Another look at Good Beta

To be specific I am referencing beta qualities of behavior. Specifically, comforting behaviors. I see an assumption from lots of guys that alpha and beta are parallel. That the two go hand in hand from the start and that the marriage balance requires both semi – simultaneously.

Alpha --------------------------------------------

Beta ---------------------------------------------

This is especially difficult to achieve if you have not been a masculine man with regard to how your wife is able to perceive you. We all “know” this to be true and often say that a masculine man will be perceived differently when offering beta comfort from a non masculine man offering the same thing, even if he offers more or “better” beta.

Consider Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

Now consider what a woman wants from a “partner”, what she inherently lacks.

She wants to know/feel that a man can take a beating, physical and otherwise, from the world and still be able to achieve significant accomplishments. She wants to know that a man she chooses is mentally and physically strong enough to protect her, and still be able to provide the same or better level of support to her ( from getting the D, to putting food on the table, to bringing new and exciting experiences into her world).

So now imagine the same pyramid differently:

Masculinity as Maslow’s Pyramid:

Self actualization: Able to produce excitement and generate positive tingles

Esteem :Leads woman to realizing her own potential, opens doors to new experiences and concepts.

Social : Able to instill HIS mission into Her. She is not the mission, ever.

Safety :Able to provide Physical safety with masculine behavior. Builds things, or gets things built

Physiological A baseline level of physical attractiveness, ability, Looks like he can do all of the above things.

The main point here is that you can not start thinking about producing tingles in her ACTIVELY, until you have built up the physiological, safety, at some social slabs. There is a reason why this is a pyramid concept. While this is relatively set in stone as a concept, there is obviously a lot of nuance that I am not discussing.

As for new women, your physiological and perhaps safety cues are enough to get her mind to do the rest. This is why it is easier to bed women who do not know you. It is also why you can not usually expect your woman to “self actualize” until she has a solid base to stand on.

She will try to beat you up (shit test you) as a way of getting her footing. What you choose to do with that is up to you.