Hi Fellas, very long time lurker at TRP and now here on a newly created alt account.

/u/BluepillProfessor had a fantastic post on dread (and I am looking forward to the book) that bore a strong warning that it was caveat emptor during a pregnancy.

My wife is pregnant with our second so it is not my first time at this rodeo. However, our relationship has followed the standard trajectory of going virtually sexless quickly after getting married. Not to go into details, but I do accept responsibility and am working on that.

So the question is, to what extent and how does one go about this? Dread game on a woman who is bloated, in pain, and hormonally explosive is a recipe for disaster. Pursuing your own interests while a woman is gestating your child seems pretty cold. I go to the gym at lunch from work and spend my off hours helping out with the 2 year old and the household in general.

My sense is that the approach should be supportive and strong. Offer up affection and help but gently check her when she shit tests, opting for softer approaches than you might otherwise.

Trying to keep this short and not about me in order to get this conversation going. Thoughts?