As you are growing up, whether it's society, your parents, relatives, or anyone, they have all these expectations from you. Every person who gives you any advice regarding life and success, their definition and meaning of "success" is very different.  For a majority of parents, their meaning of success is you gaining a degree and being "set" in your life, and then finding a good wife and having kids. That's "success" in their eyes. In the eyes of society, for a man to be successful, is being rich and having a harem of beautiful women combined with many different sports cars. The point is when you come into this life, each and every person has different expectations from you regarding their own view of the world.

As you are ingrained from a very young age regarding this fake meaning of "success" by all these people, you then chase after this "success" which, ironically, is the expectations others have of you, which doesn't even bring peace to yourself. You want to buy all those sports cars and that mansion not because you deeply desire it, but rather to prove to society that you have "succeeded" in regards to their definition of your success. I know just too many people that have bought all these expensive cars on finance etc and they legit don't even have enough to put in the gas tank. They live paycheck to paycheck but for the Instagram likes and validation of others, they have given priority in pleasing the expectations others have of them rather than pleasing their own selves and what brings them that inner peace. And, this is the case for the majority of men.

Men have been programmed to obey, listen and please others, while sacrificing their own goals and ambitions for the expectations that others have for them. You then keep chasing and chasing this false view you have of "success" only to be dissatisfied and never fulfilled, because you never wanted that in the first place.

The point is gentlemen, don't conform to the expectations of society and people have of you. No matter what you do you in your life, whether it's good or bad, everyone will always have something to say. You cannot please everyone and you cannot keep them all happy. If you do this, people will then ask, "Why didn't you do that?" If you do that, then they will ask, "Why didn't you do this?" The number 1 mistake that most men make is, they sacrifice their own ambitions and goals to please others while forgetting themselves. And by the time they wake up and realize all this, it's too late. And, all the people they wanted to impress never cared anyway. Because certainly in today's world, who has the time to? 1 of My favorite quotes of all time is from the Movie Wall Street. Where 1 of the character says, "Man looks in the abyss, and there's nothing staring back at him. At that moment, man finds his character. And that is what keeps him out of the abyss." Indeed. Only when we look at the abyss, that's when we reflect and realize how much delusion we were in.

In conclusion gentlemen, don't put your purpose of life in what others want you to do and achieve. Rather, do what you have to do. Of course, on the journey to find your inner peace and happiness you will overcome many obstacles, pain and suffering. But what doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger. And whatever you may face, it will only add on to the list of experiences in life which you will learn from. Take advice from gentlemen that you consider wise, and always keep an open mind. Because there is always something to learn from everyone. There will always be a person smarter, stronger and wealthier than you. Don't let your ego come in the way, making you lose valuable wisdom that you may gain.  In the end, listen to everyone, extract all the knowledge you possibly can, and live life on your own terms. Never let anyone dictate how you live your life, and never take shi from anyone.