Anger: Your best diagnostic tool

Anger is almost always a "tell" of weakness in your frame, your thinking, in owning your shit, or in your situation. It is thus a great diagnostic tool for discovering areas needing further improvement. Any time I detect anger in myself, especially that sudden surge of fury at some comment or event, I note the circumstances for later self-analysis to identify the weaknesses in my frame, the holes in my arguments, or my discomfort with my social situation. However, the anger is usually misdirected to protect your ego, so it takes careful self-reflection and honesty to diagnose the true weakness behind the anger.

Here are some examples to get you started.

• Angry at your wife for not allowing you to hang out with your friend? Diagnosis: You're ruled by your wife's frame, and you're too much of a pussy to challenge her domination of you

• Angry at your wife for letting you take the heat for leaving a party early? Diagnosis: You're insecure about your status among your friends, or your wife dominates you

• Angry at your wife for not giving you a blowjob on your birthday? Diagnosis: Covert contract, and ego (you deserve a special day because you're a special snowflake)

• Angry at your wife for nagging you about taking out the trash? Diagnosis: You're a drunk captain who isn't owning his shit

• Angry with your kids? Diagnosis: You're in your wife's / mother's / peers' / strangers' / kid's frame and fear their judgment of you as a parent, or you're insecure in your leadership of your clan, or your expectations are unrealistic for their age, or you're a drunk captain who has failed to OYS as a father

Learn to use the reliable "tell" of anger to uncover your weaknesses, to accelerate your MRP progress.

Gentlemen, tell us in the comments about the last time you were angry, and diagnose the real reason. Own Your Shit!