have many PUA coaches ask me to stay at my house in exchange for teaching me game for free.
In contrast, if you have your life together where not only you have stellar logistics, a dope crib and a lot of exciting things going on people will want to be part of it. For instance, I remember this female acquaintance of mine whose parents kicked her out of her house. She begged me to stay at my apartment in Soho, I agree since it seemed like a fun experience. Honestly, I had a blast since she gave me blowjobs and cooked for me, only since I was willing to share my space for a few days. A lot of people will never do this because they are a loser and they are the ones looking for free stuff from others. You should always remember the parents saying, "My house my rules."
Step 9: Artificial Abundance
This concept means to create your opportunity. Create your abundance, your opportunity. For instance, instead of asking people for things you should offer people things that you have. I remember Max was talking about how he would go outside the nightclub and he felt he didn't belong. Of course! That's right he didn't belong because he would be taking away value from the nightclub by going alone. Instead, if you focus on becoming a high status, for instance, befriend girls then take then to the nightclub you would see the reception be very different.
Conclusion
Don't forget to follow us at the r/Crimsonpill. Anyway, guys, I could go on and on. But you see what the next steps are. This concrete and practical guide will help you. I could write an essay on every one of these steps, which I will do. However, this is just a sample for you to get an idea, most of these steps go way deeper and require a lot of introspection and thought for your part.
