This is a gut check post.

One of the pivotal moments for a man becoming self-actualized after taking the Red Pill is the passing of the anger phase and entering a phase of OI (Outcome Independence). Something many of us have experienced and seen here in these forums is a strange hybrid state where as a man you feel (don’t you love that word) outcome independent towards your marriage, but it still has anger as its underlying drive. This is that phase where you say, “Fuck this, I do not care about this marriage anymore.” This is where a man will withdraw into himself, not in the spirit of monk mode where you are contemplating the truths you are exploring through your reading, rather it is in the spirit of retaliation towards the Female Imperative, and your wife’s part in that agenda towards you. This is also where men will choose to bang the cute girl at their office. I have no moral judgement for anyone that wants to fuck girls on the side but if you are doing this to reclaim your manhood or to psychologically get back at your wife, then you are weak and cannot rightly think of yourself as an alpha male.

Healthy Outcome Independence is not a drunk captain steering the ship of their marriage and family onto the rocks cackling and guzzling rum the whole time. It is the steady hand that guides the ship through a treacherous storm, knowing that even if the storm destroys the ship he as the captain did all in his power to save it before it fell. If your marriage is going to fail, it should fail because all options have been exhausted. You allowed your relationship to get where it is. You allowed your wife to become the sexless shrew she is today. It is your fault. Swallowing the Red Pill does not give you license to destroy your marriage, it does give you the tools to diagnose if it can be saved or not. The levels of dread are your path back.

There are no shortcuts here. Every week men are on these forums jumping all over the levels of dread, not understanding they must be followed in chronological order. Men are here asking for advanced level advice and they have barely touched the sidebar material and have a million excuses why they do not lift weights.
These men are “sprinkling a little alpha” on their lives and expecting everything to get better. History has shown us that it won’t. The only hope you have is to slow down, do everything you’re being asked to do on these forums, and only then will you have a chance at salvaging the fuckup that is your marriage.

TLDR: LIFT