the title speaks for itself, but I'm going to get deeper in the roots for this issue.

but first let me give you an example of this issue to make it more clear for you guys;

a young man wants to become a pilot, physicist, scientist or whatever else he has in his mind, but the first thing his parents will tell him is this: you should either become a doctor or an engineer (or a lawyer).

this type of behavior from older people, peers, or even young people is something that we all have been dealing since the beginning of time!

no matter what you do, no matter what you think or what you know, there is always this wise-guy who thinks he does it better, thinks wiser and knows more than you do, all the time.

this asshole guy could be your friend, brother, uncle, or even your father or maybe a completely random dude at a bus.

the thing is, even YOU could've been this type of guy for a period of time in your life before you became a mgtow.

you might want to marry a woman (in a traditional country of course) but your mother or sister might disagree with you.

you might want to buy a car or a house that you like and your so-called friends might tell you it's a bad idea.

you might want to go to study something you like, for example aerospace engineering but you father will tell you it's a bad idea.

you might want to join a military service but other people call you stupid for risking your life for others.

you might want to follow your childhood dreams and become an artist, but people tell you that will become poor after that because not all artists will become successful.

you might want to become a rapper and sing things you believe but other people tell you that your songs suck.

you might want to become a rally car racer but people tell you it's dangerous and stupid.

these people are everywhere, regardless of what you do, they will always tell you not to do.

you might even want to have sex before you become 18 years old, but the law prevents you from doing so (the age limit might be different in other countries, but you get the point).

I'm 100% sure you've all experienced this thing.

but why? why does it happen all the time? the answer is simple: other people will hate you if they can't control you!

they will always try to control you, they will always try to make you "one of themselves".

they will try to convince you not to do what they themselves always wanted to do but have failed to do so every time they tried.

they will tell you not to follow your dreams because they couldn't do it themselves, they will tell you that only one in a million becomes Schumacher (a famous car racer) and that YOU, and SPECIFICALLY YOU are not that one in a million.

they will tell you that if you study physics you will never become someone like Newton, Einstein, Tesla and other great physicists because only one in a billion is like that and YOU, ESPECIALLY YOU are not that one guy in a billion.

they will tell you not to start your own company to make your ideas and inventions come true because only one in a million becomes Steve Jobs or Bill Gates and YOU ARE NOT THAT ONE IN A MILLION!

or even if you are a 14 year-old boy but have bodily matured enough to be considered an adult (like you have pubic hairs, beard, armpits and etc) they will tell you that you can't have sex because you aren't over 18 yet (in some countries like Germany you can have sex even if you are 14, but my focus on this specific topic is USA) and if you ask them why should i wait till 18? they won't give you a logical answer except that maybe because other boys haven't matured yet and you have to wait for those late bloomers to mature too.

what I'm trying to say is that if we keep listening to what other people say, if we keep following the steps of other people, we will just end up where they are today! as simple as that. now if your friend is a construction worker (with all due respect for all workers) and he gives you his advices, the only useful thing you can learn are his mistakes, but his suggestions? not useful. you can learn from his past mistakes in case to avoid making the same mistakes but if you really follow his steps in life, you will just end up whers he is right now.

you might want to join the army, but a friend of yours says that it is stupid and risking your life for your country is the dumbest thing you could ever do, but seriously, can we trust his words? is he truly the ultimate source of wisdom? are you really going to skip military just because a friend said it is dangerous? well of course it is dangerous, no one is denying that, but you have to ask yourself, what are you gonna get in the end if you join the military? you might want to become a pilot and the same friend says you might fall one day. you might want to become a sailor and then he says you might drown one day. you might even want to become a pornstar but he says you might get hiv one day. you might want to become a chef but he says you might get burnt one day. you might want to become a car racer but he says you might have a crash during one of your races.

so what are you gonna do? just sit there and wait for a miracle? you really want to end up living the same life he has? or perhaps you want to follow your dreams?

well of course you can't just follow every single dream you have, sometimes they're not achievable, sometimes they are out of YOUR reach really, but one question still remains unanswered: how can you ever tell that you will fail if you've never tried?

now I'll leave you with this beautiful lecture, but keep this simple thing in mind, you'll get to live once, you can live for yourself, or you can live for others, it's all up to you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6_QUhUPrF4&app=desktop