I was going to post this in the current melee, but figured we could have a better discussion about this in another thread separate of advice concerning a specific individual.

The following is my understanding of TRP stance on being divorced with children. As we know that does not necessarily mean that it is the MRP stance. It is also worth noting that TRP is littered with heroic accounts of men who fought the system and won, or gamed their wife into equitable situations, and these reports are well received, we all love a winner, but let us discuss the game shall we:

The Red Pill approved method of dealing with your exwife and children than she takes from you is complete disowning. They are history. Pay your child support, pay your alimony, but do not make her life easier by trying to be a part-time dad. The weekend that you paid thousands in legal fees for is your exwife's vacation, her new boyfriend fucking time, and a RP man does not enable that. A RP man does not engage in the bullshit involved with custody. He lets his wife take the kids, pays his court appointed shit, and lives his awesome life with a new woman and potentially a new family. He doesn't live out a sunk-cost fallacy.

If he lives a life worth being a part of, ideally his children will be curious as they become more independent. They will wonder if this man can be as horrible as their mom says, they don't have years of watching your exwife make you bend over backwards and walk on egg shells and memories of aborted visits and half-hearted birthdays a week late on your weekend. They'll realize their mother got a check every month, what did she do with it? Where is their car fund? Their college fund? Why did they spend all that time at grandmothers while their mom took trips with different men? If they call you and want to talk as they are growing up, talk. If they want to meet you for dinner then go to dinner. But you are not your exwive's speed-dial babysitter. You do not jeopardize everyone's future by following her around the country.

If a RP man loved his children he would save all those legal fees from the custody battle and put them away for his children when his exwife inevitably raises them to be a couple socioeconomic levels below where he ended up (assuming she didn't cash in them BBs). If a RP man loved his children he would save all that money he was going to spend to buy their love with and put it away too. Those presents that kids know do not make up for not being there, those trips they didn't want to go on, hours stewing in backseats. That way when his children grow up he can have no-strings-attached money to enable their future with.

"I know I wasn't your parent growing up, but I've always been your dad, and I've always loved you, you can hate me and resent me for the rest of our lives, but I hope you don't. I knew I couldn't be a good parent seeing you five percent of your childhood, I knew an ipad when you were 6 wouldn't make a difference in your life, and I know this money can now. My exwife stole my opportunity to be the parent I wanted to be, and it is unfortunate she and I didn't get along back then, but now you and I get to make our own decisions about our life together, without her, without your stepdad, without laywers and judges, and without fighting until I was too ruined to pay your child support that I never missed once. You never had to learn what a guardian ad litem is, and I'm thankful. I've included my phone number, if you want to talk, or cuss me out, or throw it away, I understand."

And you've done your paternal duty. And who fucking knows, maybe when the time comes you would rather spend the money with the woman who has stuck by you, on the kids you raised you raised yourself, on your own trip of a lifetime....

It is probably painfully obvious to the fathers here that I do not have children, or I couldn't have written such a thing. It is a father's duty to fight for his children during the divorce and raise them the best he can afterwards, whether it is every other weekend or joint custody. Which is it? Or is it case by case? If she is legit crazy should you fight for sole custody and raise them alone?