I had a epiphany today, and I think a lot of you guys can relate.

Typically, I don’t view women as lesser than men. I don’t really have any misogynistic views, at least in terms of equality between men and women. It’s a relative to each situation really.

With that said, I don’t hate women. I don’t have any ill will towards the women I’ve dated, regardless of how things ended in my relationship. For a long time I always thought women broke my heart, and after giving it some thought, I realized that’s not the reason I had all of those sad feelings.

I realized I wasted time on relationships. I spent years doing pretty much the same shit, over and over. Meeting a girl, having the early whirlwind romance the good feelings. Then it was just like...doing nothing but going to movies, and eating. Maybe taking a small trip here and there. It was all so incredibly dull in the first place. I thought my heart was broken because I lost an ex.

I realized it wasn’t the absence of a woman that caused me to feel so down. It was the fact that I didn’t take command of my own life to really experience the joys of living.

All those hours wasted in the movie theater, going to stupid art shows, and following women around Ulta like a zombified simp were just painfully wasted moments. I’ll never get that time back.

In those wasted years, I could have gotten a passport. I could have went to Ireland, Greece, Singapore. I could have seen the world. I could learned how to sail. I could have went treasure hunting. I could have explored the rally racing culture. I could have spent more time getting to know my grandparents. They are gone now. My parents aren’t getting any younger.

I don’t think MGTOW philosophy or culture should be centered around “women are horrible and everything is their fault so I’m going my own way”. Every YouTube video is see always talks about women. Women do this, women do that.

Maybe women are the catalysts and decision makers for divorce because they are smarter than us. They know marriage sucks way before we do and they get out when they can. Maybe they cheat more and monkey branch more because they caught on faster than we did. Who knows.

My point being, GYOW should be based on the fact that we have one life to live, and we better do our damn best to live it the best we can. If we get caught up with the wrong woman, who are we to blame? The woman, or ourselves?

Personally, it’s time I took accountability. I have let myself down, I have broken my own heart. No woman did that to me. I did it to myself. I’m not going to bitch and complain about, I’m going to rectify it. Starting now. Hopefully all of us will find our way.